Faulty

[Vulcanoid]

Ok, first of all i don't know where to post it, but since it's about my relation with other people I'll post it here.

I have a faulty personality. I'm the kind of guy who tells you to "fuck off" and points out each of your mistakes.
My friends don't get bothered though. Most of them are old buddies and colleagues who're used to me. My issue is with new people, especially girls (no, i don't wanna date any girl). I met a lot of new people every day because my city is a cultural one and there are lots of foreigners and tourists. I'm a friendly guy and i quickly make friends, but when it comes to girls I'm a complete disaster. I'm the type of guy a girl either loves or hates. No in-between.
When a girl complains no one loves her i say "because you're a selfish bitch". If she says she's ugly i agree with her. Not sure why I'm so negative around girls.

If you're going to ask, NO i didn't had my heart broken. All my relationships in the past were long lasting and pleasant, i have a gf, i have girl friends too but as i said, they either like me or really hate me. No shades of grey.

So my question is, can i do something about it? What exactly, is it my fault or the girls i met?

[LifeChanges]

I think you don't have much room in your heart for people with insecurities. Maybe that stems from your own personal insecurities, whatever they may be. You can change it, but first you need to understand yourself. Do some soul searching.

[Nostalgic]

I agree with LC.

[Vulcanoid]

Easier said than done.

Do some soul searching

meaning exactly?

[hemasanghavi]

i agree with life changes...but first learn about yourself.. ask your friends why they think is the reason for your behavior..then think have you ever felt insecure like that?? and yes then thats your answer.. and if not then like lc said you dont like insecure person..you prefer confident person

[LifeChanges]

Easier said than done.

Do some soul searching

meaning exactly?

When a girl says she's ugly, and you respond in a mean way. Stop. What feelings were you experiencing when you said it? What thoughts were going through your mind? Examine what you think and feel when you act like an ass. Ask yourself why did I feel this, that?

That should get you started.

[MissWong]

Ok, first of all i don't know where to post it, but since it's about my relation with other people I'll post it here.

I have a faulty personality. I'm the kind of guy who tells you to "fuck off" and points out each of your mistakes.
My friends don't get bothered though. Most of them are old buddies and colleagues who're used to me. My issue is with new people, especially girls (no, i don't wanna date any girl). I met a lot of new people every day because my city is a cultural one and there are lots of foreigners and tourists. I'm a friendly guy and i quickly make friends, but when it comes to girls I'm a complete disaster. I'm the type of guy a girl either loves or hates. No in-between.
When a girl complains no one loves her i say "because you're a selfish bitch". If she says she's ugly i agree with her. Not sure why I'm so negative around girls.

If you're going to ask, NO i didn't had my heart broken. All my relationships in the past were long lasting and pleasant, i have a gf, i have girl friends too but as i said, they either like me or really hate me. No shades of grey.

So my question is, can i do something about it? What exactly, is it my fault or the girls i met?

The interesting thing is some girls love guys who tell it like it is and come off like assholes maybe to others, I have lots of friends who only date those types of guys. So to lots of girls that would attract them to you. Maybe you don't like to be fake, and if you have to be rude to get your point across you go with that. If you find it is getting you in trouble or bad feedback then change it, how does your girlfriends girlfriends get along with you? Is the girl selfish and ugly when you tell her she is, or are you only saying it to be mean and it isn't true? If they feel you are rude they will tell you, and then in that moment if you felt you said too much you can correct your behavior.

[sayuri]

I simply suggest thinking before you speak... There is a fine line between telling it like it is and being an utter a$$hole...And like MissWong said, sometimes it turns girls on... Not all but some... But think of not only what you say but how... Like if she asks if she looks fat, think about putting your honest opinion nicely, but dont sugar code, Just be nice Hope the advice helps.... C'est la vie!
~Sayu Chan