Please help.

by **nevilleconnie** on Mon Jun 18, 2012 6:09 pm

Okay...well...I really don't know how to say this so as to not freak everyone out so...I'm just gonna get right to the point here. I'm in a long distance relationship with someone who is 30 years older than me. I'm 23 and he's 53. So okay. If that didn't turn you off and you're not freaked out and still reading...thank you. So as you can imagine..things are tough for us. But you see...there's more than just the differences in our age here. He has also been married once before and has a daughter who just turned 16. His daughter lives with the mom in N.O and he lives in Georgia. I live in Florida. We live about 11 hours away from each other. We had known each other for awhile on Twitter and I actually started to like him even before he mentioned liking me. We got together when, one night on Twitter, I was saying how I felt lonely and would love to find my soulmate. That's when he said, "It's a shame about our age difference. I would date you." And I remember getting this feeling of joy. But...I didn't know if he was joking and I didn't want to freak him out or anything so I just replied with "Yeah...that is a shame. :/" And that's when he asked. "Well...would you go out with me?" I remember asking him if he was kidding. And he said "No. I'm completely serious." And I agreed. Oh! And I knew how old he was before this night took place! And than he told me, "You know how old I am right?" And he told me "I'm 53" Which I already knew. And yeah...we stayed up until after 5 in the morning that night talking. I knew from the onset there was a strong connection. The next day I told my mom I had a boyfriend and I met him online. Of course she wanted to know about him...and I told her most about him...accept his age. :/ I told her he was 5 years older than me. A couple nights later I was laying in bed thinking. And I came to the rash decision that this would never work between us. So I sent him an email saying that I couldn't do this. He was sad. And it hurt me so much to know I hurt him. But we agreed to remain friends. We than started to message each other on Yahoo. I told him that I was fine talking about anything. *Clears throat* I kinda wanted him to talk dirty to me. He seemed to catch on but wanted to make sure. I said it was fine. That night...reading those things he typed. My God!! It was amazing! Than he had asked if I would be willing to be with him just sexually. In the heat of the moment...I said yes. But that night I started thinking too much again and decided that it wouldn't be 'right'. And I sent him an email the next morning. I told him I would still like to be friends with him if he didn't mind. And I was okay with the dirty talk...but that's all it would be. No acting on it. He agreed. So for awhile that's what we did. But than...I felt this was wrong. Talking like this if nothing was to ever come of it. So...I told him that. He told me it was okay. But I felt really bad and decided that I needed to take a break from Twitter and him for awhile. After my Twitter break we started talking again...and he confessed to me that he loves me. I was at a loss of words. By the way...I've never had a boyfriend before him and I haven't even had my first kiss yet. So I was kinda stunned to hear him say that. He told me that it was okay that I didn't feel the same, but he just wanted to let me know. After while...I couldn't take him not talking dirty to me! In the end I told him I wanted him to talk to me that way. And he did. As the months when on...I just..started to look forward to messaging him and him messaging me. I...I had fallen in love with him. So...that's how we came to be. By the way....I'm sorry this is so long...but..I need to talk about this with someone! A few months ago..I told my mom his real age. She wasn't pleased of course. Not at all. But...even though she's still not happy...I think she's less angry about it now. Now my dad? I haven't mentioned anything to. I know he would throw a fit! My dad has a very short temper and I know he wouldn't approve.

So my family is a big factor in this. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend says he understand and is not gonna pressure me into making a choice. But...It's so difficult! Than...there's other problems. The distance obviously. He can't afford to come see me. And I don't have the money either. He's always telling me how he's broke cause of money he has to give to his ex wife for child support. And about his ex. He talk a lot about her. All bad stuff mainly. But still. And he talks about past sexual encounters with her and other ex girlfriends. I mean...I'm I wrong to not want to hear about that stuff? We voice/video call often on Yahoo but...lately I've been wanting more. We haven't met yet and I really want to. Ultimately...the advice I need is...what do I do!? How can I make my family understand? Oh yeah...and he's never sent my anything in the mail since we've been together.

