dated a guy for three weeks. cant get over him. HELP

[MySassy]

I will say right now i think he is the one... its been three years... since i first started crushing and one an a half since we broke up... The sad thing is i dident even know it had happened... until it was too late. i was and still am so deeply in love its crazy. you know taylor swifts song enchanted? well... thats how i feel... buzzing and alive... filled with... blushing wonder.... moments where i could sware there were stars around him. now... i sit and i wonder.... where could it have gone if his mom had never found out. if he wasent such a mamas boy... I really love him. I skipped his graduation because i knew i would cry... he texts me after... says it was nice... missed you though, but nothing is perfect. - idont know what to do now. yesterday i stood outside in a hail storm just to feel something other than saddness, fear, love, and heartache. its raining now... another reminder of what i have suppressed inside. I am trapped in my own skin... trappped... by lard... and tears. I have been getting more impulsive and loosing weight... like... i just got a kitten today. and i really... really just think... i need help.,.. just someone help

[Vulcanoid]

Chances are he is your first love interest, right?
So let me break this so i know what's up:
Correct me if I'm wrong.

> You dated him 3 weeks
> It happened 1.5 years ago (since you broke up with him)
> 3 years since you started having a crush (on him probably)
> Him mom found out so he dumped you (probably because of his mom)
> How old are you and him? (I'm guessing around 16-18)
> Now you are extremely unhappy (again, 1.5 years since you broke up)
> You can't get over him, at all.

To me it seems like you need someone to talk to, about anything and everything, no holding back. I'll spare you and won't state the obvious (I'll let someone else do that)

[MySassy]

we broke up after three weeks, and it wasent even a real break up... anyway- he wasent my first... about my fourth actually, and im 19. i dont understand your advice...

[Justified]

Who chose to break up, you, him or mutual? Are the issues that broke you,( I see you mentioned his mother, is that a big problem for you both?) too big to fix? What did you name your kitten?

[MySassy]

shes a huge isue but we both love her... shs just stupid. he did... well... he chose it letting me know and making me say it. I was his first girlfriend, and me ive liked guys before and i always act on it... im very bold... River Song Sky Josephine is her name... its a stupid tradition i have to name my pets really long names... my dog is maximus decimus maridius richtoffen franics. so... lol The issues... well one is physical... im slightly overweight, and he is built, another is his mother, one has to do with a secret i told him... i dont now if he can get over it... and see me as me anymore. plus i was so assertive... i think it may have beena bit much... but i was younger and immature.

[karleewashere]

i mean, i'm no expert but he probably had something that no other guy had given you. Have you dated anyone since? I'm 95% sure if you find another guy and have a relationship, you'll wonder why you were so crazed about the other one in the first place.

[sayuri]

Perhaps you sohuld try to date others?? Then after dating them, see if you still have the spark for him?

[Intuitive dreamer]

I understand what your going through completely. I met a guy this summer after my best friend had passed away in March and we started out friends I never thought anything of it until I got out of a previous relationship I was in. He always liked me and turned girls down left and right because of me. When we finally started dating which only lasted a month the connection was so strong it was mind blowing. He was an alcohalic and ended up not being able to handle comfrontation due to lack of maturity and being a "momma's boy". I broke up with him because I was becoming more emotional and he couldn't seem to handle it. There was a lot of drama with his mother afterward and I cut complete contact with his whole family due to his mother threatening me. A month later he rang my buzzer and wanted to talk and we ended up gettting back together for 2 weeks but had to keep it a secret from everyone. I didn't want a relationship I had to keep secret and told him I couldn't handle it and cut contact with him without notice. I was too hurt at how he treated me in the end and how dramatic his family was. I found out today he moved back to his hometown across the country and cried. I feel like I can't move on and its a horrible feeling. Sorry this was so long winded I just want you to know I feel for you and know what your going through.