Freezing out BFs or GFs.

[gargoylegoil]

Take it easy, you two

[LifeChanges]

Hey, now... don't you go psychoanalyzing me in front of these kids , unless you want to take this to the 18+?

I'll take you anywhere!... uh....I mean, I'll take you in any position!....oh shit, wait!...I'll take you....oh fuck it!......me love you long time?

What I meant to say was...
Just got me a little hot and flustered there for a minute.

We have totally just high-jacked this thread. I need to behave myself

Behaving is SOOOO over-rated! If you always behave, then where's the justification for spanking?

You sir, are a horrible tease! If anyone needs a spanking it's you! Now get over here and take your licks.

GG, i'm trying! But, how can you turn him down? He's too good!

[Guardian7347]

Take it easy, you two

That's good advice actually....nice and easy.... that's not what you meant, is it?

[gargoylegoil]

No, but that's your perogative.

[Guardian7347]

Hey, now... don't you go psychoanalyzing me in front of these kids , unless you want to take this to the 18+?

I'll take you anywhere!... uh....I mean, I'll take you in any position!....oh shit, wait!...I'll take you....oh fuck it!......me love you long time?

What I meant to say was...
Just got me a little hot and flustered there for a minute.

We have totally just high-jacked this thread. I need to behave myself

Behaving is SOOOO over-rated! If you always behave, then where's the justification for spanking?

You sir, are a horrible tease! If anyone needs a spanking it's you! Now get over here and take your licks.

GG, i'm trying! But, how can you turn him down? He's too good!

What can I say...I'm good at what I do!

[gargoylegoil]

Well, then, I'll let you two go at it.....

[LifeChanges]

Oh my *fans herself* is it hot in here or is it just me?

[BLUE]

Oh it's just getting started...trust me

[Guardian7347]

Oh it's just getting started...trust me

My beloved little blue-eyed angel knows the devil she courts!

[Guardian7347]

Oh my *fans herself* is it hot in here or is it just me?

Is someone getting a little over-heated? Do you know what we do with heat casualties? We loosen or remove their clothing, and elevate their arms up over their head. This allows for maximum release of body heat. Do you need release?.....of body heat?

[BLUE]

Oh it's just getting started...trust me

My beloved little blue-eyed angel knows the devil she courts!

I love my devil and his wicked pointed...tail

[LifeChanges]

Oh my *fans herself* is it hot in here or is it just me?

Is someone getting a little over-heated? Do you know what we do with heat casualties? We loosen or remove their clothing, and elevate their arms up over their head. This allows for maximum release of body heat. Do you need release?.....of body heat?

I need release of something...

[LifeChanges]

Oh it's just getting started...trust me

My beloved little blue-eyed angel knows the devil she courts!

I love my devil and his wicked pointed...tail

You were right, what a wickedly delicious devil...

[BLUE]

*Big girlfriend huggles to LC*

Be good to her Sweetheart. I like her

[jojo]

CUT OUT THE CYBER FUCKING FLIRTING ON MY THREAD.

I already expressed more than clearly how little I think of married women and men who do that online, show some pride and self respect to you & your partner and stop it or take it privately if you are horny and want e-cock(in this case). I know Guardian and blue saw that thread I made on flirting in rant and if you were lurking Lifechanges you read it too, if not I will happily repost it in here for you to get a better idea of how low I think that shit is. And refrain from justifying it as innocent no one does that online and in public when they have a great relationship, something is wrong and you need attention.

No one wants to see this stuff in their threads, you all have sex forum access, I don't, so USE IT instead, thanks. Guardian you know better, take it to PMs, please.

Now to answer stuff that applies to the thread.

[jojo]

I picked sometimes. If it comes the point that the talking is combative, then there is no reason to hang around and fed the negativity.

That seems like the most common one, Shara.

I don't mind fighting with my partner if he pulls shit he thinks I will let slide, but I also don't want to give him the time of day when he does it either. Somewhere a lesson needs to be learned, right?

