Feelings for an Ex, Confusion and Mixed Messages

[leo-kun]

So this is my first post here as far as i'm concerned. I've read lots of topics here and I've seen that you guys are very kind, helpful and give good advice

I had a break up with a boy who i liked a lot. And he loved me too (at least according to what he said). The problem is that he had personal issues, which he wouldn't tell me about, that were threatening our relationship. Among these the only one i knew was that he still had feelings for an ex. He even asked me once "what if i break up with you " as if he had already planned that. And he was cold at sometimes. It got me into so much pain that i left him, thinking that i shouldn't put up with bad treatment and someone who wasn't ready to be commited to me, but it didn't take me too long to regret it, and after i tried to re-approach him, he was very resentful but wanted to be friends. Of course what was happening (after i tried to make up), as i found out later, was that he was interested in someone else and leading me on. We lost contact after some time...
Then, after two or three months of not even thinking about him, he pops up and adds me on Facebook, likes all my pictures ( i'm quite attractive in them ) :p and pokes me two times. When i asked him why he added me he said "i did it because i wanted to, delete me if you didn't like what i did".
What is going on?

[leo-kun]

I forgot to mention that, sometimes I think that if I had been a little more patient in the beginning, things would have gone well between us so i have this feeling that I fucked up everything...

[LifeChanges]

I think he's keeping you on the back burner in case what he's chasing after doesn't work out. Don't let this guy mess with your head. I would stay away from him.

[leo-kun]

/\ this was exactly what i thought after i tried to get back and also what was actually happening. He had a lot of time to get other people, and he can have nearly anyone he wants. That's why i'm so like WTF does he want. Should i delete him and break all contact?

[LifeChanges]

If you think you're strong enough to play his game and want to keep him around just for the hell of it? Keep him around. If you're soft hearted and fall in love easily and think you might like this guy, don't. Don't burn bridges that don't need to be burned. But, if you can't see him for what he is and he gets to you, cut him lose.

EDIT: Sorry, I feel like I need to clarify what I just said. Sometimes I can be a little cut-throat and callous. If you're strong enough to keep him around now you may benefit from it sometime down the road. How you'll benefit, I have no idea. By keeping him around you get the chance to meet new people who may be good individuals. Just because he may be a bad apple doesn't mean all the people he hangs around will be. And maybe later on he'll realize that he really does like you and may chase you and court you, and give you all the romance and love you need. You never know. For now, I would keep him at arms length until you get a good read on him. It all depends on what you want out of this.

[leo-kun]

Well LifeChanges I'm absolutely thankful for your advice and insight. I thought about what you said and judged well before taking any decision.
I didn't burn the bridge between us and it turns out that he's there but we don't talk, even though we say hi sometimes. I hate this and I wish I could just erase him from my life. However, if I ever break all contact with him I'll regret it because in the end I'm hoping that he'll come back. And I'll end up wondering what could have happened if I hadn't done that.
All I can do now is pray that someone will ever come into my life and change my focus.

[sayuri]

Its completely obvious that this guy is putting you on the back burner and/or toying with your emotions. So my question to you is: What is it that you want in this guy that you absolutely cannot find in another??? And also are you willing to let him keep toying with you? ( I know its two questions but still) Ask yourself these questions and go with what you feel is right. Hope it helps!