Dreamt an old friend was partly crippled

[Annie54]

I dreamt I was working at some sort of hospital or something (totally unrelated to what my normal job is). There were a few beds and two that were occupied. I seemed to be watching over the patients in these beds. Then a guy with his mother came in. She sat and he asked me if I would mind watching his mother for a few minutes which I agreed to. The guy was a friend of mine that I haven't seen for years. He then was led away by someone(to see the Dr. it seemed). I noticed then that he was partly cripled and walked with a cane. His mother who was very ill and partly cripped herself started to follow him but I told her he said she was to stay with me and he'd be back pretty soon. The friend was always very athletic and healthy when I knew him. What does this dream mean ?

[Varzandeh]

Cane is interpreted as a big man.
If one dreamt had a cane means he will have some greatness and dignity.
If dreamt his cane was lost means he will lose some dignity.
If dreamt he had a cane and it became longer means he will achieve his wish.
If dreamt his cane was shorter means he won't achieve his wish.
Cane may also mean; 1- a governor 2- a big man 3- power in the affairs.

If dreamt had no leg and was walking with a stick, means he will trust to an infidel
person.

If one dreamt he was paralyzed means he will be disabled in his affairs.

[Annie54]

Thank you. It's not just that he walked using a cane but he also walked very wobly like there was something wrong with his legs. Do you know what that means ?

[Varzandeh]

He will be disabled in his affairs and will ask for help.

[underhiswing]

Did you both share feelings of "friendship" only, or more than that?

[chase9]

Can I get some background information about your life at the moment? What's been on your mind the most around the time of the dream?

[Annie54]

We knew each other for years (I think about 14 or 15 years) as acquintences then we slept together one night. He left on a trip out of town and I was weak enough to be effected by pier pressure and so when he didn't call me I freaked out and left a message on his answering machine basically saying I thought he was a jerk (even though I knew he was out of town). Ran into each other after that a couple of times and were friends only, never spoke of that night or the message I left on his answering machine but he seemed to get even by spreading untrue rumours about me. He was told these rumours he didn't start them and whether he actually believed them or not I don't know. They were lies told about me by my family members because they were angry at me for not giving them as much attention as they wanted. I'm under the impression that he took advantage of the fact that I had made distance between myself and family members so that they couldn't hurt me anymore, as he told them about the message I left (which was a terrible message since I swore and called him names). He ended up in a sport that I had been in for a few years and all of a sudden the people I thought were my friends and that I had met doing that sport started treating me differently and it became obvious that they suddently thought that I was inferior to them. It was obvious from a couple things they asked me that he was talking to them about me and telling stories about me and that he was friends with these family members that I just mentioned.

[Annie54]

I haven't seen the guy or spoke to him for years and years but in the last year and a half I have had a few dreams with him in them even though I hadn't even thought of him literally for years.

Lately I have just been focused on working hard. I was given a very good job a few months ago and I am trying to make a good impression.

[underhiswing]

When we listen to gossip and rumors it does hinder (cripple) "us" in the long run. Your relationship with him fell apart due to the illness of others minds, which then in turn, defiled his thoughts (and your relationship). Though he was crippled and needed support (cane), he did entrust his mother into your care. Did you know her? This could reveal that he had trust and confidence in you and your ability to care for others, despite the rumors/lies he had heard. The hospital setting is a place of symbolic healing, and this emotional healing needs to take place within your heart. It has popped up now because you are "ready" to heal and leave it behind you. This dream may help influence you to see that he did trust and care for you, and as a result will enable you to move forward. After all, a man’s mother is one of his most valued people in his life (usually). Hope you can forgive and forget.

You said you have started a new job. Do you have any concerns that there is a possibility of rumors or lies being said at work?(you worked at the hospital in this dream) Or, have you heard others there telling such things about others? If so, maybe that has triggered this dream too.

Congrats on the new job!!

[chase9]

If you say this friend was always athletic and then in the dream he needs to be healed, then he may reflect the "go getter" in you that is now coming out. You talking about him being back soon may reflect a promotion or real money you are telling yourself will come if you keep working hard.

Or perhaps he reflects the "winner" in you. And so healing him in the dream reflects you telling yourself that if you work hard enough you'll be a winner again with a promotion, more money, or something you want to buy.

