Moving On (It's Hard as Hell)

[Dream528]

They say when you can't have the girl of your dreams, to move on. But there's something different about the girl I like (Her name is Stephanie). I have the most strongest feelings for her. It's not one of those simple crushes, it's way different. Perfection of her face, personality and loving nature, it's hard to stop thinking about her. By the looks of it, she likes me too. Like when she randomly said I'm cute or when she smiled at me for the longest time. Some say that any girl would've done that because girls have this loving nature, but it's different. You may be wondering, why the hell does this guy wanna move on if he likes her so much? She is gonna be gone for a good 1&1/2 years and I can't waste that much time just to know if she likes me or not. So how do I move on? I can't stop thinking about her, but if she ends up not liking me anymore, then I wasted my time. Any tips?

*By the way, I have no communication with her whatsoever.

[irrevocably]

I can help you with this. I haven't yet mastered how to sever the bonds we hold with people, but I am very close to doing so.
I have successfully moved on from a lot of ex's and family members that are no longer close to heart.
First, before I share my strategy - I'll share a quick story.
My recent "Love" didn't last to long, but it was built quickly. When my relationship doesn't work out with someone, I would toss out everything that reminds me of them. Including texts, pics, e-mails, anything that will bring that painful "memory" across. She had given me an expensive soccer jersey for my birthday and I ended up donating it. Didn't even feel like selling it - I wanted it out of my house. (This may all sound insincere, but in the end it is for YOUR good.) I didn't stay mad or hold grudges, it is just the simple fact that life goes on - so should we.

The simplest way to do it is don't get attached to anything. Stay focused on things you want to do. We can manipulate such feelings and memories for OUR ADVANTAGE. an example -
- think of the time you got into an argument with someone, and you built up so much anger - so much rage - Do you feel the fire of energy build up inside you? You can channel your brain to bring those memories when you work out to give a fire burst of energy - to push yourself.
Same thing with wonderful feelings. channel them through your head to bring about creativity. When we feel amorous or love - we can all be tempted to sing, write poems or maybe even draw art. So it isn't the image or memory of the person itself, but the definition - the meaning and feelings we brought about because of them.

another note, my friend told me don't worry about women. they're everywhere, eventually you will meet someone that you can work out with or fall TOGETHER IN love. but for now stick to just growing yourself. i.e. focus on your job more, focus on learning a new skill or go do a new hobby, something you've always wanted to explore or learn. because when you have a gf - you won't have as much time to dedicate to yourself when you get in deep.

Hope this helps - Edward.

[Dream528]

Thank you, but as I noted before, it's not one of those simple crushes. It's WWWWWWAAAAAAYYYYYY beyond that. Just wish I could tell her my feelings and see if she feels the same way for me. Sadly, happy endings don't exist

[Adityasb]

When a girl is in love you see it in her smile and when a boy is in love you see it in his eyes. I heard that somewhere. Actually you should see it in her eyes more because your eyes talk more than you.

[irrevocably]

Thank you, but as I noted before, it's not one of those simple crushes. It's WWWWWWAAAAAAYYYYYY beyond that. Just wish I could tell her my feelings and see if she feels the same way for me. Sadly, happy endings don't exist

if its one of those crushes - then don't worry it'll pass within less than a week. or a month. bottom line, sitting and thinking about it won't help. you gotta go out and stay occupied - eventually you'll think of other women. We are a lot stronger than what we allow ourselves to be.

[gargoylegoil]

See if you feel that way after a year and a half of not seeing her...

[Vulcanoid]

When a girl is in love you see it in her smile and when a boy is in love you see it in his eyes. I heard that somewhere. Actually you should see it in her eyes more because your eyes talk more than you.

I agree with this guy.
Check her eyes more. Look into her eyes and through them, directly into her soul. Don't be shy, her eyes can tel ALLOT, even more than words.
My advice to the OP. You're single so DON'T move on. Try your luck man, you'll never know if she loves you or not.
The worst thing of all is she'll say no and leave. BUT it's not like you ever had her for your own, so it's not that bad. It's actually better.
Man the fuck up and do it
BTW tell us what happened if you have the shit to talk to her sincerely.

[Dream528]

When a girl is in love you see it in her smile and when a boy is in love you see it in his eyes. I heard that somewhere. Actually you should see it in her eyes more because your eyes talk more than you.

I agree with this guy.
Check her eyes more. Look into her eyes and through them, directly into her soul. Don't be shy, her eyes can tel ALLOT, even more than words.
My advice to the OP. You're single so DON'T move on. Try your luck man, you'll never know if she loves you or not.
The worst thing of all is she'll say no and leave. BUT it's not like you ever had her for your own, so it's not that bad. It's actually better.
Man the fuck up and do it
BTW tell us what happened if you have the shit to talk to her sincerely.

Damn it! The thing is she'll be gone for 1&1/2 years. I'll be damned if she still has "feelings" for me by the time she sees me. Maybe when she sees me, she'll "snap" and remember me but i dont know. I should have manned up more though. That and told her how I felt before she left. Also whether you'll think I'm a pervert or not, I'm gonna say something. The reason I can tell I'm deeply in love is because..... for once I don't care whether she a nice rack or not. It sounds wierd, but thats the truth. This time it's about personality and simply the fact that she is beautiful. Thanks for your help though. In 1&1/2 years, if I still care about her, I'll "man the fuck up" and ask her out. For now I'll try to move on. "Man the fuck up" those are some truly inspiring words right there.

[Adityasb]

I think that someone just praised what I wrote. Hmmm...like it!

[Dream528]

See if you feel that way after a year and a half of not seeing her...

I think it's the other way around. Whereas my feelings will be (probably) the same, I doubt she'll feel the same way for me as she did before.

[Vulcanoid]

"Man the fuck up" those are some truly inspiring words right there.

Not sure if sarcastic or really thankful xD

[Dream528]

"Man the fuck up" those are some truly inspiring words right there.

Not sure if sarcastic or really thankful xD

I'm being really thankful. Any other person would have said "C'mon ask her out" or "Don't be shy, just go for it", which is the same bullshit I hear every day. But "Man the fuck up"? I would've gone ahead and asked her out.

[Dream528]

Well I've come to the conclusion that she is a wake up call. I'm rethinking my love life to spice things up . If she's "the one" then its obviously nows not the moment.

[gargoylegoil]

I lost the love of my life due to death....moving on from that, now THAT'S hard as hell.