I'm a hopeless pacifist. I'm always trying to solve problems by talking and being a team with my gf. Because that's what a relationship is, a team (and not some friendship with benefits). Sometimes things can't be just talked away, so i just go out with my guitar for a few hours until things chill out and she calmed down. We both need some time on our own, and giving freedom is one of the best things you can do in a relationship.
But giving the fact that we're both "tree huggers", fights rarely occur, and most of the times, they can be solved by talking and hugging

Like they say No I in team. Do you think you are first to go and say sorry if something bad goes down between you, or is she? Do you respect each others space when calming down during that time out?
I like your comment about hugging.

sometimes it depends. i don't get mad easily and if i do i can be pretty degrading and belittling towards other people. i know i've hurt and embarrassed people when i'm like that so i try to keep my distance when i'm not in a mood. except if she was trying to impose her beliefs on me. i really hate when people try to impose something on me. but i can freeze out in other situations too. if i feel like she is becoming way too attached, or wants too much of my attention then i would ignore them for a while.

i'm basically like this with everyone regardless of the type of relationship.

Do you stop yourself when you find yourself going down that degrading road with your partner or you let it run its course and then go off?

You like women who do not smother you? Independent girls are more your style, but have you had independent girls turn clingy? Is that a sign for you to break up then.

...do you ever get tears used on you?...

I've heard that girls use the water works for manipulation. But, I've never really met a girl that has done that. If she's crying, she's really hurt. Personally, I hate crying in front of guy. It means you really got to me. I hate that; it makes me feel way to vulnerable and weak.

I voted for number three. It really does depend on the situation. Most of the times I want to talk it out. I will talk until I'm blue in the face. I hate being walked out on. Hate, hate, hate it. It is very disrespectful to me. Get yourself under control and come talk to me. Don't sweep it under the rug. I have my moments where I'm too pissed to talk. I might say something I'll regret. I just need a few minutes to cool down, then let's talk.

I asked that I think of JeremyM on his answer he gave, think he said yes he has had it used on him. I asked cuz I have relatives, GF's who do these, coworkers too, right back to my gran's days I know women will do this, like Guardian told you, some women will use what ever they can from stopping a man they love or are obsessed with from leaving them.

Tears are more for the loss they might see coming. Some of ones Guardian said might post on here, lol. I go between fighting and chilling out alone, I don't care if they see me cry if it matters to me enough to cry. I mostly cry over family and deaths, not much over relationships.

My answer would be sometimes. Sometimes you don't want to talk to the other person and the distance is best. On girls using tears, I have had it happen, I know others who have had it happen to them too, all ages.

You know even some guys will use tears, I heard about this recently, who knew.

In the 8 years we've been together. I can hoestly say I've only had to freeze him out less than a handful of times. And it wasn't long before we made up. The last time was right before we moved in together, we had a dumb argument and he wanted to call off the move. So, I froze him out for the night and was going to leave in the morning, when he came to me and said he realized it was a stupid mean thing to say. I told him, if we're going to live together, there WILL be spats. and that we can't leave over a spat. We have to talk about it and get over it.
He agreed, and now when we get to the point of a spat, we both STOP, cool off and discuss the issue without yellng or freezing out eachother.

You both probably have awesome communication skills, same as kali and her BF does. That way you can cope better with arguments arise, listen better too. People need to feel they are being heard by person they love. I like he came to you over that fight before your move in, it showed you how MUCH you mean to him. Good for rest of us to see who maybe hasn't had that type of experience.

[LifeChanges]

CUT OUT THE CYBER FUCKING FLIRTING ON MY THREAD.

I already expressed more than clearly how little I think of married women and men who do that online, show some pride and self respect to you & your partner and stop it or take it privately if you are horny and want e-cock(in this case). I know Guardian and blue saw that thread I made on flirting in rant and if you were lurking Lifechanges you read it too, if not I will happily repost it in here for you to get a better idea of how low I think that shit is. And refrain from justifying it as innocent no one does that online and in public when they have a great relationship, something is wrong and you need attention.

No one wants to see this stuff in their threads, you all have sex forum access, I don't, so USE IT instead, thanks. Guardian you know better, take it to PMs, please.

