my fiance wont kiss me anymore

[jamie727]

've been with my fiance for 3 years now
We are in a stressful situation so I repel like this might be why but
Lately he's been very distant wen it comes to affection
He doesn't kiss me anymore besides a small Peck on my cheek/lips
N only wen I ask him n whenever we have sex its like he only pleases himeself
There's no foreplay he doesn't even care if im even horny n he doesn't look at me
N he loves it wen I go down but never wants to return the favor I feel very used
He doesn't hug me or hold my hand unless I make the move n even then hell reject it sometimes
He turns away or pushes me away wen try n kiss him i evej had a dream once that we were tounge kissing but his tongue hurt like it was hot n had barbs
We used to be very affectionate n had our makeout sessions n PDA
Way do you guys get out of this or how can I fix this

[Guardian7347]

Define "stressful situation", because there's more to the story that you're not sharing.

[Vulcanoid]

Are you sure you did nothing to make him feel this way? Maybe he's jealous because he saw you flirt, maybe he has an affair, maybe he thinks you cheat on him, maybe he's sick.
Tell us more, so we can help.

[jamie727]

Since the beginning of the relationship
Major stressors we're long distance relationship naves back to my town after 2yr of togetherness
I get pregnant then have a misscarridge then he leaves again
Then we live together at my parents house (he keeps house hopping from family to family
His mom never really has him) we move out I he starts being rude to me blames me for everything m I. Feel like he takes his anger out on me he's jot affectionate or caring anymore and I ask him wats wrong n he pushes me away so I give him space but I start feeling like he doesn't love me anymore n yes just staying with me because of our investment in the relationship so I try k n break up with him but I can't cuz I still love him n if he's willing to work things out then I will too things work out for a while then we go back to being distant. He loses his job so we move in with friends but he's not happy abt it then we change roommates n more problems oh im also pregnant 6 months ....new roommates gone so now we have to move back with my parents so we can afford to go to school... which he's very unhappy abt ... that's wats been going on :/

[JessicaBunny]

thing that stood out to me was the " i had a miscarriage and he leaves " part. now you are pregnant again, so maybe he feels he has to stay because of that but he doesn't really want to, so he is angry at you. . . is he happy about the baby?

[jamie727]

sry i wrote it all rushed it sounds bad wen its put that way
i had a miscarridge then we told my parents n he told his gaurdians n they kicked him out
so he had to move outta state to live with his aunt n uncle
hes actually excited abt the baby n he cried wen i had my miscarrige

[Guardian7347]

So.....are you long-distance or are you living together right now? I'm sorry, I'm getting the main elements here, but I have no idea of how they're pieced together. If I'm following your rather twisted timeline, you're currently living together, but are being forced to move in with your parents in order to afford going to school. You previously had a miscarriage, and you're pregnant now. You're bf is happy about the baby, but not so happy about moving, being unemployed, or your previous roommates. The relationship is stressed out and you feel as though he's taking all his frustrations out on you. What is it that he blames you for? Is he simply over-reacting to things you actually did or didn't do, or is he blaming you for things that you had no way of having influence over?

[sayuri]

Maybe the relationship has just died? I dont mean to sound mean but maybe he feels the relationship has died but doesnt know how to tell you, plus with the baby he might feel that he has to stay in the relationship even though he doesnt want to be in a relationship with you.

[VenusInChains]

Some men can put a lot of blame on their partner after they miscarrige, so instead of talking to you about how he feels it's just easier to distance himself from you. If you guys want things to work out, you really need to talk to each other. Tell him that you miss his hugs and kisses. Bringing a child into this situation isn't going to repair anything between you guys, if anything it's gonna create more distance between you. You wont have the time for him and when you do, you will be too tired and want to catch up on sleep.

[jamie727]

Sorry for confusing you guys :/
We livE together now with my parents n were both working
He recently got hired n were both tryna go to school
When I tried to break up he begged me to stay with him convincing me that were like this due to stress n we can fix this together n I did want to stay with him but then he says he may never be able to trust me or give his all for me again cuz he's afraid I'll try n leave him again n he can't take another heartache
Most of the time its our fault cuz we make choices together but like when we couldn't afford to live on our own it was either go with his mom to another state or were she's not gonna help us financially or move in with my friends
I asked him wat he wants to do n he's like "idk it's up to you,i dont think wed be okay with your friends but i dont wanna do wat my mom wants" but now he blames me saying it was my choice only n it's all my fault we got screwed over so wat was I supposed to do?!?!

[sayuri]

You could talk to him ya know :3 Maybe try that first

[tamperproof]

Life is hard enough without carrying someone else's baggage. You are PERFECTLY you. You are not responsible for managing his anger. That is his job. Until he accepts responsibility for his reactions to stressful events, then you will always be blamed. Time for him to put on his big boy panties and grow up. For the sake of your child...time for you to grow up to. Look inside yourself for acceptance, assurance, encouragement, praise. Trying to get it from someone else is risky business. Focusing on your dreams and aspirations will make you a better person and a better mother. Give your boyfriend the space he needs to grow up by not accepting poor treatment. If he can't treat you well, chances are that he won't treat your child well.