attachments

[PaddyMac93]

Watched an episode of the bill today, some woman who was experiencing really bad mental health problems had grown attached with one of the police officers and the officer wasnt happy about it.

Got me thinking, is it normal to grow attached to people you've opened up with/shared emotions?
Like, when I was in school, I went through a bad patch and I opened up to two of my teachers who then helped me out. I grew really attached with these two people and grew an obsession with only one of them. I wanted to be near them every single day. I wanted to live with them, but there was nothing sexual about it. I didnt want to marry them or have their kids, I just wanted to be near them like an over the top obsessive best friend. I used to get hugs of them as well. It was so weird!

Anyways, I seem to have grown another attachment with the recent person I opened up to because again, im going through a bad patch. I want to spend every minute of every day with them and just chat a load of crap! I dont get hugs of this one though, so I didnt think I'd end up getting attached, but yet again - nothing sexual in it at all!

Its weird though, cause these people i grow attached with are more than twenty years older than me. Just wondering if thats normal? I mean, I dont have that obsession with anybody else.

[Vulcanoid]

I find this interesting that only girls happen to experience those "moments". edit: i assume you're a girl.

edit #2: How old are you?

I have yet to see/hear a guy with such.... umm... issues (it's not an issue, i couldn't find a better word )

It's also that the human brain is programmed to recognize patterns. You saw that movie and remembered what happened to your teachers, because it happened to YOU. You immediately thought it might be some mental issue or whatever your thoughts was.

My advice, don't pay too much attention to it. Just live your life without stressing about every minor detail. You grew attached with someone. So what?

[PaddyMac93]

Im a girl and im 19.

Ive only ever seen it once with a guy, but he was having problems at home, which i think is why he grew attached to someone else.
Strange what the mind does!

[paulo]

you could try to be more self reliant and then when you develop a new friendship it wont be so obsessive because you can help yourself, i used to get very needy with others and this tended to chase them away (because its a bit creepy)
be your own best friend