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by **chocobo** on Fri Nov 04, 2011 10:40 am

How can you tell between puppy love, and real love?

by **DocScott** on Fri Nov 04, 2011 10:47 am

It is really hard to distinguish actually. Mainly because puppy love usually happens in teenagers. The teenagers meet and have very strong feelings for each other. I know as a teenager my emotions are a crazy train on a hell train track. But they are strong and true. Parents and adults will tell them that it is just a "puppy love" and this angers the teenager because they feel that the adults do not think that the teenagers are capable of love. In some senses puppy love can be really strong. True love is that real deal kind of feeling. Puppy love can be true love or become true love. Its amazing the amount of passion some young adults put into relationships. So to answer your question i would say puppy love usually happens quicker and is more likely to end faster.

by **barbydoll91** on Sun Nov 06, 2011 4:34 pm

DocScott wrote:
sayuri wrote:That does make sense. Thanks!
Though that leads me to another question. Why do you think people compare their newest relationship to that of their last?

Comparisons help their mind settle around the new relationship. Especially depending on the last relationship was many different comparisons could occur. If the last one ended badly they could hold back in this new relationship. if it was a great relationship they might just to copy it so as to get the same outcome minus the break up. Comparisons are just things that we humans do naturally.

Youre pretty close on that one but its called transferance theres a book on it called 'when the past is the present' to sum it up our subconcous is recreating our past for whatever reason in some cases we really are repeating our history, the subconcous is atempting to resolve the unresolved. In other cases it's like a mirror effect (can't remember the name for it the moment, but all relating to transferance ). Anyhow how weather good or bad we all experience transference in our every day lives it's what attracts and repulses us to people.

by **currentswelz** on Sun Nov 06, 2011 8:13 pm

hey doc ...
i was just wondering what you think i should do..my situation is i never am in long lasting relationships and frankly kinda have anxiety towards the opposite sex. not in the sense that i cant talk to girls because i can its just as far as taking to them with the intent to attract them i just have alota fear which really hasnt been a huge problem in life but im kinda now realizing that i would really like a girlfriend and am kinda lost as to what i should do. i really know i need to overcome this but any direction would be nice thanks alot!

by **sayuri** on Tue Nov 08, 2011 12:35 pm

currentswelz wrote:hey doc ...
i was just wondering what you think i should do..my situation is i never am in long lasting relationships and frankly kinda have anxiety towards the opposite sex. not in the sense that i cant talk to girls because i can its just as far as taking to them with the intent to attract them i just have alota fear which really hasnt been a huge problem in life but im kinda now realizing that i would really like a girlfriend and am kinda lost as to what i should do. i really know i need to overcome this but any direction would be nice thanks alot!

I have a little bit of the same problem... Except with guys, normally what I do before actually talking to a person in trying to attract, I do a bit of a confidence booster called a Mantra which is where you emphasizer on what you like about yourself... You should try it

by **mellydoglover** on Tue Nov 08, 2011 4:33 pm

Hi there,
I need some help with interpreting a dream that I had last night.
I was at my Aunt's house, when all of a sudden this boy comes knocking on the door.
My cousin who is one year older then me begins speaking to him. They are best friends.
Then he begins talking to me. By the end of the night we become the best of friends and start flirting
with each other and etc.. This dream creeped me out a little bit because I saw my cousins friend 5 years ago.
I saw him from afar many years ago playing with my cousin. I have never spoken to him, and never spoke about him.
I have a great memory, so seeing his face, it reminded me of someone. My cousin today shows me a picture of one of his friends. I was in shock. It was the friend that I had a dream about last night. I just find this so weird. Please help me. I would appreciate it very much.
Sincerely,
Melly

by **JeremyM** on Thu Nov 10, 2011 7:09 pm

Is it wrong to attach love to others in written word etc. that you are not in a relationship with?
Or is that female jealousy saying it is wrong?

by **chocobo** on Fri Nov 11, 2011 1:02 pm

to mellydoglover sometimes we have dreams that shows future things. its called dashavue. Dont worry so much about the dream unless it becomes frighting.

to JeremyM if you are writeing love things for another woman, then its obvous you dont love the one your with truely. Or the other woman is your muse for writeing.

by **JeremyM** on Sat Nov 12, 2011 12:53 pm

Thanks, chocobo. I only meant when signing a text or an email.

Not signing it as, I am in love with you, just you are one of the important people still in my life, same as I say to family, I do with female friends.

