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Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

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Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Dzeri » Wed Apr 06, 2016 12:52 pm

My fiance always has his phone hidden. If he showers its in the bathroom with him or stashed in a dresser drawer.he never sets it on the coffee table or anywhere. It's always in his pocket. If we are sitting on the couch and he checks it he turns so I can't see. I have never gone thru his phone or even tried. So I don't understand his secrecy. It makes me feel like there is something not quite right. My phone is always laying around, I have nithung he can't see in there. It really really bugs me. One time we were driving and his phone went off, the ringer was weird so I looked over, he practically went out the window leaning over so I couldnt see it at all. He is always acting like that about his phone. I don't get it. Is he just crazy private about his phone or should I maybe be thinking seriously about him being shady.
It really bothers me. I have mentioned it a couple times, he just laughs. Am I being totally naive? We aren't young ....45. Just seems like he should be past this kind of behavior. I could definatly use input.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby pisces_dreamer » Wed Apr 06, 2016 10:45 pm

Is he private in general or very open? Is he private with other things or just his phone?
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Dzeri » Thu Apr 07, 2016 8:31 am

No. Just his phone.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby pisces_dreamer » Fri Apr 08, 2016 3:36 pm

He's hiding something, doesn't necessarily mean he's cheating, could be anything, but he's hiding something.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby VenusInChains » Sat Apr 09, 2016 8:17 pm

I think your fiancé behaviour is weird, he might not be cheating but going out of his way to hide his phone while being in the bathroom is odd. I get that some people don't like having someone peering over their shoulder.

I think personally it would drive me nuts, I dated a guy who cheated on me and he was weird about his phone like that.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Dzeri » Mon Apr 11, 2016 2:31 pm

It does drive me crazy. If he was just normal with his phone I wouldnt care. Its the secret behavior that makes me think something is up. If he just had his phone out and laying around I would never even think about it. I am not th e going thru the phone type. But I am starting to think maybe I should be. Idk....ggrrrrr.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Caesar » Wed Apr 27, 2016 1:02 pm

That's a red flag. A pretty hard one not to miss.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Clementine » Sat Apr 30, 2016 1:23 pm

Sounds suspicious, why can't he lock it, then you or no one else can open & read it.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Godess » Thu Jun 30, 2016 6:35 pm

ok I'm going to be brutally honest with you and might not like it but here goes.
your man is cheating on you and has been cheating on you not just with one girl but with many,
If he is your man, bf, sex partner, and living together as a couple then he shouldn't act like that. you can do a simple thing and hide your cell and tell him to let you barrow his cause you lost yours and you have to make a call to someone or to find it and see his reaction. the first thing he'll do is tell you that he'll call it for you or something other than give it to you.
All men are the same in the cheating department, they cheat and they will swear on they mamas life and the bible that he didn't do it until you catch them red handed and by then the affair and cheating has been going on for a while. With that been said most cheating men have girl numbers under guys name. I said it before all guys send out good morning text to so many different girls and which ever of them answer they keep texting her till they can land her. If he's taking the cell to the bathroom with him that's prove enough hes talking flirting with other girls.
Remember men cheat more than girls cause its in their animal instinct to look and find self satisfying gratification for lack of something. they either do it by watching porn and going out to look for girls. some cases are worse than others or they can have a sex addiction problem and don't know it there for they go and ruin good relationships cause girls don't know it either.
I can go on but I wont so if I were you i'd talk to him or just prepare yourself for when you catch him and he cant deny it anymore.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby spacejunkie » Sat Jul 02, 2016 12:30 pm

That is pure idiocrisy. Women whore out just as much as dudes. We are no better than men. Sounds to me like you mess with some teen agers or something because that sounds like some little boy bull shit. theres two types of people, that of the non moral section who cares about themselves and their pleasures before any one else and that of the Moral section who have values when it comes to Love. and being human.
That being said, my advice to the OP, Your fiance should not be secretive about his phone. Me and My man share a phone, not because of dis trust just because we share every thing. A relation ship should be open and loving, I know my man isn't doing anything he shouldn't be doing, and I dont have to be paranoid because we share our life 50/50 and compromise with each other for maximum comfortability. You have to communicate. This could be anything, but it could be bad. You dont know why he is acting like this, and niether does Goddess. You have to ask him about it and confront this uncomfortable issue in your relationship. Talk with him and if he isn't willing, ask you self, Am I willing to be disrespected like this. Am I willing to live in the dark cause either way, if he is just secretive or if he is cheating, hes not letting you in 100 % and thats what love is, opening your heart with another person and becoming one.
Best wishes much love, keep calm.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Godess » Mon Jul 04, 2016 9:34 pm

