25 year old hitting on an 18 year old

[lillmango]

My little mango!

We should team up and replace the avengers

[Guardian7347]

Hello again! Miss me??

Well...as to the last post, I never got around to telling him. I hinted at it on facebook chat (I wanted to tell him in person) but I never came around to it because I haven't seen or heard from him in aaaages (ok that''s an exaggeration).

It's at this point I'm a little concerned. He's stopped trying to talk to me and doesn't call or text often. He has a pretty good reason: last week, he went through a massive rollercoaster moving and trying to find a new place and my life was kinda all over the place too with assessments being due and all and with too many long-time-no-see catch ups with friends. We didn't end up seeing each other at all as a result.This week, he's found a new place and is moving into it in the weekend and I'm really happy for him. He also had an another audition as well as more pressure from the show that he's currently rehearsing for (I would know, cos I just recently volunteered to pit sing for another show that's around the same time as his and the rehearsals are starting to heat up).

BUT...he won't take the time out to text me or talk to me, which kind of makes me upset.

I may seem like I'm over-analysing here and yeah that is a flaw of mine but something similar like this happened to my ex. He was all over me and then stopped contacting me like the way he used to and I'm afraid this is happening with my boyfriend now. I know I should be understanding but I'm really upset that he doesn't at least text me asking how I am. We're trying to make plans this weekend but he hasn't replied back to me suggestions...

I don't know what to do. Should I tell him? I feel like I've bugged him enough with my texts (I don't send too many, just asking him how his audition went or how moving went, general stuff...) but I'm his girlfriend and at the moment I don't feel like I have a boyfriend.

How often do you text him per day? Per week? How often is he responding to your texts? When is the last one you actually received from him? Exactly HOW different is this from what it was before? Part of it can be explained by his schedule, you know this. That's no excuse for him neglecting you, but make sure that's what is actually happening before you get too wound up, and it's not just symptomatic of your depression. Send him a text and ask him "so do I still have a bf or what? " It lets him know you're feeling neglected without being obnoxious. If he doesn't respond favorably to that within a reasonable time frame(give at least 12-18 hours depending on time of day), then you can start to worry about the implications. Until then, relax hon. Don't worry about what might be.....you'll spend all your time worrying.

[lillmango]

How often do you text him per day? Per week? How often is he responding to your texts? When is the last one you actually received from him? Exactly HOW different is this from what it was before? Part of it can be explained by his schedule, you know this. That's no excuse for him neglecting you, but make sure that's what is actually happening before you get too wound up, and it's not just symptomatic of your depression. Send him a text and ask him "so do I still have a bf or what? " It lets him know you're feeling neglected without being obnoxious. If he doesn't respond favorably to that within a reasonable time frame(give at least 12-18 hours depending on time of day), then you can start to worry about the implications. Until then, relax hon. Don't worry about what might be.....you'll spend all your time worrying.

He responds to texts probably about twenty minutes to an hour after I send them (sometimes longer - but at least he is replying to them). Last one I received was from last night and it was plans for this weekend to see each other (I'm feeling slightly happy knowing that I get to see him soon). He doesn't respond to messages I put on facebook for him however and he never talks on facebook like he used to before. My depression is gone (it occurs in like 3 day bouts at the moment which is a good sign - it used to last for weeks) so feeling neglected isn't anything to do with it. It's really the fact that he doesn't talk to me on facebook anymore that kind of bothers me, but it could be cos he's got me now so he doesn't feel the need to chase me.

I don't feel the need to send him that text cos we did arrange last night to meet up (he even agreed to go to a 50s rock n roll night thing at my church even though he protested at first so I guess I can't stay too mad at him) but yeah...

[Guardian7347]

Really? That's your complaint? He's not responding on FB like he used to?

BUT...he won't take the time out to text me or talk to me, which kind of makes me upset.

