tips on seductivity

[Nightingale]

I was wondering (not that I'm some creeper that wants to take advantage of people) what are the best things a guy can use to seduce someone, not alluding to sexual gain.

[Adityasb]

Eat like a gentleman and F**k like an animal, not the reverse. (read it somewhere. Haven't tried it)
personaly, I'll use some eye contact and a smile. Then tease a bit after conversation.

[jojo]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

[kaligirl001]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

*thumbs up* That pretty much sums it up, but I will add, treating her like an equal but still treat her like a lady! Guys who can pull that off will win every time!!!

[tropicalheatwave]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

and let me guess, i should wipe her ass after she is done taking a shit, right???

fuck that i want a tough girl not a wimp. those techniques will get you wimpy girls.

[kaligirl001]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

and let me guess, i should wipe her ass after she is done taking a shit, right???

fuck that i want a tough girl not a wimp. those techniques will get you wimpy girls.

Not true tropical, I'm a tough chick, but I am still a girl... All girls from girly to tomboy likes that stuff...
-Smiles are nice because is shows he is a happy person, no one wants to be with a grump.
-Complimenting her whether it be on her outfit or her personality will always score you points because it shows that you notice them and there not just a background thought, which also ties into paying attention to them and calling them, because like guys we hate to be ignored!
-Opening doors shows you care.
-Everyone likes jokes so yeah being funny is going to win a girl over.
-Dressing and smelling nice is very important because no one wants to be with someone who smells badly and looks like they rolled in crap... Now as for dressing nice that differs from person to person, some like preppy others like the rocker style, others goth, and so on and so forth.

I'm not saying every one falls into one cookie cutter box but most girls, unless they think of themselves as worthless, will love it if a guy dose those things for her... If your girl is happy, then she will make you happy, so by doing these simple things is really doing yourself a favor. Like I said in my post above...

treating her like an equal but still treat her like a lady! Guys who can pull that off will win every time!!!

[cap1015]

I was wondering (not that I'm some creeper that wants to take advantage of people) what are the best things a guy can use to seduce someone, not alluding to sexual gain.

In addition to what the others said, here is something that should help........

Be yourself, but not make everything about yourself
Listen to people, really listen to what they are saying, not just wait until you get to talk
Try to never complain about anything.......complaining only attracts other complainers
Be positive, truly, not just as an act, but if you have to, fake it until you feel it.......
Be considerate, this doesn't mean be weak, it means to have empathy and understanding
Be kind whenever you can
Be giving, by that I mean in your words, your deeds, your actions, you dont' have to give people money, just your attention the things I said above
Always remeber everything is not about you, most people (99.999% of people) think about themselves and their issues don't wast time and energy on trying to do something you think will impress them, most of them won't notice unless it affects them in someway.
Don't be cruel
Don't be too clingy, invade peoples personal space, and don't embarrass yourself or them in public.....

If you can be yourself and being yourself includes those above, you will be amazed at how people react and treat you.

[Guardian7347]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

and let me guess, i should wipe her ass after she is done taking a shit, right???

fuck that i want a tough girl not a wimp. those techniques will get you wimpy girls.

How's your love life doing? Tough women are still women, and they like to be treated that way sometimes. The biggest tomboys in the world will admit to wanting to be pampered from time to time, wanting to be treated like a princess. I'll admit to being morbidly curious.....if these techniques are for the "wimpy" girls, what is required to attract tough girls?

[tropicalheatwave]

I'm a tough chick,

what makes you say your tough?

If you can be yourself and being yourself includes those above

i find it funny how you say be yourself then give requirements of how to be in the same sentence. this reminds me of family, school, and religion when they say be yourself then give guidelines of how to be.

How's your love life doing?

great, i love life.

I'll admit to being morbidly curious.....if these techniques are for the "wimpy" girls, what is required to attract tough girls?

what makes you think there is any technique required? if you need a technique that means you can't get a girl simply by being yourself. which means you gotta be fake.

well anyway my first post was more for my own personal amusement. but i find the replies pretty amusing as well.

