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It's complicated.... Can anyone give some advice?

Postby dreamerseeker » Wed Jul 12, 2017 12:56 pm

So, my Algerian pen-pal "friend" who I have known for 6 months...recently been saying he loves me, etc...


But, yesterday, he texted me that he was mad at me because I didn't say "hi" to him on facebook when we were both logged on at same time... He claims he's behaving like this because he loves me..... :roll:

I feel like he is controlling me, and we are NOT even in a relationship yet!

It's dumb, I know. But we haven't spoken yet today..... So.... What should I say if he gets P**ed off again for not texting him?


I feel hurt that he is treating me like this, but I don't want to lose him as a friend though... Can we at least be just friends? Or should I not even continue as friends with him?


I want advice on how to manage so we can at least just remain friends, and nothing more. Any advice?
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Re: It's complicated.... Can anyone give some advice?

Postby aussie_musician » Wed Jul 12, 2017 7:18 pm

I have only one piece of advice ..

end it ..
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Re: It's complicated.... Can anyone give some advice?

Postby VenusInChains » Thu Jul 13, 2017 1:10 am

you won't get advice on how to keep this friendship, his behaviour is a red flag. If you stayed in contact with him, you will probably find yourself walking on eggshells. Best to cut contact with him.
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Re: It's complicated.... Can anyone give some advice?

Postby dreamerseeker » Thu Jul 13, 2017 2:55 am

Ok, Thank you Aussie and Venus.
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Re: It's complicated.... Can anyone give some advice?

Postby Xwikki » Thu Jul 13, 2017 5:17 am

If he actually cares about you he'll accept it when you tell him you're uncomfortable with his advances and controlling behaviour. Call him up on it, say that you're hurt and if he whines/bitches/bla bla then cut off contact. He doesn't love you.
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Re: It's complicated.... Can anyone give some advice?

Postby dreamerseeker » Thu Jul 13, 2017 3:00 pm

Thank you Xwikki. That is a great idea!
And thank you for your response to my other post here as well.
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Re: It's complicated.... Can anyone give some advice?

Postby aussie_musician » Thu Jul 13, 2017 6:53 pm

well ..

you didn't say hello to him on f**eb**k ..



ooooh big whoop ..

some people ought to get a .. er . .what you call it .. a "life" .. not you .. him ..





I'd end it .. simply because of f**cb**k ..
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Re: It's complicated.... Can anyone give some advice?

Postby Xwikki » Fri Jul 14, 2017 3:48 am

dreamerseeker wrote:Thank you Xwikki. That is a great idea!
And thank you for your response to my other post here as well.

Welcome :D

Remember that if he was making those advances with you in physical person, you'd have every right to tell him to stop and it's not his right to complain about it. Online isn't any different.
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Re: It's complicated.... Can anyone give some advice?

Postby aussie_musician » Sun Jul 16, 2017 6:59 pm

at least in person .. you can see the other person for who they are ..

their mannerisms and idiosyncrasies ..

hmmm .. isn't that a "big" word ???

online dating is simply .. well .. stupid ..
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