I've sent him things though. But he's always telling me how he's completely broke. I don't know what to do!! Please...if you read this whole thing you're are the greatest! I just want to talk to someone about this.

by **sayuri** on Tue Jun 19, 2012 4:05 pm

Okay so i am gonna be completely honest here in saying with a thirty year age difference, do you guys have ANYTHING in common besides dirty talk? And second of all your family might not like him, but is he dating your family? NO. Plus your family is going to have their opinions , that's a given as they only have you in mind. My advice is just to think about things for yourself and consider things like distance and whatnot.

by **nevilleconnie** on Tue Jun 19, 2012 5:41 pm

Thank you for answering. And yes. Of course we have more in common. I'm not gonna say we have everything in common. No couple agrees and likes all the same things. And yes, with the age difference there's less we have in common than the normal couple. But I really do love him. And he really is the sweetest guy. And I was thinking of going to visit him in August on my Birthday (That would be the greatest gift. To be with him.) But my mom doesn't like the idea at all. And I couldn't tell my dad the truth about who I was going to see. Than again...I would honestly prefer if he would come here to visit me first. I know he doesn't have the money, but I'd be willing to pay for him to come here. Is it wrong that I want him to come here as oppose to me going there first? My mom also says she would much rather prefer him coming here.

by **BLUE** on Tue Jun 19, 2012 5:50 pm

Have him come and see you first. Send him the money and see what happens...yes you are testing him but I think you may need to. Have your mom meet him first. See how you guys are together on person and then go from there. It works better this way with your dad too. Honesty is best but there is no sense in putting him, you and everyone through drama if you don't need to. Yes I am a bit concerned over the whole thing but not the age difference. Let him be a gentleman and come to you. Please do not go there. It is just easier this way ok?

by **nevilleconnie** on Tue Jun 19, 2012 6:22 pm

Thank you Blue for your advice. Yes. I do feel it would be best if he came here first. But like you said, that would be 'testing him'. I mean...I love the guy. And that should mean I trust him right? And about him meeting me mom...I would like that. But I'm also scared at the same time. As for my dad...I get sick just thinking about what his reaction would be. I just hope if I pay for him to come here for 2 or 3 days he will. And he can't use the excuse that he can't get the time off of work. Cause whenever we talk he say's if I ever came to see him he would take time off from work. So he should be able to do the same thing if he comes here. But anyway...thank you again for your advice.

by **BLUE** on Tue Jun 19, 2012 6:52 pm

There are some people who are totally different in person than they are online, whether they do it on purpose or not. IF he wants to be with you, he will come to see you. If not then I would question his motives. Your first relationship is with a man who is not near you. Be Careful! Hips for the best but be prepared for the worst. Take care of yourself :hugs:

by **nevilleconnie** on Tue Jun 19, 2012 6:58 pm

Aww! Thanks soo much Blue! :hugs:

by **nevilleconnie** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 10:40 am

So I told my mom that I wouldn't go to see him and I will ask him if he could come here. But I also told her that I really want her to meet him one of the days that he's here. She told me absolutely not.

I just don't know what to do!! I'm trying to do things right. It's just every time I bring up this line of conversation with her she ignores it or gets mad. Everybody always says how your parents want to know how your feeling and such, but she refuses to hear about how I feel about him and my point of view. I understand her concerns. I'm willing to listen to HER viewpoints, but she's just not willing to listen to mine. I guess now I know where I got my stubbornness from. So what now? What if I can't convince her to meet him?

by **BLUE** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 1:59 pm

Ok hon I am online

by **BLUE** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 2:03 pm

You have to put yourself in your moms shoes

23 ...never been kissed or had a bf (why is that?) ...now you have a 53 year old man after My daughter. This is now your moms face :yikes

by **BLUE** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 2:14 pm

Technically you are an adult but yes even I am a little suspicious of this guy. I am not saying you are not in love but is it hormones?? Are you telling me Everything?? Most 23 year olds are not asking me questions like this. So please I need All of the details. Whatever you decide is up to you But please Do Not meet him alone. You are an adult so speak with your mom as an adult. I imagine She has as many red flags going up.as I do.