[kaligirl001]

I'm a tough chick,

what makes you say your tough?

Because I ride 4 wheeler's and snowmobiles, I work on vehicles, I LOVE monster jam (monster trucks), I was on a wrestling team for 3 years, I did volunteer work clearing trees and debris after a flood... and many more things. I grew up in the country, they don't raise weak girls they raise strong women... I'm not one to worry about breaking a nail, or if I have mud on my face, or if I have a tear in my jeans that the store didn't already put there for fashion... I'm pretty tomboy but that doesn't mean I don't want to be treated like a lady from time to time... Just because I'm a tomboy doesn't mean I want to be treated like a boy, and that goes for most tomboys!

[jojo]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

and let me guess, i should wipe her ass after she is done taking a shit, right???

fuck that i want a tough girl not a wimp. those techniques will get you wimpy girls.

Oh FFS.

Of course you wouldn't have to wipe her ass, she'd wipe it on your face herself afterwards if that is the tude you take about women.

What do you want a girl to make it 4 rounds with you in the ring, you knock her teeth out and she smiles through it all?

[jojo]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

and let me guess, i should wipe her ass after she is done taking a shit, right???

fuck that i want a tough girl not a wimp. those techniques will get you wimpy girls.

Not true tropical, I'm a tough chick, but I am still a girl... All girls from girly to tomboy likes that stuff...
-Smiles are nice because is shows he is a happy person, no one wants to be with a grump.
-Complimenting her whether it be on her outfit or her personality will always score you points because it shows that you notice them and there not just a background thought, which also ties into paying attention to them and calling them, because like guys we hate to be ignored!
-Opening doors shows you care.
-Everyone likes jokes so yeah being funny is going to win a girl over.
-Dressing and smelling nice is very important because no one wants to be with someone who smells badly and looks like they rolled in crap... Now as for dressing nice that differs from person to person, some like preppy others like the rocker style, others goth, and so on and so forth.

I'm not saying every one falls into one cookie cutter box but most girls, unless they think of themselves as worthless, will love it if a guy dose those things for her... If your girl is happy, then she will make you happy, so by doing these simple things is really doing yourself a favor. Like I said in my post above...

treating her like an equal but still treat her like a lady! Guys who can pull that off will win every time!!!

Bravo. I. Love. Kali's. Post.

She said it all, women like to be treated lovingly too, shown respect, tough, or not. Everyone has two sides or more to them, if you don't feed that feminine side she might as well be one of the boys.

[irrevocably]

if you want a good "touching" advice, i recommend the back of the neck. idk why but it makes most women go ga-ga! as in like omg i like it there xD it was a fave for most of my ex's haha so thats one to keep in mind, right in the center where the shoulders connect to the spine

[tropicalheatwave]

Of course you wouldn't have to wipe her ass, she'd wipe it on your face herself afterwards if that is the tude you take about women.

[jojo]

*takes a bow* lol I assume most of the time you are joking. I bet you want a tough girl with a heart of gold.

[Soulkiss333]

Most of those things are nice but I have to admit it is going to take more than a smile and opening doors for me to be seduce. But I do like that stuff. Smiles arent that big for me unless you have a smile like Shou, (dont ask it is just the greatest smile in the world) I like mysterious, intense, deep looking guys.

Love the neck thing
manners are important, dont spit and chew with your mouth open, pick your scabs etc...that is just gross.
Paid attention...surprise her...like when you both are talking to each other find out her favorite flower or smell, what kind of stuff she likes and what she likes to do...like if she likes animals...one day surprise her by randomly taking her to the zoo, and she would wonder how you would know that she would love to go to the zoo and when she ask, just nonchalant say I heard you say you like animals, it show you are paying attention without having to be told everything. Same thing if you find out she likes lilies or sunflowers instead of roses, surprise. Also, just remember things that she finds is important.

eye contact is a yes..flirt makes sure she knows your are interested in her and not just as a friend.