I don't see the harm in it, wanting to know if I am wrong?

by **chocobo** on Sun Nov 13, 2011 4:30 am

ok JeremyM i understand what you mean, as much as you like doing that, i would suggest not to do it with every friends that are girls. it would make your girl friend feel unimprtant that you sing or text to all the other girls. then she will truely wonder if you care about her at all, and eventully would leave. if you dont make her feel special in someway you don't do with your female friends, then your relationship would be doomed no matter who it is.

by **JeremyM** on Sun Nov 13, 2011 2:30 pm

I don't do it with all my female friends only a chosen few who I have known 6 plus years now. Long before ever meeting my girl now.

I don't say I love you to them, Love, Jeremy is how I sign it.

I proposed to her, she knows I love her and she is above all others. But she is still insecure, and for no reason because none of those others were women I even dated, only close friends.

I get what you are telling me, chocobo. But shouldn't she understand me too?

by **chocobo** on Mon Nov 14, 2011 4:04 am

JeremyM sometimes fear takes place of the insecurity. she dosn't want to lose you, im sure in the deep of her mind she understands. you have to understand where she comes from too, try and be in her shoes. She is writing things for her friends that are male, and doing what you do. Don't think logicaly because you do it. I am sure if she was doing that you would feel a bit insecure to of loseing her. yes i know you don't love these other women, but maybe you could just tell your friends how much they mean to you, and only write to your gf. i know it dosn't seem fair, but it might help her feel more secure. you can still tell your friends how much they mean to you nothing wrong with that. just tone it down a bit.

by **DocScott** on Mon Nov 14, 2011 2:45 pm

Hey guys! Sorry i have been absent for so long. I had a school play that i was in and then i came down with a horrible flu. I am back now though and will resume my advice asap. Again sorry.

by **DocScott** on Mon Nov 14, 2011 2:47 pm

currentswelz wrote:hey doc ...
i was just wondering what you think i should do..my situation is i never am in long lasting relationships and frankly kinda have anxiety towards the opposite sex. not in the sense that i cant talk to girls because i can its just as far as taking to them with the intent to attract them i just have alota fear which really hasnt been a huge problem in life but im kinda now realizing that i would really like a girlfriend and am kinda lost as to what i should do. i really know i need to overcome this but any direction would be nice thanks alot!

Well advice to you is pretty simple. Honestly you just have to be yourself. And as Sayuri said boost your own confidence. Make your self seem good to yourself and others will exactly the same.

by **DocScott** on Mon Nov 14, 2011 2:50 pm

mellydoglover wrote:Hi there,
I need some help with interpreting a dream that I had last night.
I was at my Aunt's house, when all of a sudden this boy comes knocking on the door.
My cousin who is one year older then me begins speaking to him. They are best friends.
Then he begins talking to me. By the end of the night we become the best of friends and start flirting
with each other and etc.. This dream creeped me out a little bit because I saw my cousins friend 5 years ago.
I saw him from afar many years ago playing with my cousin. I have never spoken to him, and never spoke about him.
I have a great memory, so seeing his face, it reminded me of someone. My cousin today shows me a picture of one of his friends. I was in shock. It was the friend that I had a dream about last night. I just find this so weird. Please help me. I would appreciate it very much.
Sincerely,
Melly

Well as you said you have a great memory perhaps your mind is telling you that you want to date and is just putting a face to the "man of your dreams" Other than that i dont see much other significance in the dream.

by **DocScott** on Mon Nov 14, 2011 2:53 pm

To JeremyM. I see your problem and from your significant others point of view it is a problem so you should try to reduce it from happening. I get where you are coming from but sometimes its the little things that bother people.

by **sayuri** on Mon Nov 14, 2011 3:55 pm

DocScott wrote:To JeremyM. I see your problem and from your significant others point of view it is a problem so you should try to reduce it from happening. I get where you are coming from but sometimes its the little things that bother people.

I completely agree, but Jeremy I must pose this question: Have you tried asking her why it bothers her? Or explaining that theyre only friends?

by **JeremyM** on Mon Nov 14, 2011 10:52 pm

chocobo wrote:JeremyM sometimes fear takes place of the insecurity. she dosn't want to lose you, im sure in the deep of her mind she understands. you have to understand where she comes from too, try and be in her shoes. She is writing things for her friends that are male, and doing what you do. Don't think logicaly because you do it. I am sure if she was doing that you would feel a bit insecure to of loseing her. yes i know you don't love these other women, but maybe you could just tell your friends how much they mean to you, and only write to your gf. i know it dosn't seem fair, but it might help her feel more secure. you can still tell your friends how much they mean to you nothing wrong with that. just tone it down a bit.