*very concerned*

by **nevilleconnie** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 2:32 pm

Hi Blue. And yes. I am telling you everything. When me and him talk, whenever he talks about us meeting he usually suggests his place. I told him that maybe he should talk to my mom on the phone once and he said he doesn't think that would change anything. He believes that my family will never by okay with this. He tells me he understands that they are looking out for me and all. And um...well...probably the first time I meet him will be alone. I believe over the course of our friendship and relationship I've gotten to know him so well. I really do trust him. And um..as for never having had a boyfriend before...I don't know. I'm just really, really shy. And I told him when we meet I'd probably be shy at first. He always tells me how I'm beautiful and how all the guys must be idiots where I live to not notice me. He tells me sometimes that he would understand if I wanted someone younger. He's always so kind and understanding. And I know what my mom is feeling. Like I said, I get that. But it's like how I feel about him doesn't matter to her at all. I don't believe it's hormones. I find it extremely difficult to trust people. And I've only loved one other boy before him (I think) But nothing came of that cause I never said anything. My issues with trust stems from being emotionally bullied in the 5th grade. So yeah...other than that...

by **BLUE** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 2:38 pm

DON'T YOU DARE MEET HIM ALONE!!

I am now going to pm you and explain why ok? :hugs:

sorry for the yelling

by **BLUE** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 3:03 pm

*teases* I can't believe you made me yell. I don't yell. I may may become fangy or even growl But I never yell.

I'm Blue 8-)

by **nevilleconnie** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 3:19 pm

Thank you Blue. I understand. But the thing is...I don't have any friends

And if my mom doesn't agree to meet him, than what?

And another thing....what if I make him sad/mad when I tell him I want to meet him for the first time with someone else with me? What if he than thinks I don't trust or love him because of that? And I read your PM. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. You are so, so nice and sweet! You deserve great happiness! :hugs:

by **BLUE** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 3:22 pm

If he truly loves you then he will understand. If he doesn't, then You need to be concerned. If he loves you he would go through leaps and bounds trying to be with you and make you comfortable. Not make you feel bad. Understand?

by **nevilleconnie** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 4:04 pm

Yes. I do. Well....I'm gonna have to postpone things. I won't have enough money for him to come see me in August. And that's another thing my mom doesn't like. That I would be paying for him to come here. But he doesn't have the money himself to spend to come down here. Like I said, a lot of his money goes for child support and such.

by **BLUE** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 5:00 pm

You tell me that I deserve the best. What makes you think that you don't? You are a treasure and your mom knows this. Now I just have to get you to believe that. You have done things for him and proved your love for him. Now it is his turn. He, at the very least, even if he didn't think it would change your moms mind, talk to her. He needs to show his intentions. He has Told you all sorts of things. Now he needs to Show you.

by **nevilleconnie** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 5:19 pm

Yes. When the time comes I'll tell him that I want him to come here to visit me before I go there to visit him. I'll see how he reacts to that. Than I'll tell him I want my mom to be there the first time we meet. I'll see how he reacts to that. Hopefully he loves me enough to understand where I'm coming from here. And if he doesn't agree to these things...do I...end it?

by **BLUE** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 5:31 pm

The things you are asking of him are not out of the question. I am proud of you.

You are bring open and honest with your heart and your head. Wait and see how he reacts. See how you feel about him then. Then make your decision. I am here if you need me sweet girl :hugs:

Blue

by **nevilleconnie** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 5:37 pm

Thank you so much Blue. :hugs:

I guess I'll see how things go from here. One step at a time I guess.

by **BLUE** on Wed Jun 20, 2012 5:50 pm

Nothing is better than love my dear but it can make the head fuzzy at times. Remember...Hope for the best...Prepare for the worst.

