Reoccuring dead baby nightmare - any advice?

[LauraG]

I've had this dream right about once a month for the last 15 years...and I turned 30 last week.
It starts with me sitting on a floaty tube in some water. I can see the water is dirty and there are pipes beneath the surface, but still I jump in and start swimming with my eyes open. I see something up ahead, a sideways figure, then swim to it. I push it to basically roll it over and see it better, and it's clearly a dead baby. Just as I roll it over and realize what it is, the eyes pop open.
Every single time, I wake up drenched in sweat, sometimes crying, and I've been told that I scream and cry in my sleep. It's hard for me to go back to sleep after, as I have that image (with the baby's eyes popped open) in my head all night.
I've kept a calendar and realize it's not with my "womanly" cycle as a doctor had suggested maybe it was a hormonal thing, and I've tried writing it out and rewriting the end, but I cant get rid of this one...Any advice?

[Domswallow]

I've had this dream right about once a month for the last 15 years...and I turned 30 last week.
It starts with me sitting on a floaty tube in some water. I can see the water is dirty and there are pipes beneath the surface, but still I jump in and start swimming with my eyes open. I see something up ahead, a sideways figure, then swim to it. I push it to basically roll it over and see it better, and it's clearly a dead baby. Just as I roll it over and realize what it is, the eyes pop open.
Every single time, I wake up drenched in sweat, sometimes crying, and I've been told that I scream and cry in my sleep. It's hard for me to go back to sleep after, as I have that image (with the baby's eyes popped open) in my head all night.
I've kept a calendar and realize it's not with my "womanly" cycle as a doctor had suggested maybe it was a hormonal thing, and I've tried writing it out and rewriting the end, but I cant get rid of this one...Any advice?

Hi,
There is obviously a psychological hang-up in your life; something to do with children. I would not go into personal details.
However the dreams are caused by your sleeping position. You may not accept it or may not believe it but the dreams happen when you're sleeping on your belly. Your dream describes your sleeping position; looking downwards into the water! this sleeping position causes breathlessness and discomfort. Your subconscious throws in baby to wake you up. I'm sure you know why looking at a baby wakes you up.

[auroraroses1986]

I have had the same nightmare for the past few weeks. Its always the same one. I'm at a club for a friends birthday. There is loud music and strob lights and fog and everyone is having a good time. Suddenly there is a lot of yelling and swearing, people calling out witch, and baby killer. I head over to the sorce and there is a baby that is on the floor still as can be. Suddenly I'm yelling for someone to help the baby, someone give it CPR or something, the next thing that I know I'm in a small room under the club looking up and I keep screaming SOMEONE HELP THAT BABY! I'm trying to find my way to the baby so that I can help it and save it. However I'm unable to reach the baby. Then from the large group of people someone walks up to the baby and starts to kick the baby and yet no one trys to stop this person. The whole time that this person is kicking this poor helpless lifeless baby I hear laughter and then I wake up covered in sweat and I'm crying. My partner tells me that I scream in my sleep. Once I wake from the nightmare I am so terrified to go back to sleep that I will stay awake no matter what the cost. The longest I have been up is 48 hours without sleep. Its gotten to the point that I am thinking of ways to stay awake. What do I do?

[Domswallow]

Hi,
Dreams do important tasks during sleep, no matter how bad the dream is, it is helping the sleeper in some way.
Regarding the dreams, neither of you stated that you have babies. At 30 and 26, you think about babies, especially if you have none.
The question is do you have children?

[auroraroses1986]

I have had two miscarriages ad the last one was in april of last year. The 1st one I was three months along and the second one I was 24 weeks along.

[Domswallow]

I have had two miscarriages ad the last one was in april of last year. The 1st one I was three months along and the second one I was 24 weeks along.

Hi,
Thanks for your reply.
I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages. You have not gotten over the shock of the latest miscarriage and it impacts on your dream. However your biggest problem is worrying about carrying through, and having a healthy baby. I hope with good medical help you'll have children.
Best wishes.

