I'd like to open this one up to the forum.

[RuMalc]

Hey guys,

Ok, so there's a girl that i like i've been talking to her for a while, everything's fine (i think) and i'm plannig on asking her on a date this weekend.

I was just wondering about everyone's ideals on dating and general courtship?
Particularly females out there, what kind of things can a guy say or do that makes you like them? and what kind of things might you say or do to drop hints to a guy that you like them?

Yes, to be honest i am looking for some hints and tips here because i would really like to not mess this up.

thanks,
Roo

[Tal]

The best thing to do is to be yourself. If you try too hard it's obvious. Remember she's probably just as nervous as you are. It's a first date for both of you.
Show interest in what she says even if it's boring to you. One thing gals like is a guy who listens. Talk about yourself but not constantly. Big turn off. Makes you sound like you're full of yourself. Don't bitch about exes. She's interested in you, not your old girlfriends.
Be happy and relaxed and enjoy each others company.

[Bubbydoll]

First off, Same as Tal told you be yourself ( IT'S KEY), not some super cool put on version of you. Don't feign interests you don't actually have.
Be clever, witty if you have that aspect in your personality already, don't force it if it isn't going to come off natural.
Be a gentlemen, polite and care about if she is enjoying her time with you, see if there is anything else she'd like to do while you both are out..
The thing my bf told me when I first met him ( as a friend) that stuck in my mind was that he said I walked into the room and brought the sunshine with me. That I had a happy disposition and it drew him to me.
If she giggles a lot, looks into your eyes, touches you, plans for another outing she likes you. Hints are pretty obvious to see when a girl likes you.
Good luck on your upcoming date.

[RuMalc]

Ahhh, just found out that she's got a boyfriend. Shit.

Damn, and i thought that there were some signs there. Guess i'm not good at spotting these signs then.
Just my luck i suppose.

ach well.
thanks for the replies anyway guys!

[Bubbydoll]

Wonder how tight her and her bf are?
I bet you didn't misread the signals either.

Sorry it didn't work out, but lots of other available girls to ask out.

[Tal]

Ahhh, just found out that she's got a boyfriend. Shit.

Damn, and i thought that there were some signs there. Guess i'm not good at spotting these signs then.
Just my luck i suppose.

ach well.
thanks for the replies anyway guys!

Oh bollocks!
You still may have gotten the signs right. A boyfriend won't stop chemistry.
Don't give up RuMalc. She's out there somewhere.

[GabbyTheDreamer]

srry it didnt work out well maybe the next grl wont have a bf and u guys will b together 4eva

[emilyae11]

Yes, be yourself.
And girls (unless they are INCREDIBLY shy) LOVELOVELOVE to be complimented! Not too many though, it will be awkward if you compliment her too many times. Find a topic of common interest and start conversing! She'll surely like you! (:

[RuMalc]

Thanks very much guys!!!

Say, i've got another question. Don't know if anyone will see this but i'll ask anyway.
Have you ever liked someone (as a friend) and got on with them really really well but not been able to actually make a decision as to whether you like them as more than a friend/are attracted to them and not been sure whether or not you can actually see yourself with them in a relationship of some sort?

[Bubbydoll]

Thanks very much guys!!!

Say, i've got another question. Don't know if anyone will see this but i'll ask anyway.
Have you ever liked someone (as a friend) and got on with them really really well but not been able to actually make a decision as to whether you like them as more than a friend/are attracted to them and not been sure whether or not you can actually see yourself with them in a relationship of some sort?

No, I pretty much can always tell, it's pretty over powering for me. Even if I try to deny it or put it aside it calls me back to it and won't let go. It's sort of a mind, heart, soul thing, you know when you can feel it deep inside from all aspects.

[RuMalc]

Hmm, i guess it's quite a personal thing.
I usually fall in love quite slowly, with my ex i barely even noticed her for the first few weeks even though she sat right in front of me in class, then i became her friend without ever feeling any great attraction to her. Then i started to notice that she was really pretty, then really really pretty. And then we started going out. Even then it was like i knew i was falling in love with her but i didn't love her yet.

It's happened before too. A girl i barely even knew existed ended up being a girl that i became crazy about.

And it feels like it's happening agian now, it's strange.

[Bubbydoll]

Maybe you have a heart and mind struggle..you are open to it but you are of a very cautious nature so you take it all in bit by bit until both parts get a strong connection to the girl in question. Nothing wrong with that, you might do it to protect yourself as well. What do you think? I was friends with my bf for over a year before I said " I love you" to him, and he knew months in advance that I loved him. Because I would go, " I like that you enjoy this or that and he'd go, that's because you love me"and I'd fluff it over and smile and go "sure sure you think all girls love you"

[RuMalc]

You could be right there. I definately do struggle to get my head and heart to agre sometimes, maybe it does just take some time for them to get to the same place.
If it is because i'm trying to protect mself tho, it does'nt really seem to be working. I tend to be the one that gets hurt

I do prefer being friends with a girl first before being in a relationship. Even if you are both attracted to each other i think it's a lot easier to get to know someone as a friend and then once you get to the relatonship you don't get the same awkward silences and things.

[Bubbydoll]

I think you get hurt because you tend so much to the other persons feelings you might leave yourself open to them hurting you. They may not be as careful with how you feel. That is their doing, not yours though.
I still think the best relationships come from friendships, because you start out being real with each other, none of that phoney: I have to be someone else or they won't like me bullshit. You keep it real, so they get to know you, and that makes it work.

[RuMalc]

Thanks

[noobulater]

dude, i am the same way with girls.