Advice from a girl, or guy. Please. Appreciate it.

[EgoNbody]

Well I will try to keep this short and comprehensible.

Okay so I met a girl just about 2 months ago, by talking to her on facebook. after a week of talking we decided to meet in school because we go to the same high school. So we met and about two weeks later we decided it would be nice if we got together outside of school. So I drove to her house on a Friday and I spent the night at her place. I might have not though things a little better when I made the choice to spend the night at her house, but her parents were okay with it so I though it was okay then. That night I got to kiss her for the first time and things took a rather fast turn I guess cause we end up on her bed. The next day I drove home and I was as happy as I have been in a while. Because I had sex yes, but also because I really liked her and I though I had made good progress with her. So I ask her out the same week, actually after we first had sex I ask her to be my girlfriend. So the next weekend I go to her house again, I stayed there for the whole weekend and we had plan stuff to do while I was going to be at her house but instead we did other things and I got the feeling that we were being a bit boring. Even tho I did enjoy all the time we spent together. A week later though after I ask her out she said that if were going to work things out we had to be better friends first and so we decided to just be friends for the time being, her reason was that she didn't felt ready to be committed to a relationship. She also had broken up with her cheating boyfriend 2 months prior meeting me. And well just a little over a week ago she told me she felt smothered and that she felt things wouldn't work out between us and that we needed to stop talking ans seeing each other in between classes at school. What I need help with is I want to approach her and let her know how I feel but I don't how good of an idea this is since the reaction from her could be that she wants me to leave her alone for good. This has been depressing me everyday. Advice me on this one, somebody.

[claudia707]

i think you should go up to her and tell her how you really feel about her because if you really loved her you wouldnt forget about her ! tell her that your different and you want to work things out

[EgoNbody]

Yeah after a lot of thinking and some friend talking I have decided I better let her know how I feel in person. Thanks for your input 707. California? ^_^

[Guardian7347]

Be careful and don't jump the gun on this one. She's like a deer. If you move too quickly you'll spook her and she'll run off. Hang out with her once or twice, without any relationship attachments, then the next time you hang out together, just kind of casually mention that fact that you still have her on your mind, and you'd kind of like to give it a shot. Then you can make your case. Anything else and I fear she may decide you're clingy and needy and run like hell.

[EgoNbody]

I understand what you are saying. The thing is tho, she already doesn't want to talk to me, or that's what she said, after ten days without talking this morning I went up to her and kinda told her that it was hurting me not talking to her and that we should not just put away the relationship we already had as friends. And I ask her to walk her to class but she said no so I kinda just stodd there no knowing what to do, she said sorry and we both walked our own way. I don't think I'm going to call it a lost yet because she smiled at me while I talked to her so just that tells me she was happy to see me or something..

[Guardian7347]

cut your losses. She's gone. She smiled either out of nervousness or courtesy. She's made it pretty clear where she stands on this one.

[EgoNbody]

I have now found out that she is going out with some guy who lives in New York (where she told she wants to go to college to study culinary arts). I just wish that she would have been honest and to tell me she liked someone else. Instead of lying to me and telling me she wasn't interested in any guys but rather too busy with school.

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Recognition, got the balls to talk to her, we met, liked her, felt good, ohoh back into the friend zone, felt she didn't find me interesting, so I suffered, I though of it all again and again.