So which is it hon? Is he not talking to you, or is he just not talking as much as you'd like? If you hear from him every day, you have no complaints and just need to relax. If you're NOT hearing from him every day, then you probably STILL have no complaints, considering the scenario, but it's more likely at least. Take a deep breath and relax hon. It's not imperative to be up each other's back-side 24/7. If this is the worst you've got right now, you're in pretty good shape! lol

[lillmango]

I admit the facebook thing is unreasonable. It's more the fact that I am the one checking up on him and he's not asked for weeks how I am doing or whether I am ok. That's the thing that annoys me. I'm texting him asking how moving was or how an audition was or how he's doing in general to ensure he's not ripped his neck out with all the stress his got but he's not done anything to suggest he cares about my wellbeing. But otherwise you're right, I have to relax and be happy cos he is replying to my texts and isn't just leaving me dangling and I guess I have to just be understanding.

[Guardian7347]

I admit the facebook thing is unreasonable. It's more the fact that I am the one checking up on him and he's not asked for weeks how I am doing or whether I am ok. That's the thing that annoys me. I'm texting him asking how moving was or how an audition was or how he's doing in general to ensure he's not ripped his neck out with all the stress his got but he's not done anything to suggest he cares about my wellbeing. But otherwise you're right, I have to relax and be happy cos he is replying to my texts and isn't just leaving me dangling and I guess I have to just be understanding.

To be honest, he's not likely to ask those things hon. As a guy, we often have this "default programming" when we talk to you every day. This default programming says that if something is wrong, you'll tell us about it. After all, you tell us all about the girls at the nail salon, the chick who pissed you off at the grocery store, and that annoying bitch at your work who is two-faced and talks about you to everyone else but is friendly to your face. You tell us in great detail what you had for lunch and what you thought of each piece of your meal. You tell us the excrutiating minutia of your drive home, so why wouldn't you just tell us if something was bothering you? Of course I exaggerate, but do you see my point? Otherwise, we just assume everything is still good. That's how we talk with our friends. We assume it's all good until he says "Let me tell you about MY day!"
Just relax some hon. He's demonstrating that he cares by talking to you so much. How long is his schedule going to be this hectic? Will there be a lot more time when things slow down or will he stay consistently busy? It sounds like what you really need is some face time with him. To be close to him and feel like he cares again.

[gargoylegoil]

I kind of agree with you a bit Guard.....My man listens to me while I gripe about my day, then it's HIS turn. He gripes more than any woman though. He's not happy at his job, but I deal with it, as long as he lets and LISTENS to me gripe.

[lillmango]

Ahhhh you're both probably right. My frustrations probably mostly stem from not seeing him in a while and definitely needing that time with him. Funnily enough, about an hour after I posted that, he sent me a text saying, "Hey gorgeous. I'm not moving this weekend so I'm all yours for Sunday and Monday (if you want me)." So he's really confirming everything both of you just said. Though I didn't know about the default programming so kudos to that, Guardian. As to the time thing, he's a full-time lawyer so he's ultra busy (sometimes on weekends too) and both of us are performers so we tend to always have SOMETHING performance-related to do (we did meet each other in a show after all). For him, he's got a show coming up in July as well as rehearsals for another one coming up in August I think and for me, I'm pit singing for another show at the end of this month, undertaking an acting course and doing a singing exam in August. So we're both really busy. This stuff's really important to both of us and we both understand how it takes up a lot of time and I got a feeling it's not gonna change anytime soon. He doesn't have a lot of time at the moment because of all the moving but once that's over and done with, we'll be able to spend more time with each other

[Guardian7347]

I kind of agree with you a bit Guard.....My man listens to me while I gripe about my day, then it's HIS turn. He gripes more than any woman though. He's not happy at his job, but I deal with it, as long as he lets and LISTENS to me gripe.

but you know what? That's healthy! You both get to vent by just griping about your day. After that, you KNOW what's bothering him and vice versa if he happens to be acting a little bitchier than usual. Plus, you're not transferring that irritation onto your partner. Kudos.