But she doesn't need to make me feel like a bad dog for not even doing anything wrong against her, I am being me, the guy she loves.

If she signed Love, Cheryl to her older male friends, it wouldn't bother me.
If she was telling them "i love you" or more, then I would think what is this. Especially if she was hiding it, but I am not hiding anything.

I tell her plenty others never hear from me. I told my mother about it and her issue was why was Cheryl reading your phone texts? She was shocked that didn't bother me.

by **JeremyM** on Mon Nov 14, 2011 10:58 pm

DocScott wrote:To JeremyM. I see your problem and from your significant others point of view it is a problem so you should try to reduce it from happening. I get where you are coming from but sometimes its the little things that bother people.

I think she was really searching for something - anything to latch onto and complain about, because to me this is a non issue. Like you said a little thing.

@ sayuri
I have talked to her and all she says is "stop doing it. I don't like it" and I reply because you are feeling jealous? and she has a fit and denies.

She knows they are friends and I have known them years before ever knowing her. She is friendly with some even. Go figure. lolz

by **zgirl** on Tue Nov 15, 2011 3:22 pm

So, I like this guy. I mean we have been close ever since we were little and now I am in 10th and he is in 9th and suddenly I have started having feelings for him. I don't know if I should tell him or not. How do I know if he likes me too??? I really don't want to mess up our friendship.

by **Stargazer199713** on Tue Nov 15, 2011 8:09 pm

Hey doc. My name is Taylor. I am 14. I like three guys..
Guy #1 is my ex & he likes me & I like him, but he is refusing to date me but says he wants to kiss me...
Guy #2 is also my ex, but I have absolutely no clue if he likes me.
Guy #3 i've liked for awhile.. I took him & a group of friends to the movies recently & I overheard him & his best friend Cameron talking. I only heard parts... Cameron said: just go over there & tlk about your feelings...
The prob w/ that is that I was with 6 other girls. One of them was guy # 3's ex.
I've given up on guy #1 but how can i ask guys2&3 if they like me without hurting my friendship with them?? :hugs:

PLEASE HELP!
Taylor

by **DocScott** on Wed Nov 16, 2011 1:43 pm

JeremyM wrote:
She knows they are friends and I have known them years before ever knowing her. She is friendly with some even. Go figure. lolz

Honestly best thing you can do is keep ensuring her that it isnt a big deal and honestly. Unless it is a big deal to you then stop doing it.

by **DocScott** on Wed Nov 16, 2011 1:45 pm

zgirl wrote:So, I like this guy. I mean we have been close ever since we were little and now I am in 10th and he is in 9th and suddenly I have started having feelings for him. I don't know if I should tell him or not. How do I know if he likes me too??? I really don't want to mess up our friendship.

Well if you are good friends then just talk to him about it. If he feels the same way a relationship could blossom from it if he doesn't then you just need to accept that and keep the friendship strong.

by **DocScott** on Wed Nov 16, 2011 1:47 pm

Stargazer199713 wrote:Hey doc. My name is Taylor. I am 14. I like three guys..
Guy #1 is my ex & he likes me & I like him, but he is refusing to date me but says he wants to kiss me...
Guy #2 is also my ex, but I have absolutely no clue if he likes me.
Guy #3 i've liked for awhile.. I took him & a group of friends to the movies recently & I overheard him & his best friend Cameron talking. I only heard parts... Cameron said: just go over there & tlk about your feelings...
The prob w/ that is that I was with 6 other girls. One of them was guy # 3's ex.
I've given up on guy #1 but how can i ask guys2&3 if they like me without hurting my friendship with them??
PLEASE HELP!
Taylor

Well, there is no promise of keeping the friendship but the only way to find if they like you is talking to them. Also you need to decide on ONE guy don't keep a 50/50 possibility. Choose one and go for him.

by **JeremyM** on Thu Nov 17, 2011 1:09 am

DocScott wrote:
JeremyM wrote:
She knows they are friends and I have known them years before ever knowing her. She is friendly with some even. Go figure. lolz

Honestly best thing you can do is keep ensuring her that it isnt a big deal and honestly. Unless it is a big deal to you then stop doing it.

It is bothering me that she isn't even trying to curb her insecurities.