CONFIDENCE
--be a man
--Know yourself
--know what direction you are going in life
--have passions/interests/hobbies/wants...get her attention(she doesnt always want you to listen to her, she wants to know what you want as well, biggest complaint for a lot of women, men dont always say what they want and how are we to know) Open your mouth and tell her...we have on here a couple of threads...3 qualities you want in men and the men have one for the ladies but the men's always get buried....SPEAK DAMN IT!!!! So annoying when you dont, it is boring and comes across as lack of confidence. She wants to know what would please you as well, take the lead and tell her.
If girls know what a guy wants from a girl she can have more confidence about the relationship but if you dont than for a girl there is always this doubt this unknown which can give uneasy feelings about it and if you want to seduce her you need to make her feel comfortable around you.
--Never ever ever ever say things like "I dont know what do you want to do?" I hate that more than anything. Esp when planning the first date. Be creative and plan something and later on if y'all are a couple than ask her if she want to go anywhere special but never say.... I dont know. It is weak. What hobbies do you do..I dont know or What passions do you have...i dont know. What you do like to do...I dont know? God I hate that. Dont do that, make up shit if you have too.
--Be very assertive dont be passive.
--Can be a little aggressive but not an asshole to her or anyone in her presents.
--Have personality dont have to be a funny guy (I dont like a lot of jokes) but have opinions. Let it be your opinions (something you took the time to think about) not what you be told to believe, think out side the box and share those crazy ideas.
--Be creative...like make things for her not buy.
--Style...dont have to be or look like everyone else but be creative unless this isnt really who you are. Even if it just a hat that is your trademark.

--make her important in your life, we like to feel special.Believe in us...share our goals, dreams and desires with us, look thru our eyes once in a while. Make us feel sexy and beautiful make us want to be a woman. Share your secrets with her etc. We love secrets.

[cap1015]

If you can be yourself and being yourself includes those above

i find it funny how you say be yourself then give requirements of how to be in the same sentence. this reminds me of family, school, and religion when they say be yourself then give guidelines of how to be.

I think you misunderstood me, and if you read my quote again, my point/intent is that you should be yourself and IF being yourself you have the qualities I listed you create a value that people gravitate toward, IMO. I am listing requirements I was listing qualities and habits that result in other people wanting to be around you. I also take great pains to explain that being yourself and not making things about yourself is two seperate things that will make you attractive to other people. I am not saying to mold yourself into something you are not, I am saying that if you can find it in yourself to be a person with those qualities, you tend to find other positive people and have people seeking you as a person they like to be around. That being said if being a dick, a bully, a nerd, an elitist, a protestor, whatever it is that you truly want to be, then don't change just to be liked, but the question basically was "how do I become someone that others want to be around".

[lillmango]

really show that you care about. get interested in what she wants to talk about. this may be hard but it goes a long way.

[Nightingale]

I surprised with how lively this has gotten.

[Guardian7347]

Sometimes a thread just takes off and does really well.

[Nightingale]

Now that we've been talking about this for a while how about we share some stories where we had to be flirty, times when you had to "shake that ass" for whatever reason.

[XxQueenOfSoulsxX]

Okay guys, let's get real here.

Girls truly like it when guys have a mixture of chivalry along with a tad bit of a head-strong personality that shows they are confident with themselves and a bit of goofyness on the side to know that they can let loose.

No. You don't have to wipe up after her. But a girl wants/needs to know that she isn't there just for you and that you will be there for her too. It's a Give-Take thing. You gotta give back whatever you take and same for her.

I would go ahead and say that I am not a whimpy girl myself. I love wearing dresses and doing my hair and make-up everyday to look nice and being girly, but on the other hand I work for what i want. And I work hard at whatever I do. I actually spent last summer working at a boy scout camp. boy to girl ratio was like 10:1, i lived in a tent, I had to live with spiders, i wore a uniform, and i didn't get to have my pretty hair and make-up. Not to mention the actual physical labor. Just saying, tomboy or girly girl, there are some things that all or most girls want and need.

[soohitj]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

and let me guess, i should wipe her ass after she is done taking a shit, right???

fuck that i want a tough girl not a wimp. those techniques will get you wimpy girls.