[Annie54]

[quThank you this has been very [i]helpful. [/i]ote="underhiswing"]When we listen to gossip and rumors it does hinder (cripple) "us" in the long run. Your relationship with him fell apart due to the illness of others minds, which then in turn, defiled his thoughts (and your relationship). Though he was crippled and needed support (cane), he did entrust his mother into your care. Did you know her? This could reveal that he had trust and confidence in you and your ability to care for others, despite the rumors/lies he had heard. The hospital setting is a place of symbolic healing, and this emotional healing needs to take place within your heart. It has popped up now because you are "ready" to heal and leave it behind you. This dream may help influence you to see that he did trust and care for you, and as a result will enable you to move forward. After all, a man’s mother is one of his most valued people in his life (usually). Hope you can forgive and forget. The thing is I haven't even thought about this guy for years but he keeps poping up in dreams, dreams that are centred around him.
You said you have started a new job. Do you have any concerns that there is a possibility of rumors or lies being said at work?Always those lies and rumours really effected my life so now it is hard not to be worried even though I tell my self not to worry it is always in the back of my mind. (you worked at the hospital in this dream) Or, have you heard others there telling such things about others? If so, maybe that has triggered this dream too. Yes I have heard gossip at work about others so that's a strong possibility.Thanks so much for responding.Congrats on the new job!![/quote]

[Annie54]

If you say this friend was always athletic and then in the dream he needs to be healed, then he may reflect the "go getter" in you that is now coming out. You talking about him being back soon may reflect a promotion or real money you are telling yourself will come if you keep working hard.Acutally I don't talk about him being back soon at all. I have actually moved although he still lives in the same area.

Or perhaps he reflects the "winner" in you. And so healing him in the dream reflects you telling yourself that if you work hard enough you'll be a winner again with a promotion, more money, or something you want to buy. Well maybe, but although I think the guy was fairly financially successful, in other ways I think he may have been undeveloped, like talking to my friends about me and trying to get informationfrom my friends to relay to my family who I am estranged from rather than talking to me directly. So although financially successful under developed in other areas. He should have spoke to me directly, not my friends. I think it was mean and vindictive to actually pass information about me on to my estranged family when he knew full well that I didn't want anything to do with them and was estranged because they had sabataged me and I knew that if they knew what was going in my life that they would sabatage me again. This no doubt was his way of hurting me. So I really don't think of him as a "winner".

[chase9]

Acutally I don't talk about him being back soon at all. I have actually moved although he still lives in the same area.

I think you've misunderstood me. What I meant was that you talk about being back soon inside the dream. Not literally in your life. And so if he is someone you see as being successful then this dream situation may symbolize you telling yourself that if you work hard you'll be successful again in the real world.

[Annie54]

Acutally I don't talk about him being back soon at all. I have actually moved although he still lives in the same area.

I think you've misunderstood me. What I meant was that you talk about being back soon inside the dream. Not literally in your life. And so if he is someone you see as being successful then this dream situation may symbolize you telling yourself that if you hard hard you'll be successful again in the real world.

Oh, I see. That makes a lot more sense then. Thank you.

[underhiswing]

[quThank you this has been very [i]helpful. [/i]ote="underhiswing"]When we listen to gossip and rumors it does hinder (cripple) "us" in the long run. Your relationship with him fell apart due to the illness of others minds, which then in turn, defiled his thoughts (and your relationship). Though he was crippled and needed support (cane), he did entrust his mother into your care. Did you know her? This could reveal that he had trust and confidence in you and your ability to care for others, despite the rumors/lies he had heard. The hospital setting is a place of symbolic healing, and this emotional healing needs to take place within your heart. It has popped up now because you are "ready" to heal and leave it behind you. This dream may help influence you to see that he did trust and care for you, and as a result will enable you to move forward. After all, a man’s mother is one of his most valued people in his life (usually). Hope you can forgive and forget. The thing is I haven't even thought about this guy for years but he keeps poping up in dreams, dreams that are centred around him.
You said you have started a new job. Do you have any concerns that there is a possibility of rumors or lies being said at work?Always those lies and rumours really effected my life so now it is hard not to be worried even though I tell my self not to worry it is always in the back of my mind. (you worked at the hospital in this dream) Or, have you heard others there telling such things about others? If so, maybe that has triggered this dream too. Yes I have heard gossip at work about others so that's a strong possibility.Thanks so much for responding.

Your welcome. I hope that you can steer clear of those gossiping at work. I believe that you will be safer, if you did not participate in it. The words we speak are so much more powerful than we think. I hope that you can find a way to peacefully let go of the past, experience healing, and move forward in confidence. I will say a prayer for you today, and ask Him to protect you.

[chase9]

Do you feel that before you got this new job that you lost status or felt like you couldn't be as successful as you wanted? Like you are working to restore and old way of living or something you used to have?

[Annie54]

Yes, that's exactly how I was feeling.

[chase9]

Excellent. As per your PM I'd say that perhaps the dream is a reflection of your desire to meet him again. Mothers in dreams tends to symbolize our intuition for the future. Our coincidences that happen. So this scene in the dream with his mother may symbolize your perception of the future where you believe you may meet him again or hope to have a coincidental meeting.

If you tell his mother that he'll be back soon it may be a sign that you are telling yourself that you'll soon meet him in the future. This guy using a cane may symbolize your perception of yourself being able to have him that is weakened. And possibly reflects you telling yourself that you need to do things to improve yourself for him.

Are you doing anything in your life to encourage the possibility of meeting him? Like preparing yourself with exercise or getting your life in order to be ready if it happens? Or showing up in places you think he might be?