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Falling in love with my non-girlfriend friend/non-friend

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Falling in love with my non-girlfriend friend/non-friend

Postby TheArcticBear » Sun Apr 02, 2017 3:07 pm

Hi there :)

A bit of info prior to the dream:

I am currently studying for my degree at university, and in my first year I met this girl who is in my class. I fell in love with her after a few weeks of meeting her. For anonymity, I shall call her Jenny. Now, I informed Jenny that I was interested in her, but she rejected me a week later stating that 'she had a boyfriend'. I said that I accept that even though I was heartbroken inside (I was quite tearful and upset for a short while). We didn't talk very much from the start and still don't talk very much because I think she is very shy and introverted, whereas I am quite outspoken and extroverted.
Times have moved on since then and I have kept my feelings for her hidden. We are both now going onto our final year soon. We talk a bit to each other now, but only because I think that she is used to me and knows me a bit better. I still have the same feelings for her and would like to be with her. However, from what I have experienced, she is quite timid when talking to people, she doesn't speak until spoken to etc. She is also like this with the girls in the class who she is supposedly friends with. The reason I know is because I am also friends with them and in conversation, they have told me this.

Now, onto the dream.

This dream begins with Jenny being in a relationship with another guy (his identity is not revealed in this dream and is nameless). In the dream Jenny reveals to me that she does not love the guy who she is currently with. While in university, after one of the lectures, she reveals to me that she is in love with me and I reject her saying that I am not interested in her, and she runs away crying and sobbing deeply. I feel really bad afterwards because I am in love with her and do care for her a lot. So I chase after her outside the university and down the street, I catch up to her, stop her and admit to her that I feel exactly the same way that she does about me. I wipe away her tears and we embrace. So, then she dumps her current boyfriend and we get together. The next thing I know, she becomes pregnant with my child and we can't bear to be outside of arms length of each other, we had those sort of deep feelings for each other.

So, Jenny's ex-boyfriend comes back into the picture saying that he does not want Jenny to leave her, and attempts to pull her away from me. In doing so, Jenny resists and slaps him around the face. He then pulls out a gun and threatens to shoot the both of us if she will not return to him. So me and Jenny both run away and hide. He chases us through a few meadows and fields, but we get away and lose him.

Afterwards, Me and Jenny build our own home and make a nice place for our baby to be born while at the same time becoming attached by the hip (completely inseparable) than ever before. The dream ends quite suddenly there with me wondering what does this mean for me because these feelings that I have for her have resurfaced and are a bit stronger than before.

So , what do you think of this dream?
I am so confused about this. :(
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Re: Falling in love with my non-girlfriend friend/non-friend

Postby TheArcticBear » Sat Apr 15, 2017 11:03 pm

Can anyone help me with this? I'd really appreciate it :)

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Re: Falling in love with my non-girlfriend friend/non-friend

Postby Superman1 » Sun Apr 16, 2017 10:39 pm

You probably don't want her to like the other guy, whether he exists or not, but you have to reject your love for her due to her not reciprocating, which deeply saddens you.
But though you have to hide your feelings, you can't hide them from yourself, so must admit how you feel.
Her loving you is how you feel about her. And you want to be close and always with her, in a new relationship which the child you share may mean, never losing her again.

But I guess reality takes over.
She can't be with you, as much as you resist, and you two seem shot because she chose the other.
You may run and hide from it, and want to escape that, maybe wishing for the natural open development to happen between you two, and get away from him.

To build your relationship, be joined even closer, or inseparable.
But this ends suddenly, it's just a dream at this point, though your feelings for her have grown.

So basically it seems it's about your love for her and that not being fulfilled, at this time anyway.

Maybe it can be seen as symbolism just about yourself, which could mean she represents an unfulfilled part of you, that may be introverted, and can even be why you felt attracted to her to start with.
I am curious why you were. Looks? Shyness? It seems sudden and full on, perhaps suggesting an inner need, or slight imbalance. Is there a shy part of you, such as feelings or deeper connection, that you want to join with? That nameless other guy might be you, and this would bring home the full power of a dream, because otherwise it's too literal, and the dream probably wouldn't waste it's time with that.
We often project outward what we need inside. And this can explain better why you rejected her love. If you rejected this part of yourself, even unawares, and maybe she is the part of yourself that enables loving yourself more and being more complete.
I could even go so far as suggesting that maybe this outer experience, like many may be, is a lesson, by being a projection of oneself.
Maybe you hide your feelings a bit, as you must for her. That would be a fantastic rhyme with reality. And that you want to join with this more feminine side that is being closer with yourself, and having a new relationship with you, otherwise you might feel sad.
Well even I didn't expect that. Did I go too far? Maybe. What you think now?
The beauty of this is also that the other answer can still be true.
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