[auroraroses1986]

Hi,
Thanks for your reply.
I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages. You have not gotten over the shock of the latest miscarriage and it impacts on your dream. However your biggest problem is worrying about carrying through, and having a healthy baby. I hope with good medical help you'll have children.
Best wishes.

Thanks for your reply. I'm not so sure about that. After my last miscarriage I was told that there was a HIGH risk of death, either while I'm carrying or during the birth. The doctors told me that after my second miscarriage. I was and I guess still kinda am very sad about that. I keep thinking that there has to be a way for me to have a baby or something. I have always had a way with children. I'm very good with my friends kids.

[LauraG]

Same goes with me and the original post, I'd guess; I miscarried twins at 6 months along after a bad fall. Both were stillbirths and it was traumatic. I know I've had the nightmares basically since then, but want to know if there's any meaning to the eyes popping open, and if there is any way to stop them. I've had other recurrent nightmares for weeks at a time, and a friend suggested writing them out with a different ending, then reading it daily. It actually worked, but not for my baby one. I know I feel guilty about it, and how do you not when you are 6 months pregnant and the babies pass?!?!? But I feel like I have grown past that, and I still have the dream, ugh!

[auroraroses1986]

I am so sorry for your loss. I would like to offer you a friendly ear if you would like it. I have recently tried to do the same thing that you have with the writing the dream out with a different ending but it doesn't seem to work. I have talked to some of my friends who have had the same misfortune but at times it doesn't seem to get any easier. I believe it takes a good amount of time for it to seem like it will pass but the waiting for that is so hard. I am not good with waiting as my friends tell me often. There are days that it seems that I'll never get over it and then there are days that I feel like everything will be ok but then I feel as if I am forgetting them. I was not as far along as you were but I know how hard it is to have this happen.

[cheimerman]

im a christian and i know exactly how end this reoccuring dream pray to God constantly and he will grant u good dreams. i used have nightmares every night and i prayed and i havent had a bad dream in years!!!

[cturek93]

So sorry for your loss! It can't be easy. I looked up eyes and found that it usually means that your subconscious wants you to relieze something, it can also mean that you have an emotional attachment to whatever the eyes are connected to, and that it wants to have a mutual understanding. Personally, I believe that your dead child is trying to tell you that his/her death wasn't your fault. When you find that baby it means that you are "recognizing a part of yourself that was previously repressed or undeveloped." Finding the child also means you are entering a new phase of life. I think the dead child is obvious since you have miscarried, but I looked it up just in case. I found that you need to let those memories die and let them go. The second dream you have of the baby I believe reinforces my theory that you blame yourself. People yell out "witch" and "babykiller." When you see a person kicks the baby you are left helpless and having someone kick something around means you feel that your baby is the victim and are being taken advantage of. Your dream is trying to tell you its not your fault so stop blaming yourself.
Hopefully that helps and again, I'm very sorry for your loss.

[LauraG]

I am so sorry for your loss. I would like to offer you a friendly ear if you would like it. I have recently tried to do the same thing that you have with the writing the dream out with a different ending but it doesn't seem to work. I have talked to some of my friends who have had the same misfortune but at times it doesn't seem to get any easier. I believe it takes a good amount of time for it to seem like it will pass but the waiting for that is so hard. I am not good with waiting as my friends tell me often. There are days that it seems that I'll never get over it and then there are days that I feel like everything will be ok but then I feel as if I am forgetting them. I was not as far along as you were but I know how hard it is to have this happen.

Thanks for the replies. I read yours and immediately froze when I noticed your username. I guess certain things strike me as too coincidental; your user name just did that too me. I even called my boyfriend and said "listen to this"...well, I'll take that as a sign in that perhaps I should take these suggestions to heart. I pray every night, for my 3 kids I have, for my family, and for peace with the life I've lived. Praying that you, too, find some peace with all of this sooner than later.