They must be real comforting to her. Think I will delete [all] texts from now on.

by **Chasing Rainbows** on Thu Nov 17, 2011 8:52 am

Well done BTW DocScott. I'm highly suspicious of anyone trying to set themselves up as an agony aunt or uncle, but you generally seem to be offering good advice. You're an asset to this forum my freind!

I'm just going to question this one a little though.

DocScott wrote:It is really hard to distinguish actually. Mainly because puppy love usually happens in teenagers. The teenagers meet and have very strong feelings for each other. I know as a teenager my emotions are a crazy train on a hell train track. But they are strong and true. Parents and adults will tell them that it is just a "puppy love" and this angers the teenager because they feel that the adults do not think that the teenagers are capable of love. In some senses puppy love can be really strong. True love is that real deal kind of feeling. Puppy love can be true love or become true love. Its amazing the amount of passion some young adults put into relationships. So to answer your question i would say puppy love usually happens quicker and is more likely to end faster.

Teenage romance can be very intense and with strong emotion. I think it's called puppy love because the lack of experience causes teenagers to draw on TV and movie cliches rather than true heart to express their emotions. Perhaps also because changing personalities at this time of life can cause 'puppy love' to be a transient thing as teenagers change and grow apart as their adult lives go on different paths.

It's nevertheless no more or less valid than the love between man and wife and shouldnt be mocked or taken lightly.

EDIT: teenagers are unfortunately more likely to make PDAs (public dispalys of affection). And these make me want to.... :hurl:

by **DocScott** on Mon Nov 28, 2011 2:46 pm

Chasing Rainbows wrote:Well done BTW DocScott. I'm highly suspicious of anyone trying to set themselves up as an agony aunt or uncle, but you generally seem to be offering good advice. You're an asset to this forum my freind!

I'm just going to question this one a little though.

DocScott wrote:It is really hard to distinguish actually. Mainly because puppy love usually happens in teenagers. The teenagers meet and have very strong feelings for each other. I know as a teenager my emotions are a crazy train on a hell train track. But they are strong and true. Parents and adults will tell them that it is just a "puppy love" and this angers the teenager because they feel that the adults do not think that the teenagers are capable of love. In some senses puppy love can be really strong. True love is that real deal kind of feeling. Puppy love can be true love or become true love. Its amazing the amount of passion some young adults put into relationships. So to answer your question i would say puppy love usually happens quicker and is more likely to end faster.

Teenage romance can be very intense and with strong emotion. I think it's called puppy love because the lack of experience causes teenagers to draw on TV and movie cliches rather than true heart to express their emotions. Perhaps also because changing personalities at this time of life can cause 'puppy love' to be a transient thing as teenagers change and grow apart as their adult lives go on different paths.

It's nevertheless no more or less valid than the love between man and wife and shouldnt be mocked or taken lightly.

EDIT: teenagers are unfortunately more likely to make PDAs (public dispalys of affection). And these make me want to....

Ah thank you for your compliments. I also see where you are coming from on your interpretation on the subject of Puppy love. There isnt one right answer. Its how you feel about it. I get the experience aspect. But how do you measure experience when it comes to love?

by **sayuri** on Tue Nov 29, 2011 4:23 pm

@ sayuri
I have talked to her and all she says is "stop doing it. I don't like it" and I reply because you are feeling jealous? and she has a fit and denies.

She knows they are friends and I have known them years before ever knowing her. She is friendly with some even. Go figure. lolz

See thats the thing about girls (though i cant speak all girls) we can be very protective of our SO (but im pretty sure guys can be too) Cuz personally if my guy hung out with other girls all the time, I would feel insecure I mean think about it if the shoe was on the other foot, If she hung out with a bunch of guys you would feel the same way wouldnt you?

by **ThisismyCalling** on Sun Dec 04, 2011 9:19 pm

Doc. I got a question.

Do you believe Jealousy is vital to a relationship? I know many men who complain to me that they hate their girlfriends hanging out with guys or hugging guys or anything besides themselves. I personally see this has horribly detrimental to a relationship and trust, but they have 2, 3 year plus relationships going on. I have never had one for more than 6 months, and i never get jealous. I dont understand whats going on here. Do you think girls need jealousy in men? or are simply attracted to really territorial humans? I cant think of anything.

by **DocScott** on Wed Dec 07, 2011 1:12 pm

ThisismyCalling wrote:Doc. I got a question.