[Guardian7347]

Ahhhh you're both probably right. My frustrations probably mostly stem from not seeing him in a while and definitely needing that time with him. Funnily enough, about an hour after I posted that, he sent me a text saying, "Hey gorgeous. I'm not moving this weekend so I'm all yours for Sunday and Monday (if you want me)." So he's really confirming everything both of you just said. Though I didn't know about the default programming so kudos to that, Guardian. As to the time thing, he's a full-time lawyer so he's ultra busy (sometimes on weekends too) and both of us are performers so we tend to always have SOMETHING performance-related to do (we did meet each other in a show after all). For him, he's got a show coming up in July as well as rehearsals for another one coming up in August I think and for me, I'm pit singing for another show at the end of this month, undertaking an acting course and doing a singing exam in August. So we're both really busy. This stuff's really important to both of us and we both understand how it takes up a lot of time and I got a feeling it's not gonna change anytime soon. He doesn't have a lot of time at the moment because of all the moving but once that's over and done with, we'll be able to spend more time with each other

Wow! That's a lot! Yeah, you're definitely going to have to be ok with NOT spending tons of time together from the sounds of it, and I think it will get easier with time. As you grow more confident in your relationship, you'll worry less about not seeing as much of him, or him not fb'ing you enough, etc. I'm really glad he texted you that comment. That's awesome. Just settle back, relax, and enjoy the ride hon. Lawyer? That actually explains a lot about him. And he'll definitely be one to assume everything is good unless you tell him otherwise.

[gargoylegoil]

I kind of agree with you a bit Guard.....My man listens to me while I gripe about my day, then it's HIS turn. He gripes more than any woman though. He's not happy at his job, but I deal with it, as long as he lets and LISTENS to me gripe.

but you know what? That's healthy! You both get to vent by just griping about your day. After that, you KNOW what's bothering him and vice versa if he happens to be acting a little bitchier than usual. Plus, you're not transferring that irritation onto your partner. Kudos.

[Justified]

Congrats on you both now being in a relationship.

[lillmango]

Thanks Justified

Hey...things are working out well at the moment. I've even slept with him for the first time (seems really early but I was sure that I wanted to this time). It was good. It didn't even hurt and I felt it strengthened our relationship. I got a feeling some of you may think it's a little early.

I'm just wondering whether or not I need to take a pregnancy test. We didn't use protection although he was wearing underwear. He says not to worry about it but should a person take one regardless whether or not they had protection?

[Guardian7347]

Thanks Justified

Hey...things are working out well at the moment. I've even slept with him for the first time (seems really early but I was sure that I wanted to this time). It was good. It didn't even hurt and I felt it strengthened our relationship. I got a feeling some of you may think it's a little early.

I'm just wondering whether or not I need to take a pregnancy test. We didn't use protection although he was wearing underwear. He says not to worry about it but should a person take one regardless whether or not they had protection?

Aaaaaand here's where I get confused. I'm not sure I understand how you had sex with his underwear on.

Whether you choose to have sex with him or not, and when you choose to do so is YOUR choice, no one else's, so I'll keep my views to myself.

Honey, if you're going to have sex, make him be responsible. Use protection EVERY time!! Not just sometimes, not when you think you may be ovulating, but EVERY TIME! I don't care if he says don't worry about it, I don't care if he says he's going to love you forever, I don't care if he told you that you make him feel like no woman has ever made him feel before. Protection, protection, protection! No protection, no sex. Period. I know you don't see the need to, but a pregnancy right now would NOT be in your best interests. Don't get so wrapped up in being in love that you shut off your common sense please!

As for the pregnancy test...let it ride for now. If you miss your next period, then you may want to do that. Until then, there's not much point to it just yet.