Were all intitled to our oppinon here and i gave mine thats all. I speak and write from personal experience and from close friends experiences about cheating husbands and boyfriends. Yes i agree girls are just as bad as guys on the cheating part and in general. And it dont matter if their teenagers of 25 or 45 they gunna do it u till you catch them.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Tal » Tue Jul 05, 2016 9:38 pm

There's certainly plenty of reasons to be suspicious. It's ok to want to keep a part of yourself to yourself and entirely another to display such overt behaviour over a phone. It doesn't sound like he uses it as a private journal. Don't forget he may not be hiding infidelity from you. He could be conducting some kind of illegal business that he doesn't want you to know about.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Dzeri » Wed Jul 06, 2016 9:41 am

Thank you so very much for all the input. Nothing is gifferent. Time to do some heavy th inking. :crying:
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Tal » Wed Jul 06, 2016 8:55 pm

Poor love. :( It probably won't help you feel better about things right now, but think about your future with this man. Is this really who you want to be married to? Don't you think you deserve someone who is honest with you and respects you enough to share their life for real. No matter what his reasons are, this man doesn't trust or respect you. He's not even thinking about how his behaviour is hurting and upsetting you and if he is, then he's proven that he doesn't care. And is this really the sort of father role-model you want for your future children, teaching them that sneaking around and hurting people is ok?
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby MistressAngel » Mon Aug 01, 2016 12:18 pm

I would be utterly suspicious. Like you, I had a partner who hid his phone too. I found it really fucking weird. He was cheating though.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Dzeri » Sun Oct 02, 2016 7:07 am

I found out he has an active account on a dating site. It's just some pics and a couple posts. When I confronted him he swore it was not him. I looked thru his phone and the site was not in there. I am at a loss. Do I give up 5 years on some pictures.....none were sexual. Do I work thru this? I don't know what to do. I sincerely love this man. HELP...ANYONE!
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby spacejunkie » Sun Oct 02, 2016 12:08 pm

I found some dating sites mainly all sexual of my now husband, i confronted him and he was at a loss for words. He didn't know anything. So I hacked into the email which was his, changed the password and deleted several accounts. The next time i logged into it, i found i had been locked out, The name to the email changed. It had been his ex girl friend posing as him online to talk with women. She was insane, and it was a terrible relationship. After i had been locked out i noticed i was still recieving emails on the Ipod from the email now being controlled by her, she was making more dating sites, under different men names and some of her own, her face book was connected to it. I disabled that and left it alone.

This is just a story to offer courage, to find out whats really going on. Dont be fooled by any one, but also, dont jump the gun.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Dzeri » Sun Oct 02, 2016 1:19 pm

Thank you so much for that
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Jezzabella » Fri Oct 07, 2016 12:17 am

First he was hiding his phone and being weird about you looking at it, and then you find out there's an active profile on a dating site... look I seem to come across as an asshole when I provide my opinion because I am blunt and I get to the point. HOW CAN YOU IGNORE THESE RED FLAGS? seriously? There's no way this is coincidental. Sometimes the simplest explanation is the right one, he's lying to you. Even if it were some crazy ex doing this, it doesn't explain him being secretive about the phone, but being on a dating site would make sense why he's been weird about his phone.

He may never come clean about what he's been doing. If you're comfortable with that then stay with him.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby dreamangel545 » Thu Dec 08, 2016 6:03 pm

:banghead: hiding the phone is really really a bad sign. locks on the phone - bad sign, taking to bathroom for long periods of time-very bad sign. Tilting the phone screen so you cant see it, standing up or going across the room to text or read the text are just some of the ways that people (because both guys and girls are capable) try to hide things they are doing . Either way its something that they are hiding from you. Time will fly by and before you know it you it a good chunck of your life has gone by and this will be your new excuse for not leaving the relationship. its really a question of how much you love your self , value yourself and dont accept anything that makes you unhappy. life is too short to waste. This can change the path of your life and a decision that needs to made soon if not now.
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Re: Hiding phone bad sign or just a weird quirk?

Postby Sheena » Fri Dec 16, 2016 4:42 pm

We would be more concerned about someone having a phone.
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