My man better wipe my fucking ass, or I'll wipe his face with the floor. How the fuck is that for a tough girl?

[tropicalheatwave]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

and let me guess, i should wipe her ass after she is done taking a shit, right???

fuck that i want a tough girl not a wimp. those techniques will get you wimpy girls.

My man better wipe my fucking ass, or I'll wipe his face with the floor. How the fuck is that for a tough girl?

i would agree that there are some men who are extremely stupid and wimpy that make ordinary wimpy girls look tough.

[soohitj]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

and let me guess, i should wipe her ass after she is done taking a shit, right???

fuck that i want a tough girl not a wimp. those techniques will get you wimpy girls.

My man better wipe my fucking ass, or I'll wipe his face with the floor. How the fuck is that for a tough girl?

i would agree that there are some men who are extremely stupid and wimpy that make ordinary wimpy girls look tough.

Lol what does that have to do with what I said?

[tropicalheatwave]

Lol what does that have to do with what I said?

keep rereading it. you'll figure it out.

[Guardian7347]

You'll have to excuse tropic. It is my personal opinion that he believes "picking up women" entails clubbing them into unconsciousness, and then dragging them back to his cave by the hair on their head. This would explain his derogatory comments towards women in the kindest possible light. Allow me to translate:

i would agree that there are some men who are extremely stupid and wimpy that make ordinary wimpy girls look tough.

Overall message: Women are weak.
Secondary messages:
Some men are stupid and wimpy, but I am not one of them.
The only way an ordinary (non-amazonian, steroid-injecting freak) woman can even appear tough is when she is placed beside a wimpy AND stupid male. (It's not sufficient for him to be weak, but he must also be below average intelligence....not sure how that factors into strength....)
In other words, it's a "bad attention" ploy.

[tropicalheatwave]

Overall message: Women are weak.

wrong, i grew up with women who were a lot stronger then me.

Some men are stupid and wimpy, but I am not one of them.

wrong, i'm neither weak, strong, stupid, or intelligent. to label me as this or that is to miss.

The only way an ordinary (non-amazonian, steroid-injecting freak) woman can even appear tough is when she is placed beside a wimpy AND stupid male. (It's not sufficient for him to be weak, but he must also be below average intelligence....not sure how that factors into strength....)
In other words, it's a "bad attention" ploy.

wrong, not one person got the message. you don't have to dominate people to be a strong women, you don't have to be a good fighter to be a strong women, you don't have to be a high ranking military officer, or manager to be a strong women. to me, a strong women is one who follows their own heart, who can think for themselves, who is not afraid to die for what she believes in, who can adapt to their environment and situations in life. women are naturally strong but now a days they chose the path of following the "in" crowd.


its amazing how the mind makes everything more complex then it really is. the answers are always in plain sight but people go on misinterpreting.

[Guardian7347]

Overall message: Women are weak.

wrong, i grew up with women who were a lot stronger then me.

Some men are stupid and wimpy, but I am not one of them.

wrong, i'm neither weak, strong, stupid, or intelligent. to label me as this or that is to miss.

The only way an ordinary (non-amazonian, steroid-injecting freak) woman can even appear tough is when she is placed beside a wimpy AND stupid male. (It's not sufficient for him to be weak, but he must also be below average intelligence....not sure how that factors into strength....)
In other words, it's a "bad attention" ploy.

wrong, not one person got the message. you don't have to dominate people to be a strong women, you don't have to be a good fighter to be a strong women, you don't have to be a high ranking military officer, or manager to be a strong women. to me, a strong women is one who follows their own heart, who can think for themselves, who is not afraid to die for what she believes in, who can adapt to their environment and situations in life. women are naturally strong but now a days they chose the path of following the "in" crowd.


its amazing how the mind makes everything more complex then it really is. the answers are always in plain sight but people go on misinterpreting.