[lillmango]

Ahhh it's a little complicated and I don't want to go into specifics about how it was or wasn't sex...but thanks for the advice about protection. I'll make sure he uses a condom everytime from now on.

[Guardian7347]

Ahhh it's a little complicated and I don't want to go into specifics about how it was or wasn't sex...but thanks for the advice about protection. I'll make sure he uses a condom everytime from now on.

lol Fair enough! I wasn't looking for the gory details anyway. Just be careful, ok?

[lillmango]

Hey! Sorry I didn't reply to the last post. It's been a while since I've been on here. WE'VE DEFINITELY BEEN MORE CAREFUL SINCE THE FIRST TIME SO NO MORE FRETS ON THAT!

Update for this post is: HE'S MOVING AGAIN! I'm a little bit concerned about this as his attitude was so different when he was in the process of moving last time and it was really hard on me. I had patience first time but this time it's gonna be longer. He and another friend of mine have agreed to move in together but they're not sure where. The up-side is that I know for sure that he's gonna be living closer to me (my other friend lives only 10 minutes away and prefers to stay within the area).

Another update is: I don't know whether we're really satisfying each other's needs. For me, it's emotional needs (I guess I'm a girl, it's difficult for a man to really understand these) and I've become more like a snail around him these days. I let him talk, ask questions occassionally and probably jot in a small comment but I don't really talk as much as I used to around him. He talks a lot more than I do. AND lately, in the bedroom, he doesn't climax so easily. I know I said I didn't want to get into details but this bothers me a lot because it makes me feel inadequate. He sometimes has to finish himself off, which just makes me feel crap. He's my first and he's been with other girls before so I can sort of understand but he keeps saying he's having a good time. I'm confused.

What can I do?

We're not gonna have sex for ages since he's moving and stuff.

[Guardian7347]

Good. Glad to hear you're being more careful. Now consider getting on some form of birth control yourself. Condoms are a good thing, but they do have a measurable failure rate. I know parents who can testify to that. You have a few different forms of the the pill, you have a three month shot(depo-provera[sp?]), and a stint are all options for you to consider, and several can be done at clinics for a very low fee. I like the depo shot personally. You only have to remember to go get your shot once every three months, no daily pill, and it's pretty cheap. Whatever your choice, it's a good idea to use this as your primary form of BC and condoms as a secondary "just to be sure" measure.
Other than telling you to just remind yourself that he'll be living closer to you, I'm afraid I don't have anything for you regarding the move. Just try to be patient and make sure you remind him to make time for you as much as possible in order to help you keep your peace of mind. Have you talked to him yet about your depression? It might not be a bad idea to bring it up and talk to him about it if you haven't already. That way he knows it may pop up during this move and he isn't surprised by it if it does.
Communicate honey. If you need more time just being held or being loved other than during sex, tell him. Typically, guys suck at this part of it. As a general rule, men and women don't have sex together. Women make love while guys fuck. I say that to demonstrate the gap in perception between the sexes. Women generally are far more emotionally involved in the act than men are.
First and foremost hon......DO NOT take it personally! I can tell you with ABSOLUTE certainty that it has NOTHING to do with you! I assure you he still desires you every bit as much as he did when he was fighting to get into your panties in the first place hon. It's natural for a man to not climax as quickly as a relationship progresses. It's exercise. The more you do it, the greater your stamina. As for him finishing himself off, I can only extrapolate that maybe after years of masturbating, he has a specific way of stimulating himself that gets him off. Another consideration is maybe he has a particular fetish that satisfies him,and he can't get that from traditional sex. Again, just a thought. My advice to you hon.....communicate. Talk to him about this and find out why, and see if maybe there is something you can do to help him out. Whatever you do though, DO NOT take this in any way as an indication that you are inadequate in any way. I promise you that is not the case. Above all else, relax sweetheart, and enjoy the ride!