Now to answer stuff that applies to the thread.

Oooooh, you're feisty! Sounds like you could use a little release yourself But! I shall keep this diplorable behavior in the 18+ for now on . Toodles!

[BLUE]

CUT OUT THE CYBER FUCKING FLIRTING ON MY THREAD.

I already expressed more than clearly how little I think of married women and men who do that online, show some pride and self respect to you & your partner and stop it or take it privately if you are horny and want e-cock(in this case). I know Guardian and blue saw that thread I made on flirting in rant and if you were lurking Lifechanges you read it too, if not I will happily repost it in here for you to get a better idea of how low I think that shit is. And refrain from justifying it as innocent no one does that online and in public when they have a great relationship, something is wrong and you need attention.

No one wants to see this stuff in their threads, you all have sex forum access, I don't, so USE IT instead, thanks. Guardian you know better, take it to PMs, please.

Now to answer stuff that applies to the thread.

Sorry Jojo Please forgive, I had forgotten. I will behave

[Nostalgic]

Haha,
Yes, agree it should go to the 18+ section and reminders are always good.
Jojo's post was a bit of a joke though. Wouldn't you kindly warn a friend not threaten reporting.
Well we all know how serious webby would take those reports anyway.

[Guardian7347]

CUT OUT THE CYBER FUCKING FLIRTING ON MY THREAD.

I already expressed more than clearly how little I think of married women and men who do that online, show some pride and self respect to you & your partner and stop it or take it privately if you are horny and want e-cock(in this case). I know Guardian and blue saw that thread I made on flirting in rant and if you were lurking Lifechanges you read it too, if not I will happily repost it in here for you to get a better idea of how low I think that shit is. And refrain from justifying it as innocent no one does that online and in public when they have a great relationship, something is wrong and you need attention.

No one wants to see this stuff in their threads, you all have sex forum access, I don't, so USE IT instead, thanks. Guardian you know better, take it to PMs, please.

Now to answer stuff that applies to the thread.

Of course sweetheart.

[tropicalheatwave]

Do you stop yourself when you find yourself going down that degrading road with your partner or you let it run its course and then go off?

if i'm aware of it, i pretty much stop automatically without any real effort. if not, then i'll pretty much feel guilty afterwards which will cause me to be more aware next time.

You like women who do not smother you?

yes, correct.

Independent girls are more your style, but have you had independent girls turn clingy?

no, my personality isn't that attractive.

Is that a sign for you to break up then.

nope. i may avoid her for a while or tell her to back off but i won't break up unless she continues.

Jojo's post was a bit of a joke though.

it was????? i thought it was jealousy. ( just messin with ya jojo, or am i ????? )

[Justified]

My answer would be sometimes. Sometimes you don't want to talk to the other person and the distance is best. On girls using tears, I have had it happen, I know others who have had it happen to them too, all ages.

You know even some guys will use tears, I heard about this recently, who knew.

Straight or gay males? It doesn't surprise me to hear that. I have an uncle who is gay and is constantly prone to tears within his relationships.
I read that other dramatic stuff happening on your thread and even before coming up on your post to ask the sexual flirting to stop I thought it was rude for those poster's to even start that on this thread. If people choose to play that way they should do it on their own threads not the threads of others, imho. Some people have more values and morals than others, jojo I think LifeChanges should have apologized to you, not taken some peculiar pot shot at you, she contributed in ruining this thread, not you, and this isn't her thread. I also re read your post twice to see where you said you reported anyone and I think another poster called Nostalgic needs glasses? You said '' reposted " that word is not reported. So imho that person owes you an apology to for entering your thread and trying to start more drama. Just my two cents. But good for you for self policing your own thread, you save the forum staffers headaches that way.

[gargoylegoil]

I didn't like that either, but the scolding was a bit overboard.

[Justified]

I'm a guy and I find it unpleasant as well. When you are reading and don't expect to see it in a forum thread. From what I read it looked like she was saying several poster's involved knew prior that it was something she didn't like to see online, so that might have caused her to come down harsher, she didn't single anyone out, and it appeared fair to me, she had her rightful say and then moved on with some please and thank you's thrown in. If a website has an 18+ area for having sex with each other why would posters ever use another poster's thread to do it in? I'll drop it.

