What are the implications of staying single?

[Azanaku]

I don't know whether it is out of fear of becoming a father, inexperience of a traditional close range relationship, rebellion of social convention, a need for finding myself- probably all and more

Long story short, It seems right for me to be single but all I hear and see are people in relationships. I am becoming concerned what will happen if I continue this way for too long and how expensive it is becoming to be living on your own. I can't just get in a relationship for financial reasons like a 1940s housewife (I do have a job).
Am I not a full person until I am in a couple? Can a person feel just as comfortable and fulfilled being single as when in a relationship?
Why are there no Single Pride marches?
Why does no-one say "hey, I heard you are single, that's awesome" and leave it at that?

-I don't know what I am getting at so I will just stop here-

To clarify and include a few points: I am comfortable with my sexuality, I live alone, I am 23

[Wooster_Brooklyn]

Congrats on being single. I am as well. I find nothing wrong with it and I enjoy being single. There are sooooo many things that you can do single that you CAN'T do in a relationship. Like take off for some place awesome without having to tell anyone (except maybe your job unless you already requested time off). Like next weekend I'm heading outta town. I got 3 days off work and I don't have to discuss it with anyone. Another benefit? I don't have to keep someone informed of my whereabouts all the time. I can do WHAT I want, WHEN I want. I can go to bed early (on my nights off) or stay up til 6 am. I can watch what I want on TV. Go to any movie or restaurant or concert I want. Buy what I want. Eat what I want. Stay home and make dinner (cheaper for one person) or grab some food out. I don't have to worry about dressing a certain way or having my hair or makeup a certain way. When I get gussied up, it's for me. MY money, ALL of it. If I see something I want to have, I don't have to talk about it with my partner. I buy it. I don't have to worry about him not liking my friends or my family. I can read a book for several hours without him whining that I'm not talking to him. These are just some of the benefits I feel I get out of being single.

Maybe you need to take a closer look at yourself. If YOU'RE happy with it, wtf you care what anyone ELSE thinks? You're single and happy? Awesome. Stay with that. If not, well, I guess you're finding a lady....lol.

Good luck.

[BLUE]

As long as you are happy that is all that matters. Who cares what anyone else thinks. Enjoy being single. Enjoy being married. Happiness either way is the key

*being silly* Now if you're looking for a single pride parade...yea that's called a bar.

[Vulcanoid]

Blue already said it. As long as you're happy, it's all that matters. Period.

Today, people think that being single is such a bad thing..... like, only social outcasts are single, and all the "normal" people have a love in their lives. We all know that's not true, however. I suggest you stop thinking about being single or in a relationship. Just live for the moment. No future, no past, nothing to depend on. That's what i do

[Azanaku]

Maybe you need to take a closer look at yourself. If YOU'RE happy with it, wtf you care what anyone ELSE thinks? You're single and happy? Awesome. Stay with that. If not, well, I guess you're finding a lady....lol.

It's not really about what other people think, I just feel like I'm being reminded a lot and maybe I'm missing out.
I have been single for over 3 years now during that time I was crushing over one girl that I was great friends with for over 2 years (simplified that one quite a bit) and went on one date after that which was another dead end.

But yeah I just needed some reassurance that I'm not gonna turn into some weird unsociable frigid singleton if I stay like this for many more years... Yeah that won't happen, thinking about it.


Thanks people, you have made me feel 10% more normal

[BLUE]

Only 10%? Oh my next time we will have to try harder. Do not worry my dear just because you are single does not mean that you do not give, receive, and have love in your life. Love comes in many many shapes and forms.

Now go and love as many things as you possibily can. Life is way too short to do anything but

[Azanaku]

*skips off down the street, whistling and spreading joy*

Although, I wouldn't want to be 100% normal anyway, I doubt anyone even knows how to be THAT normal.

[Wooster_Brooklyn]

Maybe you need to take a closer look at yourself. If YOU'RE happy with it, wtf you care what anyone ELSE thinks? You're single and happy? Awesome. Stay with that. If not, well, I guess you're finding a lady....lol.

It's not really about what other people think, I just feel like I'm being reminded a lot and maybe I'm missing out.
I have been single for over 3 years now during that time I was crushing over one girl that I was great friends with for over 2 years (simplified that one quite a bit) and went on one date after that which was another dead end.

But yeah I just needed some reassurance that I'm not gonna turn into some weird unsociable frigid singleton if I stay like this for many more years... Yeah that won't happen, thinking about it.


Thanks people, you have made me feel 10% more normal

you're being reminded a lot because they're probably jealous they cant do what they want, when they want to....lol.

[JeremyM]

I agree with Blue, as long as you are happy with your life, and your choices, don't care what others in society think. They get to live their own lives, as do you.

[BLUE]

*skips off down the street, whistling and spreading joy*

Although, I wouldn't want to be 100% normal anyway, I doubt anyone even knows how to be THAT normal.

omg Never be normal. Sounds to me like someonem has been on your back ...or maybe even a few people. Don't let them get to you. Ever think maybe They are so unhappy that they are pushing their views on you? Now go live your life. Don't let them live it for you.

[Soulkiss333]

I like being single for a lot of reasons W_B said...Freedom plus I am your age (23) and I am still getting my career going.I like to be completely independent before getting too involved with someone out of the fear of being trapped. But I am not single right now. I've been in a relationship for 6 months now, my longest. I think the only reason why we do get along so well is because we live in different countries (not far apart just a few hours away) I am In the US and he is in Canada so we see each other every weekend and have a blast. We are not always up top of each other or have others in our business and we are both really busy right now. He has a full time job, part- time school and in 2 bands. I work and go to school full time. It works out for the both of us.

But I havent really ever notice being single as a target for being different. I know a lot of ppl who choose this and enjoy it. I know quite of few ppl in relationships because they cant stand be alone, which is for the wrong reason and they are usually very unhappy, they settle for whoever and try to convince themselves they are in love. Others feel trapped or need help living in the world which isnt good either. I find when you start talking to ppl their biggest problems in life is their relationships, think how many problems would be eliminate if ppl werent in relationships. Seriously!!! But there is quite a few great relationships out there too. So, dont stress or worry about it. If you want to be in a relationship get yourself out there and if you like being single than so be it, you are the one who has to live your life so just go with it. And like me you are still young you have plenty of time still left nothing wrong with waiting for when it feels right. That is call being smart.