[lillmango]

OMFG. I don't know whether I'm hormonal, I know it's not PMS (I had my period about two weeks ago) or it's the depression kicking in again but I've been getting more and more annoyed at him lately. It happened ever since I helped him move on Monday and I'm starting to see all the negative sides to him. I started having a small crush on a guy during the season of my last show. He's gay so nothing's going to happen and I wasn't planning on anything happening even when I started having feelings for him. I told my boyfriend I wanted to see him before I watched him perform and he said sure but has not replied back ever since. He then texted back a couple minutes ago saying he may not make it cos he may have an audition and it just got me even more upset, cos he would put an audition before me.

Ever since his show opened, I've just been more paranoid and jealous than ever. Partly because his ex is also in the show and she's obviously not over him. I've been ok in the past but at the moment I'm not handling it all that well. I'm also gonna be auditioning for a show that the guy I have a crush on is directing and I'm afraid it would pull me away from my boyfriend (I'm not auditioning because he's directing it but because I genuinely like the show).

I'm just going a little bit wild at the moment and I either need someone to knock me in the head and tell me to calm down or to confirm my paranoia.

[Guardian7347]

You're not being paranoid...or at least not any more paranoid than any other woman. That said, I wouldn't worry about the ex. Just because she's there doesn't mean he'll go back to her, or do anything with her, just because she's there. You have to trust in your bf until he gives you reason not to. That doesn't mean I'm advocating blind faith though. If his behavior reflects some shady behavior, then you have every right to ask questions, but until then, sideline the suspicions and just relax hon.
One thing you have to keep in mind sweetheart. He is now, who he was when you met him. The fact that he may not come over due to an audition doesn't seem out of the ordinary for him. The whole time you two have been together, the time you spent together has been dictated by his schedule. It is unfair for you to only now be upset by this behavior when it is in keeping with who he has been. On the other hand, if you wish to be upset by the fact that you get so little of his time, then you would be absolutely within your rights to do so. Just remember that you're getting upset with him for doing the same things now that he did before. It sounds like you're feeling neglected and taken for granted. Maybe that's why you're feeling attracted to a man you know nothing can come of? No danger of it going anywhere, but you get an outlet for the bottled emotions you have.
What happened monday? What caused you to start seeing him in this different light? What negative sides are you referring to? It sounds as if the rosiness of the relationship has faded away, and reality is setting in. Once the initial blush is gone, the question that remains is this: Is this someone I really want to be with? Do yourself a favor hon. Really think about my advice. Are you having fun? Do you like the direction things seem to be going? Is this the direction you want to be heading? If you're no longer having fun, then you have two options. One, communicate. If you feel this is worth salvaging, talk to him and let him know you aren't happy with being his china doll up on a shelf that he takes down and plays with when it suits him. You're other option is to turn and walk away. If you're not having fun anymore, then what is being gained by staying with him? If he is who he was before, then what change can you expect of him? More importantly, is it fair to ask him to change who he is because you didn't understand this about him before? Really think about it, then do something. There is no absolute right answers in life, and the only wrong choice is to suffer in silence instead of acting to improve your situation.

[lillmango]

Another little update: he and I broke up.

He did it. He didn't think we were heading anywhere and it was better if we broke up. I kinda felt the same way but I was a lot more attached to him than he was to me. It came as a huge shock cos everything was really good.

So I guess that's the end of this thread.

I'm holding up but I'm still really upset. I know though that everything's going to be ok in the end and (thankfully), my identity wasn't so defined by him. I will get over him and meet someone else but not just yet. I need time.

Thank you to all of you for being there through this rollercoaster. Reading back, this thread has sort of been like a soap opera but man am I thankful for all of your advice and wisdom.

'til the next boyfriend! x

[Guardian7347]

You know hon.....you don't HAVE to have an issue to come here and talk with us.

[lillmango]

Yay a new vent zone

OK so I need to get this off my back and keep in mind that I'm tired, stressed, sick and it's late at night so I may not be in the right state of mind. I'm saying this before I write an apology post the next morning.