Back on Topic:

One ex was a big time freezer. She said it was a learnt behavior off her mom. Is that considered a cop out?

[Nostalgic]

Apologies for reading the word wrong

[gargoylegoil]

Apologies for reading the word wrong

This time I was the corrector...

[gargoylegoil]

I'm a guy and I find it unpleasant as well. When you are reading and don't expect to see it in a forum thread. From what I read it looked like she was saying several poster's involved knew prior that it was something she didn't like to see online, so that might have caused her to come down harsher, she didn't single anyone out, and it appeared fair to me, she had her rightful say and then moved on with some please and thank you's thrown in. If a website has an 18+ area for having sex with each other why would posters ever use another poster's thread to do it in? I'll drop it.

Back on Topic:

One ex was a big time freezer. She said it was a learnt behavior off her mom. Is that considered a cop out?

Yes, a cop out because she knows she's doing it, she can learn to communicate better, but refuses to do so. Hence, she's an EX.

[Nostalgic]

@ GG

[gargoylegoil]

@ GG

[KRSTYSTLCLR]

I don't usually post in this section of the forums because I find that most of you are single, and I've been married for almost 22 years. Thank you, thank you. JKJK
Seriously, I do kind of freeze out hubby, but more to give us each our space. When we fight, I am usually the one who see's where the communication went wrong first. (And believe me...it's always communication and understanding) He get's so pissed off that he can't even be civil without throwing in a pop shot of some kind, so I just continue to be civil, say good morning, good night, dinners ready, do you want a cup of coffee(if I'm making some) and that's about it. It takes about 3 day's after a huge fight for him to stop being a grouch, so I just don't have much to do with him till he calms down enough to discuss things in a respectable manner. Sadly it took about 15 years to figure out that this is what actually works for us. Maybe not everyone else, and I don't do it to be bitchy, just to keep my self respect and help him keep his.

[Guardian7347]

My answer would be sometimes. Sometimes you don't want to talk to the other person and the distance is best. On girls using tears, I have had it happen, I know others who have had it happen to them too, all ages.

You know even some guys will use tears, I heard about this recently, who knew.

Straight or gay males? It doesn't surprise me to hear that. I have an uncle who is gay and is constantly prone to tears within his relationships.
I read that other dramatic stuff happening on your thread and even before coming up on your post to ask the sexual flirting to stop I thought it was rude for those poster's to even start that on this thread. If people choose to play that way they should do it on their own threads not the threads of others, imho. Some people have more values and morals than others, jojo I think LifeChanges should have apologized to you, not taken some peculiar pot shot at you, she contributed in ruining this thread, not you, and this isn't her thread. I also re read your post twice to see where you said you reported anyone and I think another poster called Nostalgic needs glasses? You said '' reposted " that word is not reported. So imho that person owes you an apology to for entering your thread and trying to start more drama. Just my two cents. But good for you for self policing your own thread, you save the forum staffers headaches that way.

Tread lightly when making assumptions on the morals and values of those you know not. While Jojo has every right to chastise our behavior in her thread, you...do...not. Your post oozes self-righteous indignation.

[gargoylegoil]

Come on Guard....again someone disagrees with you and you get defensive? It was only an opinion.

[tropicalheatwave]

^^ what else is new.

in all seriousness i thought this thread was pretty amusing. but i could understand why jojo got upset. especially when you have more then two people doing this:


you guys make me laugh.

[LifeChanges]

^^ what else is new.

in all seriousness i thought this thread was pretty amusing. but i could understand why jojo got upset. especially when you have more then two people doing this:


you guys make me laugh.

Happy to have been of service to you Trop.

[Vulcanoid]

Oh, how much truth lies in this image alone.... It's sad to be honest.

Also LOL at the last posts...

[Guardian7347]

Come on Guard....again someone disagrees with you and you get defensive? It was only an opinion.

