Curious about your thoughts

[cjwrdl]

Curious about your thoughts

I began talking to this very attractive, smart, awesome woman. I began to really like her, the first woman I had developed feelings for in about 5 years in fact. She and I went dancing, had fun, and were really chatty in the start. It was blatantly noticeable that we were really into each other. Then we had a small, very passionate, fling. She cried, admitted she had a boyfriend and told me she felt terrible. Two and a half months go by, we seldom spoke to each other, if at all, and for some reason I sent her a text message one day. She responded, and we had a short conversation about her vacation and this random text came in that said she “broke up with Jeff.” That happened in late July. I didn't think much of it, I expressed how that’s never an easy thing, and neither of us has brought it up since. Thing is, now when I talk with her, its always short. I mentioned I was going to be in her area to visit some old friends, and I asked if she wanted to go dancing and dinner one of the nights I was there, she eagerly, and very quickly responded with an excited yes. Then I haven't heard from her since, and that was about three days days ago (I'm not sure if that is too long, too short, or just right?). I was suggested to not text or call her at all, ever, and she if she contacts me. Its been making me feel heavy in the chest area, almost sick. I haven't felt like that in about 10 years... So this is important to me...

your thoughts would be appreciated

[BLUE]

She is apparently interested. I say call her. Why was it suggested that you not? What can it hurt...you are just talking Now go call the woman

[cjwrdl]

Thanks BLUE... I think I will go and do that now...

[MissWong]

Did she tell you never to call or text her, or did a friend you advised tell you not to do either? If not from her, I agree with the other poster and you making the call.

[BLUE]

Sooo how did it go?

[cjwrdl]

No answer. I dont understand sometimes. I think I am going to try giving her space... I'm just going with it...

[LifeChanges]

I think going with is would be your best bet. It seems to work for me since I've been trying it *shrugs*. There's no use pining after someone whose not returning the interest.

[cjwrdl]

Yeah.. I know the going with it too...

[cjwrdl]

Thanks for all the advice guys and gals. I hope my inputs are productive and understandable too! They are to me most of the time!!

[irrevocably]

depending on the girl she is... its best to text or call the next day and just say - "hey, i had a great time last night- we should do it again sometime "
that goes a long way.

in any case, i think you're in good waters - so i agree with them - go with the flow.

[BLUE]

Yea I would go with the flow cj Just use your gut instinct.