Ever since I started going out with this dude, I barely had any support from my Christian friends. Some bashed me completely, some interrogated me, some tried to talk me out of it (these are the nicer ones cos I knew they cared about me) but otherwise, I've never had any real support from them. When it came to the relationship, I turned to my non-Christian friends, who were comforting and helped me see perspective (and they were the ones devastated when the relationship ended - not holding smug smiles that silently said, "Told you so.") Sure, part of the reason of the break-up was cos of the clashing beliefs (I can't really let go of my beliefs, they're kind of engraved into my soul and he knew that) and he said, "I know that deep down inside, you want someone with the same beliefs." I honestly replied back with, "I don't."

The truth: I don't.

I have a colourful background with Christians. My Christian friends are all types: Catholic, Baptists, Seventh-Day Adventists, Pentecostal, Methodists, Presbyterians, Anglicans plus more. I tend to hang around the Pentecostal but I prefer to not associate myself with any branch. As being a part of a non-Christian background, I never fit in properly nor do I intend to. I like having this non-Christian side and I can talk to my non-Christian friends more freely. To this day, I have not admitted to any of my Christian friends that I have had sex cos I got a feeling they are gonna force me into a confession booth (not really...just judge me a lot) and I don't want to lose them as friends.

And in terms of relationships, well, I have different expectations to what Christians have. Sure, somewhere inside I want them to love Christ so I can share this side of my life with them but then there's stuff like sex.

And with guys, let's say that I've been hurt by Christian guys more than non-Christian. First boyfriend was an on-and-off relationship for four years which led to anxiety which sparked a deep depression which I still struggle with. I've been cyber-bullied numerous times by several Christian guys and at one point was scared to pick up my phone because of one boy who was highly obsessed with me and kept sending threatening texts. And even when I entered into my current church and found a lot more love and acceptance, the boys there either did nothing for me or thought they were too good for me (which admittedly was better than my last company but made me realise how this was not the company I wanted to spend the rest of my life with). Only one boy did something for me (best friend for such a long time) but he ended up being a misogynistic prick, scammed hundreds of dollars off people and I caught him attempting to steal from me.

So you see why I'm turned off by Christian guys. I don't regret going out with my last boyfriend. He was a gentleman and I liked how he was mature and knew how to treat a girl. Given I haven't gotten over him yet, I reckon I would continue this trend of dating guys who are more mature AND non-Christian. Not saying I won't date Christians but it would take a very special Christian man to steal my heart.

[Guardian7347]

lol Nothing to apologize for sweetheart. You're allowed to speak freely, even if your thoughts are only what they are due to sleep deprivation, anger or hurt feelings. You don't have to justify them.

I understand how, with your track record, you wouldn't necessarily be quick to want to date another Christian male, and that's perfectly understandable. There is, unfortunately, a habit of being judgmental amongst many Christians, in spite of their teachings....but I digress. My question is this. Have you tried dating older, more mature Christian men? Guys in your age bracket(Christian or otherwise) aren't exactly known for their maturity.

Regardless of who you decide to date, remember this. After a relationship, it's important that you take the time to "refocus" on yourself, figure out where you are and what you want before you go jumping into another relationship. Take your time and take care of yourself hon, guys aren't going anywhere.

[gargoylegoil]

I'm curious as to why you would want to have friends that will judge you. Judgement is not a good trait for anyone, especially friends.

[lillmango]

I'm curious as to why you would want to have friends that will judge you. Judgement is not a good trait for anyone, especially friends.

They're there by default. I left high school last year and they were my friends for years. Things changed; I've changed, they've (to a certain extent) changed but I can't exactly shrug 'em off. Some part of me doesn't want them as friends anymore but another part holds on (the one that has held onto them for many years). Not all of them are, but they hang out in the same circle so I'm bound to still be in contact with the ones that are. You're right, judgement is not a good trait for a friend and I'm trying to steer clear of them cos I know they're just poison to me but I end up running into them anyways.