:hugs:

by **nevilleconnie** on Thu Jun 21, 2012 1:40 pm

Yeah. I just talked to him last night. He's on his way home from N.O. He was there visiting his daughter for her Birthday. He said if he had an extra $500 he'd come to see me. So I told him if I had the money to give him he'd come down here? He said yes, but he would rather me go up there. He said that way we wouldn't have to worry about being interrupted. I told him we wouldn't have to worry about that. I didn't tell him yet that the first time we meet would HAVE to be here. Or that someone (my mom) Would be present for the first time. I mean...I figure I'll wait till I have the money saved to do that.

by **BLUE** on Thu Jun 21, 2012 2:19 pm

Interrupted doing what?? No....No. Don't do it. Wow this guy is throwing all sorts of red flags up at you. Best case= He loves you and just wants to be with you. Worst case= You go and see him. Have sex with him and now he is all done with you. You go home crying...and this is barring all the horrific chopped up into little pieces pics in my head.

I think for right now you handled it very well

You have time to feel him out and work with you want to do in. What You are comfortable with.

Ok...This is how it now goes in my world....He calls and speaks many many times with not only you but your mom. It may take some time but little by little she could get an idea of what he is all about. Then when everyone is comfy you have him come down and stay. Meeting with you and your mom for an afternoon. Then you go from there. Nev honey he has a daughter. How would he Truly feel if this was her. As a father and a man he Should understand. Your mom is just trying to keep you safe.

How exactly meet him on Twitter?? Please forgive I do no tweet. Oh and before I forget...my sister and her husband are 17 years apart (she is younger). You are such a sweetie

I know you are shy but there are no nice girls around you at home to be friends with??? ...or guy friends for that matter? I don't like seeing nice people be friendless. It's just not right.

by **nevilleconnie** on Thu Jun 21, 2012 4:23 pm

Um...well as far as the interrupted doing what part goes...uh...like being together I guess. I told him that I don't go out much. And never really go anywhere on my own. So my parents always ask me many questions when I do. Oh...I live at home in case I didn't mention that. So yeah...and my mom knows he has a daughter and she say's the first thing she's gonna ask him when she meets him is how would you feel if this were your daughter. Maybe I could try to convince them to talk on the phone to each other. But the last time I brought it up to him he kinda avoided the conversation. And I met him on twitter because I followed him or he followed me. That means you can see their messages and such. So yeah...he was always really nice. Replying to what I would say. And he seemed to generally care. Like even if my messages were boring and stupid. Like one time I said I had an earache. He told me to go to the doctor. I told him I couldn't and than he started giving me all this advice for how to treat it. But yeah...he was genuine with his concern. So we just got to know each other that way. And as far as the friends thing goes well...I've had friends in school before but...they all let me down, let's just put it that way. I don't have any luck with friends. It's funny cause the friends I use to have would tell me that I'm too nice and I let people walk all over me...but in the end they did the exact same thing.

But yeah...as far as everything else is concerned, I'll bring up the talking on the phone thing a couple weeks before he comes to visit. If he does. I really, really hope if I save the money up he won't say he can't for some reason. Thanks Blue. You really are the sweetest. :hugs:

by **Vulcanoid** on Fri Jun 22, 2012 2:20 am

You're young. 23 years old. He's old, 53 years old. Why in the world do you think he's up for a serious relationship?
OH i know these kind of people all too well and i can ALREADY say he just wants to regulate you and keep you as a cheap sex partner.
Why don't you find someone your or around your age? Someone you could marry and have kids with?
You got seduced by his sweet sweet words (filled with experience) and done, you felt in love.
He immediately asked you if you would have sex with him. What does that tell you? He's old, he wants cheap sex.
Now, i won't tell you what to do and i don't expect you to take my advice, but all he's looking for is sex.
Again, you're young. At 23 years old you have ALL your life in front of you. Why would you fall for an old man looking to satisfy his needs? It actually makes me sad

. Why would you waste yourself for an old man? He'll be happy alright, but after he's done with you, how would YOU feel?
To all of you saying he's not just looking for sex, you're wrong. The very fact that he's alone, on Twitter and chasing young girls are a proof.
I bet, nevilleconnie, that you're not the first he managed to talk into sex.
Take my advice and cut this friendship. I just hope you won't regret your decisions.