Not at all hon! You and I disagree pretty frequently and it doesn't bother me. I get along fantastically with KRSTY, and we disagree fundamentally on a lot of different issues. Disagreeing allows for a genuine discussion to occur, which I thoroughly enjoy. Cap and I have had some great ones, in fact. I get defensive when someone attacks my character based upon one non-incident. It wasn't stated as an opinion GG, it was stated as a fact. All things considered, I was very controlled in my response.

[gargoylegoil]

Fair enough....I see where you're coming from. Were you on the Debate team in school??

[Guardian7347]

Fair enough....I see where you're coming from. Were you on the Debate team in school??

Actually, I wasn't, although I will freely admit that I absolutely missed my calling by not doing it. My mother constantly tells me I should have been a lawyer. At least then I could charge big bucks for all the arguing I do.

[gargoylegoil]

You are still young enough to pursue that career after your time in Military?

[Guardian7347]

You are still young enough to pursue that career after your time in Military?

I don't know...I've thought about it. I could do it, and probably be pretty good at it honestly, but it just doesn't appeal to me.

[SharA2]

CUT OUT THE CYBER FUCKING FLIRTING ON MY THREAD.

I already expressed more than clearly how little I think of married women and men who do that online, show some pride and self respect to you & your partner and stop it or take it privately if you are horny and want e-cock(in this case). I know Guardian and blue saw that thread I made on flirting in rant and if you were lurking Lifechanges you read it too, if not I will happily repost it in here for you to get a better idea of how low I think that shit is. And refrain from justifying it as innocent no one does that online and in public when they have a great relationship, something is wrong and you need attention.

No one wants to see this stuff in their threads, you all have sex forum access, I don't, so USE IT instead, thanks. Guardian you know better, take it to PMs, please.

Now to answer stuff that applies to the thread.

Bravo! I think the same as others expressed already within your thread. On some forums they will ban poster's for doing this outside of the designated area-- just because this forum has loose rules is no excuse to take advantage on some other poster's thread. Young kids always post in this section, so it is a big no no. It is just a matter of respect.

Guardian I think in my opinion jojo and Justified were talking about married people cybering, that does not apply to you, you are single-- why would you think the comments were directed at you? You over reacted. Being close with Jojo as you are, you should be more upset at the comments left by Life Changes in her thread as a reply back, looks like she is not sorry but told jojo she needs to get fucked and it is only jojo's problem, even though jojo did nothing wrong and this is jojo's thread after all, Blue on the other hand took it upon herself to apologize, that shows character. That is my opinion on what I have read if someone wants to find fault in it, I do not mind, but it will not change my opinion.

I picked sometimes. If it comes the point that the talking is combative, then there is no reason to hang around and fed the negativity.

That seems like the most common one, Shara.

I don't mind fighting with my partner if he pulls shit he thinks I will let slide, but I also don't want to give him the time of day when he does it either. Somewhere a lesson needs to be learned, right?

You want to hear them out but not always be a doormat to them. I think a lot of occasions people in relationships take the other for granted and that is why a lot of arguments start.

[LifeChanges]

Alright, enough people have complained about my behavior I think it warrants an apology from me. Jojo, I am sorry for shamelessly flirting on your thread.

Guardian I think in my opinion jojo and Justified were talking about married people cybering, that does not apply to you, you are single-- why would you think the comments were directed at you?

So, you are saying it's not OK for married people to flirt outside of their marriage, but it's acceptable for singles to flirt with married individuals? What a hell of a double standard.

[SharA2]

Your apology to jojo is not heartfelt, if someone means it they do it themselves not because of the opinion of others makes them cave in. You told jojo-- " Toodles " so make it true!

So stop stalking her thread.

[LifeChanges]

How do you know what's in my heart or not? You misinterpreted "Toodles"; I said that and took the flirting to 18+. Have I flirted since then? I have made my apology and I have behaved myself since then. You do not have domain over me to tell me what to do.

