Is this sexist or not?

[Yoshi13]

Girls can call other girls pretty or cute or sometimes even hot and not be considered lesbian, but if a guy said that another guy was even good looking or handsome, he gets called a faggot and gets discriminated, let alone calling another hot.
Girls can hug eachother and hold eachothers hand and stuff and not be called lesbian, but if a guy gives a normal hug (not no like handshake back pat, just a hug) they get called gay and get discriminated. does that have to do with boys being masculine and girls being feminine, or is it sexist.

I personally am an affectionate guy and if i become close to a friend, i will give them a hug every once in while. also, i dont find every single male ugly. Some males are ugly, and some arent. im not saying i think guys are like gorgeous or anything, but you get the picture. I dont know if that makes me slightly bi or something but i dont care what people think.

DONT TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY^^^ im not against gays, im actually the opposite. love is love whether is with a boy and a girl, a girl and a gir, or a guy and a guy.

so again, is that just division from masculinity and femininity or sexist? (no, i dont know if those are words or not, lol)

[Jon!]

absolutly agree, damn right it's sexist!! And from a gay's point of view, it's also annoying how i cant let a guy know he's good looking without them thinking i wana bone them! I dont want to do every guy i think is hot

[gargoylegoil]

I don't think it's sexist, it's more ignorance on human judgement.

[Nostalgic]

Guess its the masculine feminine thing and a bit sexist.

I've never really thought about it before. I just think for 99.9% of straight men its still a taboo subject.
Gay men will easily tell you if they think a girl is pretty or not and that doesn't mean they are bisexual.

[Xwikki]

I can definitely see the strain on guys complimenting eachother and whatever, as Nos said, it's the masculine and feminine thing. I guess most guys try to be as manly as possible and feel as though being sensitive/emotional would make em girly? I don't get any hugs from guys I know because apparently I seem to value my personal space and wouldn't like anyone near me, I've had several guys tell me that. Maybe they're just insecure? If you compliment anyone, be it male or female there's always that chance of rejection. I guess it's worse for guys 'cause women are considered more affectionate ect.

[Yoshi13]

See? Im the most affectionate male you will ever meet! I also find some males attractive/good looking. That doesnt make me bi or does it?

[SharA2]

No it isn't wrong, you are secure enough to express how you feel about others without being guarded like most other people may be-- if anything that makes you more advanced. You have learned to appreciate others regardless of gender, that does not make you bi unless you have sexual thoughts about those people and even then it would not make you bi, only young and curious.

[Yoshi13]

No, i just feel like some people are good looking and some are not and gender doesnt put a strain on it. Than again your talking about me, who cant watch a chick flick with my family without getting teary eyed. I am a very emotional and affectionate person so maybe thats the reason i am the way i am?

[Nostalgic]

No, i just feel like some people are good looking and some are not and gender doesnt put a strain on it. Than again your talking about me, who cant watch a chick flick with my family without getting teary eyed. I am a very emotional and affectionate person so maybe thats the reason i am the way i am?

I just think your a decent person who says what and how he feels no matter what he is "suppossed" to say and feel.

[Bubbydoll]

Nothing is wrong with you, sweetie, not a thing, you are one of the good hearted ones and we need more of you, nothing to feel awkward about or hide...be yourself, we wouldn't want you any other way.

[The Atomic Mango]

yes, it is. you are contrasting the sexes, after all.

people like to joke that i'm a lesbian because i don't act like the girls you described. it goes both ways.

[Yoshi13]

Oh thanks nossy and bubbydoll your sweethearts

exactly! @atomicmango

[SmileAreSexy]

Yosh it's okay to be emotional. We need more guys like you

One thing that pisses me off in paticular, and I see this a lot in high school, if a girl has sex, shes a whore right? But if a guy has sex, nobody bashes on him. I mean... what?? That doesn't make any sense! Every day I go to my first period and a girl that sits behind me gets bashed all the time for dressing slutty and sleeping with two guys in her past. It infuriates me because her friends in that class (most who are male but shes just friends) have had sex plenty of times but you never see them getting called on for it. A lot of students say that about her in the class and even the teacher gets on to her about it in front of everybody. I feel bad and I want to do something because, maybe she has more to deal with then what everyone realizes. Maybe at home her life is harder, then she has to deal with people calling her a slut all the time at school. Just because shes made mistakes in the past doesn't mean she cant learn from it now and help herself.

It's like having two people commit the same crime but one of them gets off because they're a certain race or sex or believe in a certain religion, it sickens me!