Uh-huh. You're full of shit. You blatantly said that only when compared to stupid and wimpy men, could an ordinary woman look tough. Not BE tough, but LOOK tough. You earlier defined wimpy women as those who would be attracted by those qualities listed by Jojo, which, by general consensus of the female population present, is the vast majority of all women, and by some counts, all of them. But I won't go that far, I'll just say most. Furthermore, you clearly stated that

...there are some men who are extremely stupid and wimpy...

. YOU put yourself outside that comment, meaning clearly you don't beleive yourself to be stupid and wimpy. Which is fine! It's ok to NOT think negatively about yourself, but don't try to tell me I'm wrong when I point out the obvious.

to label me as this or that is to miss.

Please. Everyone can be labelled, regardless of how special our mothers told us we were growing up, and you're no exception. Neither am I. One label may not cover every aspect of who we are, but I guarantee there are a few labels that can stick to you.

women are naturally strong but now a days they chose the path of following the "in" crowd

That made zero sense. A strong person wouldn't choose to just follow the "in" crowd. Being strong mean being able to stand up and stand alone if needed, not go along with others just for acceptance. So....are women naturally strong....orrr...do they choose the path of following the "in" crowd?

the answers are always in plain sight but people go on misinterpreting.

not one person got the message. you don't have to dominate people to be a strong women, you don't have to be a good fighter to be a strong women, you don't have to be a high ranking military officer, or manager to be a strong women. to me, a strong women is one who follows their own heart, who can think for themselves, who is not afraid to die for what she believes in, who can adapt to their environment and situations in life.

I dare you to find a single statement by you anywhere in this thread(other than the one just quoted) that clarifies this message, or even hints at it. Your posts have either been insulting or belittling, but none have been insightful.

[tropicalheatwave]

You're full of shit.

everyone is full of shit. you have to be in order to live. everything you eat turns to shit. so how can anyone not be full of shit?

You blatantly said that only when compared to stupid and wimpy men, could an ordinary woman look tough. Not BE tough, but LOOK tough. You earlier defined wimpy women as those who would be attracted by those qualities listed by Jojo, which, by general consensus of the female population present, is the vast majority of all women, and by some counts, all of them. But I won't go that far, I'll just say most. Furthermore, you clearly stated that

every time i use this icon: indicates a playful exchange of words. jojo saw the humor in it. i believe soohitj saw the humor in it as well. why can't you see it? why must you be so serious and try to play hero all the time? i clearly indicated this:

well anyway my first post was more for my own personal amusement.

Please. Everyone can be labelled,

i know that, duh. that's not the point.

That made zero sense. A strong person wouldn't choose to just follow the "in" crowd. Being strong mean being able to stand up and stand alone if needed, not go along with others just for acceptance. So....are women naturally strong....orrr...do they choose the path of following the "in" crowd?

that depends on the women.

I dare you to find a single statement by you anywhere in this thread(other than the one just quoted) that clarifies this message, or even hints at it. Your posts have either been insulting or belittling, but none have been insightful.

i can't help it if your stupid.


i know exactly what your next move is going to be. your going to read everything i type, try to find something wrong with it, and turn it around on me so you can save face. you won't admit that you misunderstood me because it won't look good for your "image." i'm not going to waste time arguing over something small. so if you want to save face and be a hero then go for it. i made my point already. you either understand or you don't.

[Guardian7347]

i know exactly what your next move is going to be. your going to read everything i type, try to find something wrong with it, and turn it around on me so you can save face.

My next move? You've seen too many spy movies dude. Honestly, bickering with you is like arguing with a five year old, I feel dumber just for doing it, but you did address me. JUST out of deranged curiosity, what exactly is it that you think is my "image" and how does it relate to this?

[Soulkiss333]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

and let me guess, i should wipe her ass after she is done taking a shit, right???

fuck that i want a tough girl not a wimp. those techniques will get you wimpy girls.

My man better wipe my fucking ass, or I'll wipe his face with the floor. How the fuck is that for a tough girl?

i would agree that there are some men who are extremely stupid and wimpy that make ordinary wimpy girls look tough.

I actually thought that was funny. Both Soohitj and Trop's comments.