Do you believe Jealousy is vital to a relationship? I know many men who complain to me that they hate their girlfriends hanging out with guys or hugging guys or anything besides themselves. I personally see this has horribly detrimental to a relationship and trust, but they have 2, 3 year plus relationships going on. I have never had one for more than 6 months, and i never get jealous. I dont understand whats going on here. Do you think girls need jealousy in men? or are simply attracted to really territorial humans? I cant think of anything.

Well your right on both questions. It is a natural subconscious urge to want a very masculine man. But also if the guy wasnt a little jealous then the girl might just feel unwanted. So yes i do believe that there need to be a little bit of protectorship on the guy side but it cant be taken too far. Ever girl needs her space and time with other people.

by **dali_7s** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 1:00 am

Okay since no one has really posted anything helpful under my post I'll ask you.... coming from a guys point of view as well as a future psychologist's view...
How do you know when a guy that your talking to (not official yet) really likes you or just wants something from you? I'm 21 and a virgin so as you guys know not many people are at my age. A male friend of mine told me that guys usually don't try that hard, but since I am a virgin that might make a difference.We've been talking since the beginning of Nov. We txt each throughout the day and we talk every night and usually we fall asleep on each other. We haven't been able to see each other much since I go to school an hr away, but when I am in town he does want to see me.
Also, when we 1st started talking I got it in my head and had it in my head up until like a few days ago that he was talking to this other girl... but I think that was just my trust issues with guys in general... I mean guys can be very slick and even though we do talk every night till we fall asleep that doesn't mean he's not talking to someone else does it? Idk but I think what frustrates me the most is not knowing if he really likes me or if I'm just a challenge.

by **PrettyBitch** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 1:59 am

by **St. Dymphna** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 6:50 am

what a whore

by **PrettyBitch** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 11:21 am

im a whore?

by **parousia** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 2:40 pm

you fit the profile; outstanding username, by the way. real classy

by **PrettyBitch** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 2:44 pm

by **parousia** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 2:53 pm

my avatar is interchangeable, though. you, however, will still wake up tomorrow, and every day after with absolutely nothing to strive for. the profile of a whore: it's all good, like a mug even.

by **sayuri** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 3:14 pm

PrettyBitch wrote:I've always been attracted to girls, ever since I was 14..but I've always dated guys, I dated a girl once when I was 15 for like 2 weeks, but we only held hands..nothing more. When I drink though, I tend to mess around with girls and not guys. but I've only done stuff with girls when I'm drunk. I'm dating a guy right now who I've been with over a year, & I really care about him, but I'm not into him like that..I really think I like girls. What should I do?

Be honest with him, let him know that youre not into him like youre into girls. Either way theres going to be heartache. I mean if the shoe were on the other foot wouldn't you want him to tell you instead of leading you on?

by **PrettyBitch** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 3:19 pm

by **PrettyBitch** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 3:23 pm

by **parousia** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 4:01 pm

PrettyBitch wrote:a username doesn't define someone.

it's an intimate look into their psyche, so yeah, it's pretty defining

you will wake up everyday, being a judgmental dickhead. you obviously don't have a life outside of dream world..since you have time to read my stuff and make rude comments for no apparent reason.

you're a handful of post in, and already you've shown the moral extent of your self control. threads asking if your gay, when clearly you are; redundant, and actually quite pathetic. this coupled with the user name PrettyBitch is more than 'apparent reason' to express my concern as to your mental state

you don't even know me, you dont even know my name.

that's why i said you fit the profile of a whore

you're probably just mad that you can't get a pretty girl..so you hate them.

i thought you said i didn't know who you were, or even your name, implying i have no idea as what you look like
if this is true, then of what relevance to this conversation is your comment as to what type of woman i have/can date

it's ok though, everyone has their problems, that's why were on here right? but calling me a whore doesnt make you better than me.

my 'problem' is simple: slutty mentality; all for naught?

my user name is from a song btw, i couldnt think of anything that wasn't already taken, so that's why i made it. i didnt care what it was

so the first name to pop into your head was PrettyBitch
if the profile stinks of whore, why would choice in music be any different

by **PrettyBitch** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 4:45 pm

by **The Atomic Mango** on Sun Dec 11, 2011 8:09 pm

you get drunk and mess around with girls. that's a whore.

it's amazing how low society's standards have fallen.