Geez this rustled my jimmies.

Edit: Oh god, i'm really happy i decided to go through the comments!

So I told him if I had the money to give him he'd come down here? He said yes, but he would rather me go up there. He said that way we wouldn't have to worry about being interrupted.

Do you realize what this is? Interrupted from what? Sex of course. He's a coward and he wants to regulate you. He said it himself. He would rather have you go there than him meeting your parents.

Worst case= You go and see him. Have sex with him and now he is all done with you. You go home crying...and this is barring all the horrific chopped up into little pieces pics in my head.

BLUE, the worst part is that this IS the case. Trust me i know these kind of people and i know what are they up to. Don't go on your own to his place. You'll regret it.

I have a question for you, nevilleconnie. Is he the only man in your life? You seem to have fallen in love way too early and way too easily. You're making a huge mistake trusting this guy. I wish you would read this comment and think really hard. He IS the typical sex predator on the internet. Chances are he's a pedophile as well and tricked lots of girls before you. Oh course he wouldn't tell you that. Why would he? He isn't stupid.

by **nevilleconnie** on Fri Jun 22, 2012 6:42 am

Vulcanoid- Oh gosh. I started crying after reading your comment and chanting a litany of "He's not like that, no, he's not like that." Okay...honesty. I wanted him to talk that way to me. All the, you know 'sex talk'. I like it. He never forced me into any of it. Okay...so I'll admit some things. He told me he would like to see a pic of me um...without any..you know...he shared a pic of himself first. And I did show him pics. I'm really, really insecure. I know I am. But with him. He's always complimenting me and saying how I'm beautiful and such. And how I have a beautiful body. I mean...I just never thought a guy could think that of me. And he does. I mean...he tells me everything. We talk so, so much. So often that I find it hard to believe that he's doing the same exact thing to some other girl at the same time. He told me about his ex girlfriends and everything. He told me that he had given up looking for a woman before meeting me. He said he believed that they all had agendas. He said that his ex wive really messed him up. But he also says that I'm different. That it's me and only me. That I'm his soulmate. He even told me the other night on the phone that if I ever kissed a guy and sparks flew, to leave him and be with this other guy. And I told him, why would I kiss another guy if I'm in a relationship with you? He's always saying that he understands if I find someone else. He always says that he understands if I end this or we never meet. He tells me all the time that he understands. Sometimes it even feels like he's saying I'd be better off without him. That just doesn't sound to me like something a pedophile would do. And yes. He is the only guy in my life. The only boyfriend I've ever had. The only guy I've ever really opened up to about things. He makes me feel not so alone. I love him. And I know lots of people will be positive it's a mistake. But I'm gonna try my best to not be stupid about it. I'll have him come here before I go there. And as for the whole interrupted part. Yes when we meet we will probably have sex. I mean...WE want to. It's just not him. *Sigh* I guess I'll just have to see what happens. All I know is it's gonna be hard facing him when we video chat tonight. What kinda girlfriend am I when I'm thinking these thoughts about my boyfriend? When I'm questioning things? But anyway....thank you for your advice.

by **Vulcanoid** on Fri Jun 22, 2012 12:25 pm

Alright, it's obvious i can't do anything to change your mind about this..... this individual which makes me sick by the way.
Of course he sweet talks you. He's good at that and he is (most likely) smarter than you. Proof, is you videochat for him and sent him "pics"...... gosh you don't know how sick it makes me to read this. It's like i want to punch him so bad....
Anyway i hope you WILL realize I'm right soon enough, before he does anything to you.
If you really can't get over it, please, at least listen to me and DON'T go at him. Let HIM come at your place.