I know you and Guardian started to discuss what you meant...I only read a few lines on Guardian I have say I dont think Trop put that much thought into it....I think he was just being playful...he was just responding to Soohitj comment which was pretty explicit...I think he was like alright finally someone to joke around with. He thought they both were giving each other shit. Trop you need Jon to come back...He is really good at this too.

Sometimes I would like to see a thread of you (trop), jon and maybe Xwikki, etc, having insulting/sarcasm wars for fun ...Jon can be brutal/shocking sometimes, tho. I dont like sarcasm but if I get used to the ppl (takes a while) who are very sarcastic I become use to it from them (as long as it is playful) otherwise I despite it. So, I get Guardian annoyance with it. Most of the time I intensely dislike it.

[Guardian7347]

^ smiles work, compliments( mean them), opening doors, calling, paying attention to them, even being funny works. So does dressing nice and smelling nice.

and let me guess, i should wipe her ass after she is done taking a shit, right???

fuck that i want a tough girl not a wimp. those techniques will get you wimpy girls.

My man better wipe my fucking ass, or I'll wipe his face with the floor. How the fuck is that for a tough girl?

i would agree that there are some men who are extremely stupid and wimpy that make ordinary wimpy girls look tough.

I actually thought that was funny. Both Soohitj and Trop's comments.

I know you and Guardian started to discuss what you meant...I only read a few lines on Guardian I have say I dont think Trop put that much thought into it....I think he was just being playful...he was just responding to Soohitj comment which was pretty explicit...I think he was like alright finally someone to joke around with. He thought they both were giving each other shit. Trop you need Jon to come back...He is really good at this too.

Sometimes I would like to see a thread of you (trop), jon and maybe Xwikki, etc, having insulting/sarcasm wars for fun ...Jon can be brutal/shocking sometimes, tho. I dont like sarcasm but if I get used to the ppl (takes a while) who are very sarcastic I become use to it from them (as long as it is playful) otherwise I despite it. So, I get Guardian annoyance with it. Most of the time I intensely dislike it.

To be honest, if Soohitj hadn't been a new poster, but a regular poster who already knew trop, I probably wouldn't have said shit. Anyone who's been posting for a bit knows him and how he posts. I have personally defended his style before.

You'll have to excuse tropic. It is my personal opinion that he believes "picking up women" entails clubbing them into unconsciousness, and then dragging them back to his cave by the hair on their head. This would explain his derogatory comments towards women in the kindest possible light. Allow me to translate:

i would agree that there are some men who are extremely stupid and wimpy that make ordinary wimpy girls look tough.

Overall message: Women are weak.
Secondary messages:
Some men are stupid and wimpy, but I am not one of them.
The only way an ordinary (non-amazonian, steroid-injecting freak) woman can even appear tough is when she is placed beside a wimpy AND stupid male. (It's not sufficient for him to be weak, but he must also be below average intelligence....not sure how that factors into strength....)
In other words, it's a "bad attention" ploy.

My response, directed to her, was a playful chide at tropic, heavily laced with sarcasm, meant to dispel any harsh feelings she may have felt directed towards her. I'm at a loss as to why he can't take a dose of the same humor he regularly dishes out.

[tropicalheatwave]

My response, directed to her, was a playful chide at tropic, heavily laced with sarcasm, meant to dispel any harsh feelings she may have felt directed towards her. I'm at a loss as to why he can't take a dose of the same humor he regularly dishes out.

you won't admit that you misunderstood me

i should be a psychic

[Guardian7347]

My response, directed to her, was a playful chide at tropic, heavily laced with sarcasm, meant to dispel any harsh feelings she may have felt directed towards her. I'm at a loss as to why he can't take a dose of the same humor he regularly dishes out.

you won't admit that you misunderstood me

i should be a psychic

lol Right up there with the fake jamaican lady...what the hell was her name?

[tropicalheatwave]

http://youtu.be/LM1PRQwGh2E

[Guardian7347]

MISS CLEO!! As annoying as those commercials were at the time...they're pretty entertaining in hindsight.