Seeing Old Friends

[LifeChanges]

So, I don't know who all remembers me. But I came on here last fall with relationship advice about going through a divorce. Me and my husband have gotten back together and things have been going great between us. We've both been working really hard at making it work. But I really don't know how to deal with his friends. Today I saw them for the first time in about a year. They throw an annual crawfish boil bash, and everyone gets together. They knew I was coming over. But when they saw me they looked like they saw a ghost, literally. They could barely even talk to me. I was as pleasant and cheerful as I could be. A couple of them acted nice towards me. But damn, what the hell do you do? Tomorrow is the big bash and I will be seeing a lot more of them. I don't want anything to be awkward. My friends are cool around him even though they heard all my tears and hurt while we were separated. But that's over and I've moved on. I just had to vent really. I also brought my daughter with me. It was like they didn't want me there

[BLUE]

Oh honey it will all be fine. Just give them some time. They are His friends and even though Your friends have accepted him back...these guys found like they need time. Know that they will back him period. That is what friends are for and they are standing by him. So give them the time they need to really see that things are ok...ok? Go on and have a good time. Stick with the people who are comfy with you and slowly (at their pace) join back with them. It may be next year until they are ok again. It will all be fine.

*Biggest of Blue huggles*

[LifeChanges]

Thank you Blue. I just can't get over the looks of shock on their faces. I have never had people look at me like that. Like I just walked on their grave. One of the nicer girls said to me on the side how great I looked. I know she was being nice,and I said thanks of course. But it made me wonder if people expected me to look like shit? That's probably just my own insecurities. I think I will definitely being sticking to the nicer ones tomorrow. I'm so glad my gf will be there with me tomorrow too. Time to put on my big girl panties and smile

[BLUE]

Well you do look nice Besides you and I have the Loveliest of Blue Eyes Just put me on your shoulder and every time they look funny, I will remind you to give them time

[LifeChanges]

Thank you I think I was just put off by how she said it. Time it is. I'm glad you reminded me that they are still His friends. I forgot that today.

[LifeChanges]

You know what? Now that I think about it. That girl was just being nice to me. I remember her going through her divorce a few years ago. I don't think she took it very well, and she was just reaching out to me. I need to get out of my head.

[Guardian7347]

I just had to post to put all three blue eyes in the same thread lol Blue's got this one under control.

[BLUE]

I see the Handsomest of all the Blue Eyes has joined us. Very nice...very nice indeed.

LC- I can tell you that it is never good when I spend too much time up in mine (head). I hope you had a wonderful time today. No over -thinking now

Do not get lost in the shades of gray (of life)

[LifeChanges]

Ah, thank you Blue I just stopped caring and was determined to have fun, and it was. That was a wild night. Won't be doing that again for a while By the way just how blue are your eyes Blue?

[BLUE]

yea! You had a good time. This makes me happy. I knew you would.
You have to have nights like that every once in a while You just never know how it's gonna go sometimes. Mine started with a car repair and ended on a drunkenness. Cheers to you my dear.

My eyes are very Blue

[Justified]

So, I don't know who all remembers me. But I came on here last fall with relationship advice about going through a divorce. Me and my husband have gotten back together and things have been going great between us. We've both been working really hard at making it work. But I really don't know how to deal with his friends. Today I saw them for the first time in about a year. They throw an annual crawfish boil bash, and everyone gets together. They knew I was coming over. But when they saw me they looked like they saw a ghost, literally. They could barely even talk to me. I was as pleasant and cheerful as I could be. A couple of them acted nice towards me. But damn, what the hell do you do? Tomorrow is the big bash and I will be seeing a lot more of them. I don't want anything to be awkward. My friends are cool around him even though they heard all my tears and hurt while we were separated. But that's over and I've moved on. I just had to vent really. I also brought my daughter with me. It was like they didn't want me there

All his friends would know is what he himself has told them. So you have to discuss this with your husband and have him fix it for you. Also, your relationship is not their business, it is yours alone.

[LifeChanges]

We've both agreed that whatever we did and said while separated is not up for discussion. I can imagine what he said about me, but it doesn't matter anymore. I know he loves me and I love him, and that is in the past. This was just my first time seeing all of them after being separated and it made me really nervous. I'm over it now. I really don't give a fuck what they think about me. None of them were there for me through that dark time. I made some good friends that helped me through it.