[lillmango]

Hey, what should I do? I'm completely, one hundred per cent over my ex and I'm certain of it. I want to be friends again with him. I've texted him but I haven't got a reply and I got a feeling he's still keeping his distant in fear I'm not over him. What should I do? I hate that I've lost a friend but I know I can't push this on him.

[gargoylegoil]

Hey, what should I do? I'm completely, one hundred per cent over my ex and I'm certain of it. I want to be friends again with him. I've texted him but I haven't got a reply and I got a feeling he's still keeping his distant in fear I'm not over him. What should I do? I hate that I've lost a friend but I know I can't push this on him.

Let him breathe. If he wants to be friends let him come to you. You already texted him once, that's the olive branch, now move on. Good Luck.

[Guardian7347]

Hey, what should I do? I'm completely, one hundred per cent over my ex and I'm certain of it. I want to be friends again with him. I've texted him but I haven't got a reply and I got a feeling he's still keeping his distant in fear I'm not over him. What should I do? I hate that I've lost a friend but I know I can't push this on him.

Let him breathe. If he wants to be friends let him come to you. You already texted him once, that's the olive branch, now move on. Good Luck.

Yep. What GG said.

[lillmango]

OK there is something really wrong with me. I keep on having these mood swings. Sometimes I lapse and I feel angry and hurt about my ex when I'm low but other times I don't, I get upset about other crap in my life. It makes me question if I'm really over him but then I check how I react to facebook posts about him, photos, etc. and I have this empty/indifferent feeling. I'm slightly confused. My body is also feeling slightly funny. I had nausea for about three weeks, my period hasn't come, my stomach cramps but I know I'm not pregnant. Reason why: I took a pregnancy test to make sure and it came out negative and I had an ultrasound (for a physical test for dance, NOT because I thought I was pregnant). Any thoughts or suggestions??

[Guardian7347]

So....any update on your physical status? Are you still having the same issues?

Emotional rollercoasters after a relationship are normal. You can be ok with being single, and still experience some anger and hostility towards them from time to time. It's part of the grieving process. Just like when someone close to you dies, and you find yourself getting angry with them for dying on you, sometimes you still get angry with your ex for no longer being there. The difference is, your anger with the ex is far more justified than your anger with a dead loved one.

[sayuri]

I don't know what to do. Should I tell him? I feel like I've bugged him enough with my texts (I don't send too many, just asking him how his audition went or how moving went, general stuff...) but I'm his girlfriend and at the moment I don't feel like I have a boyfriend.

From my understandings on this thread, you guys had a romance that heated up right??? Well maybe, in a sense, Like a flame, maybe it just burnt itself out?? Whatcha need to do honey is try to talk to him... Maybe call him post rehearsal. See why he hasnt text messaged you back. If he gives you an excuse but then goes back to ignoring your text then therein lies your answer... Communication is key... And remember that if he doesnt wanna make time for you, then he doesn't deserve you, and there's always someone who will deserve you C'est la vie!
~Sayu Chan

[Dngr1]

OK there is something really wrong with me. I keep on having these mood swings. Sometimes I lapse and I feel angry and hurt about my ex when I'm low but other times I don't, I get upset about other crap in my life. It makes me question if I'm really over him but then I check how I react to facebook posts about him, photos, etc. and I have this empty/indifferent feeling. I'm slightly confused. My body is also feeling slightly funny. I had nausea for about three weeks, my period hasn't come, my stomach cramps but I know I'm not pregnant. Reason why: I took a pregnancy test to make sure and it came out negative and I had an ultrasound (for a physical test for dance, NOT because I thought I was pregnant). Any thoughts or suggestions??

Chek out Durianriders for health advice lilmango. He will shok your world, depression is 99% from a physiological cause.