I won't come on this thread again; consider yourself warned.

by **nevilleconnie** on Fri Jun 22, 2012 12:39 pm

Vulcanoid- Thank you for your input. And like I said...I will have him come here first. If he is only in it for the sex as you put it...than that would really make me incredibly sad and heartbroken. But...so long as he's not a threat to my physically...I believe it's worth the chance to see him. I know there's no way to convince you that he is a good guy. Than again...that's not what I set out to do here. I just wanted advice. And you gave yours. Thank you.

by **Guardian7347** on Fri Jun 22, 2012 1:21 pm

Alright V, unless you can demonstrate to my satisfaction that you have strong psychic abilities, you don't KNOW anything. There's a ton of red flags raised, absolutely! I whole-heartedly agree with you on much of what you said, but it's all speculative at this point. That's why Blue keeps insisting that he come to see her first and mom be there with her. It''s irresponsible to charge in on a situation you know nothing about and make very serious charges against people you don't know. That's libel, and you can sued for that. You can say "I think this, or I suspect that", but you can't go around saying "I already know all these things about him, I guarantee this about him". You can't. LIke I said, I agree with you, I have deep misgivings about this, but I know nothing for certain, and neither do you.

by **nevilleconnie** on Fri Jun 22, 2012 2:06 pm

Guardian 7347- Thank you. I know that lots of people will have their beliefs. But until I meet him...I'm gonna put my trust in him. Unless of course he does or says something I can't accept. I admit I was foolish for ever contemplating going to see him first. And even though I love him I have to be careful as well. Thank you.

by **BLUE** on Fri Jun 22, 2012 2:19 pm

That's my girl!

You're using your head about it now.

I know that people have let you down in the past. How is that going as far as being prepared for him to do that? I am not saying he is going to. I just don't want him to hurt you in any way shape or form.

As far as your mom goes...Mom's are to Love and Protect. This is what she is doing now for you. Let her. I know sometimes it feels like suffocating. I personally don't want to see you get hurt and I don't even know you. Can you imagine what your mom feels like. Talk to her ok? Open up and tell her everything. If it gets heated, let it cool a little and tell her "I want to talk to you about this but I don't want to fight." She is the one to truly help you with this guy. She will see him and the both of you together.

:hugs:

Keep us updated Nev

by **nevilleconnie** on Fri Jun 22, 2012 3:20 pm

Thank you Blue. But like I said...every single time I try to talk to her about it she just starts shaking her head and going on a rant. And I do let it go for a little while. But once I bring it up again she does the same exact thing. I did convince her to talk to him over the phone when the time comes and to meet him in person. But she's not happy about it. And I hope she don't change her mind. And yeah...I'll let you know how things go. Thanks again Blue. :hugs:

by **Guardian7347** on Sat Jun 23, 2012 8:37 am

nevilleconnie wrote:Guardian 7347- Thank you. I know that lots of people will have their beliefs. But until I meet him...I'm gonna put my trust in him. Unless of course he does or says something I can't accept. I admit I was foolish for ever contemplating going to see him first. And even though I love him I have to be careful as well. Thank you.

Trust but verify. Can you do a public records search on him to see if there is anything out there?

by **perfect_insanity** on Sat Jun 23, 2012 9:39 am

If you did go to him, bring a friend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Never ever ever ever ever go alone.