[Guardian7347]

Guardian I think in my opinion jojo and Justified were talking about married people cybering, that does not apply to you, you are single-- why would you think the comments were directed at you? You over reacted. Being close with Jojo as you are, you should be more upset at the comments left by Life Changes in her thread as a reply back, looks like she is not sorry but told jojo she needs to get fucked and it is only jojo's problem,

Because I'm so close with jojo, I know which parts of her comments were and which weren't directed at me. I have no such familiarity with justified, nor were his comments exclusive to any person. Why would I assume he wasn't including me? My reaction was extremely controlled. It would have been over-reacting had I resorted to name calling or some long tirade. I simply said "Don't try to judge me" and let it go. There has been far more made of my comment than I wanted. It was a quick side-bar and dropped. I was trying to NOT derail the thread again! lol
Shara hon, I promise you that if I thought LC had even the slightest ill-intention in her comment towards jojo I WOULD have said something to her about it. As it was written, it is my understanding that it was a light-hearted acknowledgement of being wrong with a bit of playfulness. More importantly, the behavior immediately ended in this thread, as requested. There was no disrespect intended.

[Vulcanoid]

Flirting is nice. I actually like to flirt with girls i find attractive in real and sometimes on the web as well.
It's not like I'm going to regulate each one of them and cheat my gf....
Flirting is fun for me, and should be fun for everyone else.

[KRSTYSTLCLR]

Can we get back on topic? BTW vulcan, there was another poll thread by jojo about flirting, you should check it out.

[Vulcanoid]

Can we get back on topic? BTW vulcan, there was another poll thread by jojo about flirting, you should check it out.

Will do,.

[Justified]

Tread lightly when making assumptions on the morals and values of those you know not. While Jojo has every right to chastise our behavior in her thread, you...do...not. Your post oozes self-righteous indignation.

I don't understand why you are getting up in arms over anything I said. I get you probably feel bad doing what you did on your friends thread knowing how she feels about that sort of behavior, understandable. But that has nothing to do with me and what I typed. If the OP is your friend then you should appreciate that I am agreeing with her and validating how she feels. I think the OP will be grateful for the replies I made, don't you?

But to clarify my reply of this:
(Some people have more values and morals than others)

Was addressing the OP comment about this:
(I already expressed more than clearly how little I think of married women and men who do that online, show some pride and self respect to you & your partner and stop it or take it privately if you are horny and want e-cock(in this case).)

I feel the OP has more values and morals then a married woman cheating ( yes, cyber flirting when married is cheating in the eyes of MANY) on her husband on an internet forum. I am allowed to have that opinion, so is the OP and all others who look in at this thread. I also feel the same on that stalking comment mentioned by SharA2, that other woman needs to stop being so Married White Female towards the OP.

Now instead of ruining this girl's thread, if you have issues with what I typed, PM me!

Thanks, Gargoylegoil.
I think it was a cop out too when she blamed her mother for her actions, she just wanted to continue acting that way without accepting any fault her herself.

[Guardian7347]

Now instead of ruining this girl's thread, if you have issues with what I typed, PM me!

just like you did? Again? That's attention-seeking behavior...or just egotistical and rude. More in PM's Can we get back on topic now?

I don't usually post in this section of the forums because I find that most of you are single, and I've been married for almost 22 years. Thank you, thank you. JKJK
Seriously, I do kind of freeze out hubby, but more to give us each our space. When we fight, I am usually the one who see's where the communication went wrong first. (And believe me...it's always communication and understanding) He get's so pissed off that he can't even be civil without throwing in a pop shot of some kind, so I just continue to be civil, say good morning, good night, dinners ready, do you want a cup of coffee(if I'm making some) and that's about it. It takes about 3 day's after a huge fight for him to stop being a grouch, so I just don't have much to do with him till he calms down enough to discuss things in a respectable manner. Sadly it took about 15 years to figure out that this is what actually works for us. Maybe not everyone else, and I don't do it to be bitchy, just to keep my self respect and help him keep his.

Much wisdom there is. lol I know it doesn't sound like a good thing, but freezing someone out for a while CAN be beneficial, depending on the couple. I love the fact that you said it's always communication, because I fully agree with you! You give me a problem, and I can show you where better communication would alleviate it.