by **sayuri** on Thu Jan 12, 2012 1:19 pm

dali_7s wrote:Okay since no one has really posted anything helpful under my post I'll ask you.... coming from a guys point of view as well as a future psychologist's view...
How do you know when a guy that your talking to (not official yet) really likes you or just wants something from you? I'm 21 and a virgin so as you guys know not many people are at my age. A male friend of mine told me that guys usually don't try that hard, but since I am a virgin that might make a difference.We've been talking since the beginning of Nov. We txt each throughout the day and we talk every night and usually we fall asleep on each other. We haven't been able to see each other much since I go to school an hr away, but when I am in town he does want to see me.
Also, when we 1st started talking I got it in my head and had it in my head up until like a few days ago that he was talking to this other girl... but I think that was just my trust issues with guys in general... I mean guys can be very slick and even though we do talk every night till we fall asleep that doesn't mean he's not talking to someone else does it? Idk but I think what frustrates me the most is not knowing if he really likes me or if I'm just a challenge.

You could always try opening up to him, I mean all good relationships need clear communication anyways so why not?

by **pezzonovante** on Thu Jan 12, 2012 1:45 pm

Hey, Doc. Can you check out my post under "dating and love relationships advice"? It's called "Kiss-kiss! Is this dream as simple as it seems?" I'm particularly puzzled by the dream dictionary's explanation for a kiss on the neck. I dreamed I was kissed on the neck, but it doesn't seem like in the sense the dictionary gives for it. Please read my post for further explanation.

Thanks!
- P.

by **la3gat** on Thu Jan 12, 2012 3:24 pm

hi Doc, i need some advice. my ex broke our relationship because we couldn't manage the situation of each other. it happened exactly a month after he entered medical school. I needed him by my side, but he seemed different like the one he ever said he would be. He ever said he needed my support in his study but he hardly ever searched for me while he entered that school. We had a great fight but when I already understood what to do, he broke the relationship. He was the one that taught me to fight in our relationship but he left me. Now, i have to move on. But still i can't stop thinking about any possibilities may happen in the future. Thank you for reading this

by **sayuri** on Tue Jan 31, 2012 2:35 pm

la3gat wrote:hi Doc, i need some advice. my ex broke our relationship because we couldn't manage the situation of each other. it happened exactly a month after he entered medical school. I needed him by my side, but he seemed different like the one he ever said he would be. He ever said he needed my support in his study but he hardly ever searched for me while he entered that school. We had a great fight but when I already understood what to do, he broke the relationship. He was the one that taught me to fight in our relationship but he left me. Now, i have to move on. But still i can't stop thinking about any possibilities may happen in the future. Thank you for reading this

It sounds like the guy doesnt know what he wants... Its natural for you to think of what may happen in the future as it sounds to be an unresolved relationship. Perhaps he owes you an answer before you can move on?

by **Justified** on Wed May 23, 2012 11:10 pm

Is dating a co worker asking for more headaches than it is worth?

by **sayuri** on Tue May 29, 2012 1:47 pm

Justified wrote:Is dating a co worker asking for more headaches than it is worth?

Well it can be in some instances but in other ones not. I personally know people who have met at work and have been happy, though that being said some couples dissintegrate faster because they see each other all the time. Personally though, I dont think dating a co worker is a headache but i personally wouldnt do it cuz then you would be seeing each other all the dang time and wouldnt have any time away from each other.
~Sayu Chan~

by **crystalyn** on Thu May 31, 2012 5:27 am

so im dating this guy... hes very clingy, but thats fine with me to an extent. I really do care about him alot..I can see myself with him for a long time. But im moving a hour or 2 away depending on who is driving, and iv been kinda flirty with other people and honestly, i dont even want a boyfriend. I am always in a relationship, and im tired of having to answer to any guy about who im talking to, where im going, or what im doing. I want some independence and honestly i just want to have fun too. I want to date this guy but just not right now or any time soon. But like i said he is clingy. And he doesnt want to break up. Last time we broke up which was my fault because i felt the same way i do now, he was extremely depressed, always downing himself, and he just wasnt okay. Like i said i really care about him so i dont want to hurt him....Hes more sensitive then me too, and its pretty easy to hurt his feelings even if he says its not.. and i couldnt stand seeing him as upset as he was so i started hanging out with him again on the weekends and he asked me out and i said yes because i really do like him alot... but i dont know what to do... i dont want to hurt him, he does make me happy, hes a sweet heart and an amazing boyfriend, but... i dont want to be tied down i guess. I know that sounds wrong but i cant help it. I want to talk to him about it, but im not sure i can without breaking his heart.