*let me clarify* never go alone until you know him wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy better personally.

by **nevilleconnie** on Sat Jun 23, 2012 11:01 am

Guardian- Well I guess I could do one of those background checks online. It's worth the money I suppose. I just feel so...I don't know. It feels like I'm doing something wrong by doing that. Like I think badly of him or something. :/

by **nevilleconnie** on Sat Jun 23, 2012 11:03 am

Perfect_insanity- Thank you. And I'll just have to have him meet me here first instead of going there. Because I have no one to take with me.

by **BLUE** on Sat Jun 23, 2012 11:10 am

Nev you'll have to admit that your mom is trying. She went from not even speaking about it, to agreeing to talking to him on the phone. Now he will have to compromise also. There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing a background check on him. It might make your mom feel better as well. It also shows her that you are being very smart about the whole situation.

by **nevilleconnie** on Sat Jun 23, 2012 11:53 am

Thank you Blue. But I honestly don't think if I do those things and show her, that she'll be pleased. She's just focused on his age. There is too much of an age difference to her. But I'll still do a background check before having him come here. And of course meet in a public place when he does.

by **BLUE** on Sat Jun 23, 2012 12:17 pm

Nev, there is Nothing more Beautiful than a smart woman who uses her brain.

You make me proud :hugs:

by **nevilleconnie** on Sat Jun 23, 2012 3:08 pm

I'm not all that beautiful nor all that smart. lol. But thanks all the same Blue! :hugs:

by **BLUE** on Sat Jun 23, 2012 4:12 pm

I beg to differ my dear

by **Nostalgic** on Sun Jun 24, 2012 1:56 am

Everything I would say has already been said.
But just to add again, be careful

Edit:: this thread may be interesting for you
viewtopic.php?f=25&t=84094

by **nevilleconnie** on Sun Jun 24, 2012 8:20 am

Thank you Nostalgic. And yes. I've already read through that thread.

by **nevilleconnie** on Sun Nov 11, 2012 5:32 pm

Okay. So...I took a plane and went to meet HIM in Ga. We met at the airport and I stayed at his place and I had never been happier in my life. He was everything I had hoped for. I know many (especially you Blue) told me not to go there, but I just couldn't help it. We did meet in a public place (an airport) . We spent about 4 days together and then he took me to the airport to go back home. He told me he would watch until he couldn't see me no more and he did. He is such a sweet guy. He took me to meet some of his family and we just had a really great time together. Yes we kissed and had...well...you know. And it was wonderful. I love him so, so much. Oh! And when I got to the airport in Atlanta he was waiting for me with one long stemmed rose. It was beautiful! And then he hugged me and rubbed my back trying to make me comfortable. Gosh. I wish I could still be with him now. But anyway. Just wanted to post an update.

by **BLUE** on Wed Nov 14, 2012 10:04 am

Nev!

I was wondering how things were going.

I knew you would go.

I am so Happy to be Wrong

and I am glad you are ok. It makes me feel better knowing that he introduced you to his family. World of difference there

Sounds like you had a great time. Omg Nev I am sooo happy for you :excited:

Thanks for the update. We are still here...so come back see us, even if it is only to chat about things.

*Warmest of Blue Hugs*

by **nevilleconnie** on Wed Nov 14, 2012 12:44 pm

Aww! Thank you sooo much Blue! Yeah. He introduced me to his two sisters. They were both very sweet.

And it was just so nice. I still have the petals of the rose he gave me. I refuse to throw them out. lol. He also gave me a bracelet and took me around his town introducing me to people he talked to about me. Everyone was very nice. I just wish I could have stayed loner. But...there's always time for that in the future. And for now I'll hold onto the memories. :heartpump:

Thanks again for being so understanding Blue. :hugs:

by **BLUE** on Thu Nov 15, 2012 3:11 pm

You have a good heart Nev :hugs:

Glad to see you back. I like your optimism.

by **nevilleconnie** on Fri Nov 16, 2012 4:33 pm

Yeah. This is me and him together.

https://si0.twimg.com/profile_images/28 ... feb3a.jpeg Not my best picture, but eh. lol.

by **BLUE** on Mon Nov 19, 2012 8:01 pm

I am a bad fairy god-mother...I almost forgot to check back. :oops:

Me no see pic Nev ...*sadness ensues*

Dang fricken halo!!! *bangs on it* Oops...there we go :halo: